The women I've met who complained about "too nice" guys can be sorted into two categories, I think.
The first category are those women complaining about guys that act "too nice", then expect to get laid for it. In other words, they're criticizing manipulative men.
The second category are those women complaining about guys who are naturally or genuinely nice guys. I've usually found out that these women were abused in one way or another while growing up. Not always, but usually.
I would think way more than those two categories exist. Then againf those are the only ones you recall to have encountered, well, those are the only ones you recal having encountered.
I personally dont have anything against nice people but I am genuinely bothered by people who are incapable of saying something ""Hurtful"" that would actually save a lot of pain if they have said it and the person had listened.
I ve noticed some people go to me for honest criticism. It happened to me yesterday matter of fact. I am happy about it. The people you can go to ask a question and get an honest answer from when it is about a talent or work of yours for example are regreatably very very few.
I remember when I was little and made drawings I went to my father and askd him how did he liked them. He looked at them and gave me a serious honest description of their strengths and weaknesses. I remember a common plus of them was described to be capturing expression sometimes in few traces while something he said I should test out was perspective.
When I asked my mother she said "Its really pretty!" and as much as she loves me and may be very proud of me, I could tell she not always meant it or at least it felt half staged.
That is why I prefer honesty to """tact""" . yes, my dad was picking at the flaws of the drawing of his 8 or 10 year old kid. That's exactly how I knew he took me seriously, and that's exactly how I learned to respect his opinion (I didnt always agree with it BTW) and did felt very respected because of this.
So when someone says someone is very "nice" I immidiately wonder if I can trust an honest feedback from them. Because sometimes honest people are labeled as "rude" for straight telling you the truth about something you asked for, or for genuinely concerning about you and telling you what concerns them.
So I learned at a very early age in which way "too nice" could be problematic.
I prefer too honest to too nice any day of the week.
Honest I can trust.