I'm a hopeless romantic.

[Zephyr]

I have a tendency to fall in love way too easily. I actually hate most girls in my area. They seem way to shallow and not too bright either. When one comes along that actually has some sense though, I just fall for her. This always seems to go wrong somewhere along the line. The girls I ever end up liking are always either a lesbian, crazy, or really shy (which is pretty cute, but can make things troublesome) and every guy either is already taken or just doesn't fit my standards. Sometimes I wish I could just cut that chunk of me out. Does anyone else have this sort of problem?

 

[Solon]

It's so easy to fall in love; and out again. I'm not sure, I fancy many girls, but falling in love at first sight, only happened to me twice. But lust, I lust after all of the sweet and attractive ones.

 

[Zephyr]

It's so easy to fall in love; and out again. I'm not sure, I fancy many girls, but falling in love at first sight, only happened to me twice. But lust, I lust after all of the sweet and attractive ones.

I actually generally stay away from the gals that all of the other guys seem to like. They always seem to acted like sluts. I know this can't be true for all of them, but I tend to avoid people because of it.

 

[Fluffy]

Yes I hate doing that. My problem is that I tend to focus soley on the best aspects of my partner, ignore or excuse their faults, and sort of create a perfect image of them in my head that isn't congruent with reality. Then I get badly hurt when reality catches up with me.

Stopped dating for nearly 2 years now (god thats a depressing thought lol ) for this very reason. Now it seems to have gone the other way. I can't connect with anybody at all. Sometimes I can sort of have a memory of a memory if you know what I mean but its only a glimmer. Maybe my standards have got a lot higher or something.

 

[Solon]

Well, it is best to stay away from the really attractive ones, for one thing, you can never be sure if they like you, or as I've found out later, you got used, like to make an ex jealous. I wouldn't worry too much about not dating, I've found that it is cyclic, you get spells where you can't go wrong, and spells where you find yourself in a drought. At the moment, I'm in a drought , when it will end, I have no idea until the moment, you just click with someone.

 

[Fluffy]

I hope you are right about it being just a spell. Its lonely being single and surrounded by couples.

I tend to only notice physical attraction at a late stage in the dating 'process' (argh I've become so cynical lol!!). Sometimes I never do.

 

[Solon]

Ummm, speaking from experience I believe I'm right, I'm hoping I'm right... Physical Attraction is the first thing I notice. You know, if you don't really fancy somebody, there's no spark, no spark, no fire. Look at it like this, women make the running, if a girl really fancies you, she'll make it obvious, and once you pick up on that, you can't fall off. If she's hard to play, move on and don't waste time. If there's no attraction, no amount of clever talk will change things. It's all in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes, by some means, it's a mutual thing.

 

[Aqualung]

I have a tendency to fall in love way too easily. I actually hate most girls in my area. They seem way to shallow and not too bright either. When one comes along that actually has some sense though, I just fall for her. This always seems to go wrong somewhere along the line. The girls I ever end up liking are always either a lesbian, crazy, or really shy (which is pretty cute, but can make things troublesome) and every guy either is already taken or just doesn't fit my standards. Sometimes I wish I could just cut that chunk of me out. Does anyone else have this sort of problem?

Sort of. I have a problem with girls (in a non-sexual way). I can't be friends with girls because, as you say, most are way too shallow and not too bright, either. As for guys, I tend to fall for the eccentric ones. I really want a husband who's a bit crazy like me, smart, and with whom I can raise eccentric kids. They're all taken, too.

 

[standing_on_one_foot]

I don't hate most girls (I tend to like most people though, unless they're extremely annoying), but I find I don't like-like most either. I usually have to know someone at least a little before I like her (I can admire someone I find attractive, but I wouldn't want to go out with 'em, sort of thing). I do sometimes wish I could get rid of that part of myself. Every now and then it really seems more trouble that it's worth. Dating sucks when you're a teenager and gender ambiguous, so I've pretty much avoided it (heh, I make it sound like a choice). I know the girl I like wouldn't be comfortable in a dating relationship with yours truly, but that's not so bad (only occasionally frustrating); we're good friends and it's a fine relationship as it is. Plus, I'm off to college soon. That should be interesting...

