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I'm living in hell.

Saint Frankenstein

Here for the ride
Premium Member
I'm trying to keep it together, but it's really hard for me. See, I'm living in a really awful situation. The place I'm at should be condemned, really. It has a severe bed bug and roach infestation. They're everywhere - in the fridge, the microwave, electronics, etc. They've ruined appliances. They're driving me insane. The bed bugs have ruined my skin, with all the scratching, itching, cuts, welts, etc. from the bites. Sometimes they even go in my ear when I'm asleep. (I sleep on a filthy bloodstained mattress and comforter, that's on the floor.) There's also mice, but they're the lesser of the pest problem right now.

The plumbing is all screwed up. Only hot water goes to the second floor so the toilet is full of hot water. The showerhead doesn't work and the bathtub is filthy, so I haven't been able to take a shower since I've moved in. (I wash myself the best I can at the kitchen sink.)The toilet is all ****ed up and is close to completely breaking.

There's a huge hole in the kitchen ceiling where they opened it up last year to get to the water lines. That hole hasn't been closed.

The floor is ruined. It was messed up before my mom and I came here. The bathroom floor and the kitchen floor needs to be completely replaced.

Many of the windows are broken. There's no insulation on the doors, so when it's cold, it's freezing.

I don't have a washer or dryer so I have to hand wash everything, which really just results in a huge pile of dirty clothes because I can't wash all of those in the same session.

The backyard is a huge mess because of the people who used to live next door. There's trash strewn all over the place, bottles and cans, broken furniture, etc. from when the slumlord who owns this place pays random idiots under the table to do crappy patch up jobs and throw the previous tenant's stuff they left behind out. They literally just throw the furniture out into the backyard and it's left out there until the garbagemen decide to get rid of it or a neighbor complains.

I don't have a lease and I'm not paying rent, since the owner never fixed this place like he was supposed to. My mom and I were tricked into moving in here because we were being evicted from another place and the crooked property manager there offered us this place. It sounded nice and didn't seem all that bad when he showed it to us. We knew it needed some work, and he said he would fix all of it. But he didn't. He lied to us.

When we moved in, there was no heat. This was in late November of 2014. It was literally freezing in this place. We had to hole up in one of the bedrooms with two space heaters, so that we wouldn't freeze to death. The tank of the toilet, when we had first moved in, had busted in half from the water freezing. So we had no flushing toilet. (I'm not going to say what we did with the waste.) The pipes had all busted from freezing, too. (I also lost my pet fish because they died of temperature shock while we waited for the damn space heaters to warm up; my cat also ran away during the moving, he was smart, in retrospect.)

To top it all off, my mom passed away from an aggressive cancer in January. I have no friends or family to help me here. So I am all alone in this. I suffer from severe depression that is often suicidal. I am unemployed and my disability claim was rejected. This is definitely the lowest period of my life, and that's really saying something. I have a little bit of money, but that's not going to last long, so I need to get a job, which I plan to, somehow. I even have to pay for the water, and that bill is almost $300.

I have a case worker but, to be honest, she's not all that much help. She mostly just connects me to some resources, usually when I ask for them or bring up suggestions. I don't think she or anyone really realizes the hellish living situation I'm in.

I thought that maybe I could work something out with the owner of this dump. Like maybe fix this place up. But I don't know. I can't take it anymore. I might just move. But before I can move, I'm going to have to get an exterminator, which is another thing I know nothing about. It's either that, or just abandon all of my belongings and start over, because the bug infestations are very severe. I also have a Golden Retriever dog and most of the apartments aren't going to allow that. So I'm going to have to get him certified as an Emotional Support Animal before I move.

I don't really know what to do. I really want to report him and I want him to get into legal trouble for all the crooked **** he's doing. It's like living in a torture chamber. But if I do that, I might just be put out on the street, since I have nowhere to go at the moment. (Being out on the street might be better than this, actually. Lol.)

Does anyone have any advice? If you're going to be judgmental towards me - stuff it, because that's the last thing I need right now. I'm looking for advice.
 
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Godobeyer

the word "Islam" means "submission" to God
Premium Member
I'm trying to keep it together, but it's really hard for me. See, I'm living in a really awful situation. The place I'm at should be condemned, really. It has a severe bed bug and roach infestation. They're everywhere - in the fridge, the microwave, electronics, etc. They've ruined appliances. They're driving me insane. The bed bugs have ruined my skin, with all the scratching, itching, cuts, welts, etc. from the bites. Sometimes they even go in my ear when I'm asleep. (I sleep on a filthy bloodstained mattress and comforter, that's on the floor.) There's also mice, but they're the lesser of the pest problem right now.

The plumbing is all screwed up. Only hot water goes to the second floor so the toilet is full of hot water. The showerhead doesn't work and the bathtub is filthy, so I haven't been able to take a shower since I've moved in. (I wash myself the best I can at the kitchen sink.)The toilet is all ****ed up and is close to completely breaking.

There's a huge hole in the kitchen ceiling where they opened it up last year to get to the water lines. That hole hasn't been closed.

The floor is ruined. It was messed up before my mom and I came here. The bathroom floor and the kitchen floor needs to be completely replaced.

Many of the windows are broken. There's no insulation on the doors, so when it's cold, it's freezing.

I don't have a washer or dryer so I have to hand wash everything, which really just results in a huge pile of dirty clothes because I can't wash all of those in the same session.

The backyard is a huge mess because of the people who used to live next door. There's trash strewn all over the place, bottles and cans, broken furniture, etc. from when the slumlord who owns this place pays random idiots under the table to do crappy patch up jobs and throw the previous tenant's stuff they left behind out. They literally just throw the furniture out into the backyard and it's left out there until the garbagemen decide to get rid of it or a neighbor complains.

I don't have a lease and I'm not paying rent, since the owner never fixed this place like he was supposed to. My mom and I were tricked into moving in here because we were being evicted from another place and the crooked property manager there offered us this place. It sounded nice and didn't seem all that bad when he showed it to us. We knew it needed some work, and he said he would fix all of it. But he didn't. He lied to us.

When we moved in, there was no heat. This was in late November of 2014. It was literally freezing in this place. We had to hole up in one of the bedrooms with two space heaters, so that we wouldn't freeze to death. The tank of the toilet, when we had first moved in, had busted in half from the water freezing. So we had no flushing toilet. (I'm not going to say what we did with the waste.) The pipes had all busted from freezing, too. (I also lost my pet fish because they died of temperature shock while we waited for the damn space heaters to warm up; my cat also ran away during the moving, he was smart, in retrospect.)

To top it all off, my mom passed away from an aggressive cancer in January. I have no friends or family to help me here. So I am all alone in this. I suffer from severe depression that is often suicidal. I am unemployed and my disability claim was rejected. This is definitely the lowest period of my life, and that's really saying something. I have a little bit of money, but that's not going to last long, so I need to get a job, which I plan to, somehow. I even have to pay for the water, and that bill is almost $300.

I have a case worker but, to be honest, she's not all that much help. She mostly just connects me to some resources, usually when I ask for them or bring up suggestions. I don't think she or anyone really realizes the hellish living situation I'm in.

I thought that maybe I could work something out with the owner of this dump. Like maybe fix this place up. But I don't know. I can't take it anymore. I might just move. But before I can move, I'm going to have to get an exterminator, which is another thing I know nothing about. It's either that, or just abandon all of my belongings and start over, because the bug infestations are very severe. I also have a Golden Retriever dog and most of the apartments aren't going to allow that. So I'm going to have to get him certified as an Emotional Support Animal before I move.

I don't really know what to do. I really want to report him and I want him to get into legal trouble for all the crooked **** he's doing. It's like living in a torture chamber. But if I do that, I might just be put out on the street, since I have nowhere to go at the moment. (Being out on the street might be better than this, actually. Lol.)

Does anyone have any advice? If you're going to be judgmental towards me - stuff it, because that's the last thing I need right now. I'm looking for advice.
Sorry for you :)
Maybe you are living in expensive area , try to find other place in other states ,maybe in agriculture regions that will be more jobs.
 

Saint Frankenstein

Here for the ride
Premium Member
Sorry for you :)
Maybe you are living in expensive area , try to find other place in other states ,maybe in agriculture regions that will be more jobs.
Expensive area? I live in Ohio, in the hood. Move to other states? How? I don't have any way to leave the state.
 

sun rise

The world is on fire
Premium Member
I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. Since you asked for advice, I wish I had something simple and effective to recommend. But what you really need is an advocate who can help you come up with a detailed plan. For example, to help you file an appeal of your disability rejection. Since you live in Ohio now, http://www.disabilityrightsohio.org/advocacy-organizations has a list of many such organizations but that's as far as I know. I hope you can find what you need.
 

allfoak

Alchemist
@Saint Frankenstein

I hope this doesn't sound ridiculous...
Do what makes you feel good and don't do anything unless you already feel good.
In other words, do what is best for you and everything else will follow naturally.
 

AnnaCzereda

Active Member
The only help for you is to get a job. Any job. Even the hardest and the most ****ty one. Whatever you manage to find. Keep looking for a job. What else can anyone advise you? I'm sorry to hear about your mother.
 

Shadow Wolf

Certified People sTabber & Business Owner
Something I recently learned when it comes to disability claims, honesty is not the best policy. Seriously. Nearly everyone I know who gets some form of it can technically do some job out there somewhere, but when I say that to an attorney, they tell me my claim will be rejected just because of that, and they won't even help me. Not even with trying to find resources for getting somewhere that actually has jobs that won't require me to be on my feet all day. Even in my case for health insurance, my advocate had to step in for me because my "honesty" was steering me the wrong direction.
As for your slumlord, make sure you find some place to stay before reporting him, as the way it sounds if you do say anything it may have the building condemned. Save it as a "parting gift."
 

Saint Frankenstein

Here for the ride
Premium Member
Something I recently learned when it comes to disability claims, honesty is not the best policy. Seriously. Nearly everyone I know who gets some form of it can technically do some job out there somewhere, but when I say that to an attorney, they tell me my claim will be rejected just because of that, and they won't even help me. Not even with trying to find resources for getting somewhere that actually has jobs that won't require me to be on my feet all day. Even in my case for health insurance, my advocate had to step in for me because my "honesty" was steering me the wrong direction.
Yeah, it seems that to get anywhere in this ****ed up world, you need to do a bit or a lot of lying. Sickening the way society is set up. And it's hard for me, because I'm an honest person.
As for your slumlord, make sure you find some place to stay before reporting him, as the way it sounds if you do say anything it may have the building condemned. Save it as a "parting gift."
I've definitely thought of that. My case worker is trying to set up a meeting between us so we can maybe come up with a sort of deal. We'll see how it goes. I am going to report him, regardless, before I leave. This hell is his fault and I'm not letting him off the hook if I can help it. I can't leave anyway until an exterminator goes to town on these bugs, though. I'm going to pick the exterminator, too. If he does, it'll just be some hustler idiot from the hood that has no idea what they're doing. No, it's going to be the Orkin man.
 

idea

Question Everything
The only help for you is to get a job. Any job. Even the hardest and the most ****ty one. Whatever you manage to find. Keep looking for a job. What else can anyone advise you? I'm sorry to hear about your mother.

I second what Anna suggests - get a job. It will get your mind off of everything, give you the ability to live somewhere else. Work is a good thing.
 

Shadow Wolf

Certified People sTabber & Business Owner
I second what Anna suggests - get a job. It will get your mind off of everything, give you the ability to live somewhere else. Work is a good thing.
Except some of us, for various reasons, have a hard time finding work and/or holding a job down. Getting a job can help financially, but psychologically for many it just adds to the stress. I believe in the equal obligation of all to work and contribute, but "getting a job" is very highly over rated. It's not the key to success, it won't solve all of your problems, and it's far from being the inherently "ennobling" experience that we like to think it is.
In such a situation, it would be better to assess one's skills, and use those skills to make money for yourself rather than dealing with the stress of trying to find a job. Don't be a cog, be creative.
 

Rye_P

Deo Juvante
The only help for you is to get a job. Any job. Even the hardest and the most ****ty one. Whatever you manage to find.

+1
Well, it is hard for male to get a job, but I believe you can do something for that. Well, my friends once meet a same probs, and we as a friend, create a lot of copy of his cv, and go to door-to-door looking for any kind of job available. We aimed for an informal job since he didn't have a requirement for a formal job yet, but it started from the bottom tho. Somehow it worked, when we encounter this nice old man who give him a proper job and also provided a good place to stay (as a gardener). Maybe you can try the same method? .
 

idea

Question Everything

Here you go - free housing and a job -
https://roadtrippers.com/stories/ev...es-your-chance?lat=40.80972&lng=-96.67528&z=5

go hang out at a national park -
http://www.yellowstonenationalparklodges.com/careers/

There are jobs on cruise ships, and resorts that will house you, or if that is too adventurous, there are a lot of old people who need someone who can live with them and help take care of them...

There are a lot of options out there much better than sitting at home on welfare getting eaten by bed bugs!

Just sayin.... to each their own, do what you want, but don't expect others to take care of you - we all have to take care of ourselves.
 
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Thief

Rogue Theologian
I'm trying to keep it together, but it's really hard for me. See, I'm living in a really awful situation. The place I'm at should be condemned, really. It has a severe bed bug and roach infestation. They're everywhere - in the fridge, the microwave, electronics, etc. They've ruined appliances. They're driving me insane. The bed bugs have ruined my skin, with all the scratching, itching, cuts, welts, etc. from the bites. Sometimes they even go in my ear when I'm asleep. (I sleep on a filthy bloodstained mattress and comforter, that's on the floor.) There's also mice, but they're the lesser of the pest problem right now.

The plumbing is all screwed up. Only hot water goes to the second floor so the toilet is full of hot water. The showerhead doesn't work and the bathtub is filthy, so I haven't been able to take a shower since I've moved in. (I wash myself the best I can at the kitchen sink.)The toilet is all ****ed up and is close to completely breaking.

There's a huge hole in the kitchen ceiling where they opened it up last year to get to the water lines. That hole hasn't been closed.

The floor is ruined. It was messed up before my mom and I came here. The bathroom floor and the kitchen floor needs to be completely replaced.

Many of the windows are broken. There's no insulation on the doors, so when it's cold, it's freezing.

I don't have a washer or dryer so I have to hand wash everything, which really just results in a huge pile of dirty clothes because I can't wash all of those in the same session.

The backyard is a huge mess because of the people who used to live next door. There's trash strewn all over the place, bottles and cans, broken furniture, etc. from when the slumlord who owns this place pays random idiots under the table to do crappy patch up jobs and throw the previous tenant's stuff they left behind out. They literally just throw the furniture out into the backyard and it's left out there until the garbagemen decide to get rid of it or a neighbor complains.

I don't have a lease and I'm not paying rent, since the owner never fixed this place like he was supposed to. My mom and I were tricked into moving in here because we were being evicted from another place and the crooked property manager there offered us this place. It sounded nice and didn't seem all that bad when he showed it to us. We knew it needed some work, and he said he would fix all of it. But he didn't. He lied to us.

When we moved in, there was no heat. This was in late November of 2014. It was literally freezing in this place. We had to hole up in one of the bedrooms with two space heaters, so that we wouldn't freeze to death. The tank of the toilet, when we had first moved in, had busted in half from the water freezing. So we had no flushing toilet. (I'm not going to say what we did with the waste.) The pipes had all busted from freezing, too. (I also lost my pet fish because they died of temperature shock while we waited for the damn space heaters to warm up; my cat also ran away during the moving, he was smart, in retrospect.)

To top it all off, my mom passed away from an aggressive cancer in January. I have no friends or family to help me here. So I am all alone in this. I suffer from severe depression that is often suicidal. I am unemployed and my disability claim was rejected. This is definitely the lowest period of my life, and that's really saying something. I have a little bit of money, but that's not going to last long, so I need to get a job, which I plan to, somehow. I even have to pay for the water, and that bill is almost $300.

I have a case worker but, to be honest, she's not all that much help. She mostly just connects me to some resources, usually when I ask for them or bring up suggestions. I don't think she or anyone really realizes the hellish living situation I'm in.

I thought that maybe I could work something out with the owner of this dump. Like maybe fix this place up. But I don't know. I can't take it anymore. I might just move. But before I can move, I'm going to have to get an exterminator, which is another thing I know nothing about. It's either that, or just abandon all of my belongings and start over, because the bug infestations are very severe. I also have a Golden Retriever dog and most of the apartments aren't going to allow that. So I'm going to have to get him certified as an Emotional Support Animal before I move.

I don't really know what to do. I really want to report him and I want him to get into legal trouble for all the crooked **** he's doing. It's like living in a torture chamber. But if I do that, I might just be put out on the street, since I have nowhere to go at the moment. (Being out on the street might be better than this, actually. Lol.)

Does anyone have any advice? If you're going to be judgmental towards me - stuff it, because that's the last thing I need right now. I'm looking for advice.
maybe you could ask for help at the local catholic church.....

yeah I know....

but you need to get yourself in shape.....you gotta make a leap
 

roger1440

I do stuff
Are there any other government agencies that can help you out? Are you a veteran? If so there are veteran agencies that might be able to help. Maybe look into finding a roommate to help make ends meet. You can advertise on craigslist. Are there any help lines or crisis lines in your area? You do have a cell phone, right? If you move you might end up bringing the bed bugs with you. They are extremely difficult to get rid of.
 

Akivah

Well-Known Member
Does anyone have any advice? If you're going to be judgmental towards me - stuff it, because that's the last thing I need right now. I'm looking for advice.

What is your goal here?

Is your goal simply to live in a better place? Then your problem can be solved with money. Either get a job (or two) or utilize your skills to generate an income on your own.

Is your goal to move back to where you do have friends and family? Then your problem could be solved by contacting those people and asking for bus fare.

Whatever your goal is, it needs to be defined so that you can come up with a plan to meet that goal.
 

Saint Frankenstein

Here for the ride
Premium Member
What is your goal here?

Is your goal simply to live in a better place? Then your problem can be solved with money. Either get a job (or two) or utilize your skills to generate an income on your own.

Is your goal to move back to where you do have friends and family? Then your problem could be solved by contacting those people and asking for bus fare.

Whatever your goal is, it needs to be defined so that you can come up with a plan to meet that goal.
I'm looking for understanding and advice. I'm at the breaking point and I can't take anymore of this. I wish I were just dead. I do not have family, really. The only friends I have don't live in America. I'm alone. I don't really have people who care all that much about me. I am very upset right now because I cannot sleep due to the bugs crawling all over me and biting me. I cannot take this anymore and I don't really know what to do. I'm in a very difficult situation. I don't even know why I bothered making this thread or bringing it up at all. I guess I just wanted to put it out there, not that it really does much good.
 

Sakeenah

Well-Known Member
I'm looking for understanding and advice. I'm at the breaking point and I can't take anymore of this. I wish I were just dead. I do not have family, really. The only friends I have don't live in America. I'm alone. I don't really have people who care all that much about me. I am very upset right now because I cannot sleep due to the bugs crawling all over me and biting me. I cannot take this anymore and I don't really know what to do. I'm in a very difficult situation. I don't even know why I bothered making this thread or bringing it up at all. I guess I just wanted to put it out there, not that it really does much good.

Hi SF,

I can't give you any practical advise.But I just want to say you are stronger than you think..you've been through a lot.And if you need to talk we're here for you.
I pray things work out for you, and I wish you peace & happiness.
 

Demonslayer

Well-Known Member
I'm looking for understanding and advice. I'm at the breaking point and I can't take anymore of this. I wish I were just dead. I do not have family, really. The only friends I have don't live in America. I'm alone. I don't really have people who care all that much about me. I am very upset right now because I cannot sleep due to the bugs crawling all over me and biting me. I cannot take this anymore and I don't really know what to do. I'm in a very difficult situation. I don't even know why I bothered making this thread or bringing it up at all. I guess I just wanted to put it out there, not that it really does much good.

Holy moly Frankie, you're in a world of hurt. First things first, you can't keep sleeping in an infested bed. Nothing can improve in your life if you're literally sleeping in bugs. There are home remedies you can get on the cheap that can work. I have linked one here. You have to give it a try, strip the bed spray the living bananas out of it, get some new sheets and start from there.

That has to be step one. I mean really, no improvement of mood is going to happen until you can rest your head at night without being attacked my friggin' bugs. I can't even imagine.

Step two, a job yes, but I hate my job so I can't be as positive as others are that it will help pull you out of your considerable funk. I like the idea one of the other posters said about getting a job on a cruise ship or something. If what you say is true and you have no friends, no life, no connection to where you are, a full on, all out fresh start could be the thing. Just leave. Use the next week to research some kind of traveling job. Doesn't sound like you're making much now, so who cares if it's something minimum wage. Swabbing the deck on a cruise ship for crap money takes you out of your current situation and you can figure out the rest of life later on.

Do you have a car? A quick and easy way to turn around some cash is to become an Uber or Lyft driver. If you don't have a car you can lease one and pay for it through your earnings. You can work as much or as little as you want and it's super easy to get started. This you can do ANYWHERE, so change your latitude and do some driving for a living. I know people who have been laid off that started doing this and report making more money than they were making at their regular job. Bonus, if you lease a minivan you can live in the back in a pinch. Anything to GTFO of that bug infested depression-hole that is sucking the life out of you.

How about this...join the Peace Corps. They accept anyone and I think you get housing when you're traveling around. Breathe some air somewhere else. Help some people. It sounds like anything is better than where you're at, so really, what do you have to lose?

Just some ideas from an idiot. Hang in there Grumpy Gus. :(

http://ecoraiderusa.com/best-bed-bug-killer/
 
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