"Impressions" threads

[PoetPhilosopher]

I'm actually kind of torn on the proper way to answer threads where one RFer asks what others on RF think of them. Historically, RF members have seemed to take an approach of "going easy" on people who create such threads, in my opinion. I feel there are some positives to this approach.

On the other hand, as someone who has studied videos on critical thinking, I realize that when evaluating something, you're supposed to consider the good and the bad.

At the same time, I wonder whether it's best to apply this approach to people.

So whenever there's a thread asking what other RFers think of an RFer, I feel a mix of emotions. If I tell them they are doing perfectly and that I like them, it's not giving them a perspective which uses a critical thinking approach of weighing the good and the bad. But then if I use a critical thinking approach, I again actually feel like I did something wrong. It's kind of a matter of conscience.

 

[Yerda]

If someone is canvassing the opinion of the forum then they probly want a wee pat on the head and told they're a good boy/girl. Even if they wouldn't put it that way themselves. Sometimes we need a bit of reassurance.

 

[PoetPhilosopher]

If someone is canvassing the opinion of the forum then they probly want a wee pat on the head and told they're a good boy/girl. Even if they wouldn't put it that way themselves. Sometimes we need a bit of reassurance.

I see.

 

[PoetPhilosopher]

Sometimes, I'll get a little disappointed if I feel what the forum says about me, is different than what I sense the reality is. Even if what they say, is extremely positive.

 

[JustGeorge]

I don't ask what folks think of me. It would be nerve wracking. Plus, its too broad. Are we talking about my moral compass? Sense of humor? Housekeeping skills? That would take a deep analysis, and I wouldn't think someone I wasn't employing to would have that kind of time.

I might ask specifically "what did you think of this piece I wrote" or "what did you think of the cake I made". Narrows it down a bit.