Mostly I figure it'll all work out alright in the end.

 

[Bishka]

I wasn't very good at attracting guys, I'd always try to go to fast, or they just felt plain sorry for me(I hated that the most), but it all worked out in the end.

 

[michel]

I have a tendency to fall in love way too easily. I actually hate most girls in my area. They seem way to shallow and not too bright either. When one comes along that actually has some sense though, I just fall for her. This always seems to go wrong somewhere along the line. The girls I ever end up liking are always either a lesbian, crazy, or really shy (which is pretty cute, but can make things troublesome) and every guy either is already taken or just doesn't fit my standards. Sometimes I wish I could just cut that chunk of me out. Does anyone else have this sort of problem?

A hopeless romantic ?....hmm

I guess I am a hopeless romantic. I was definitely born in the wrong century. I think the early Victorian days would have suited my romantic temperament much more so than the days in which I became a man.

The sixties were all about "free love".

I often think that that was a total misnomer. At that time, men bought women drinks in a bar, men paid for meals, and it would never occur to a cigarette smoking girl to carry cigarettes on her - she expected the 'date' to have some with him.

Now, I'm the kinda guy who would never let them down........(sorry went off into Beach boys song then), where was I ah, I'm the kinda guy who enjou=yed the process of 'wooing' a girl. I enjoyed every minute of the mental unification of two souls; and was Love free - nah. You had to take the girl out, spend a fortune on her, lavish her with drinks and cigarettes all night, and she would then accept to be used as a physical object, for sexual gratification. I am not saying all girls were like that; unfortunately most of the ones I met were.

Being a gentleman, I never did 'oblige' on a first date.....nor on quite a few subsequent ones for that.

Had the girls known that part of that was due to shyness, due to the fact that I had been esconsed in an all male environment for ten years, and had not a clue about the anatomy of women (except that they were bigger than we boys 'on top'), they might have laughed. Instead I was seen as a homosexual who felt more confortable in the company of one woman, rather than in the company of many men. (actually, that last point was true I have never been, nor ever will be 'one of the lads'.

This continued for a while, while I aged, and girls became younger.............

I then was perceived as 'Uncle Michel' with a darned good shoulder to cry on, and as a father confessor type. I didn't mind that ; I have always loved listening to people's problems and trying to help them out, but the mere 'image' of being 'Uncle Michel' was such that I could not usurp it by becomming romantically involved with these girls. Some of whom, I can assure you, I was proud to have by my side.

I then fell for a girl (who was in an 'off' phase of her 'off and on engagement'), and the best way I can describe romance is the memory of taking her home one evening (it was midwinter, and damned cold).

As she saw me off on the dorset she kissed me.

Well, I wasn't really ready for thast; it was a veryt 'chaste' and romantic kiss.

To say that the memory of that kiss was one ca[tured in time would be an understament; I dropped her off at her front door at ten o'clock (as per her parents' standing orders), and we kissed.
It felt like two years later that I drove off, but in reality the two of us had stood there for at least hald an hour, shivering, with nothing but this immense rosy glow of emotion between us.

That was romance. An unadulterated, simple and a pure exchange of emotions - nothing of the gory physical in there whatsoever. The same way that when she was invited by my parents to come over for the night, one new year's eve. She had a dreadful cold.

From my bedroom, I could hear her dry cough, incessant. I got up, in the end, and timidly knocked on the door of the room she was in. Well, she wasn't wearing anything much; my inmaginative powers could have been totally unused, but I made her some hot lemon with lashings of honey, and sat next to her bed the whole night, holding hands.

Today, I still wonder what my Parents had thought went on that night.

That was romance.

I am still the same, but i have to focus romance on poetry, literature, music (the number of pieces of music that turn on my tear ducts is alarming)..............

But hey, who ever tried to say I was 'normal' ? :biglaugh: