That is their perceived gender, but I do not have to subscribe to that fact if I BELIEVE they are not a man nor if they disclosed that their are transsexual I am not obligated to discount the fact that their assigned sex was male.
You already said they're not delusional, so why would you say that their "true" gender (with no qualifiers about that term being subjective to your point of view) is the gender that they're not showing you?
This is a complex issue regarding the biopsychological factor of transsexuality and yes there are a lot of research supporting the fact that perhaps their is some neurochemistry that occurs which effects the person's belief that they are essentially "in the wrong body." I have no doubt those who are transsexual believe they are born a "woman" or a "man" in the wrong assigned body. I accept people for who they are but that does not me I have to forgo my own beliefs despite what they believe.
You didn't call it a belief, you simply implied that they are not biological women. And you said that you don't believe they are delusional.
So how should a person look at what you said here and mentally organize it in a coherent way?
If we're talking about someone like the person in the OP that may have transition as far as possible, the person is legally, socially, and mostly biologically female, and the evidence shows that key aspects of their neurobiology were of their gender identity. What belief is there to go on here when we have facts to look at?
I was merely denoting the fact that despite financial safety there is really nothing safe about sex without pregnancy if the woman is infertile perhaps I wasn't clear.
Because dishonesty causes harm regardless whether one refuses to disclose an STD or their sexual origin, dishonesty is wrong. I will extend this further and say dishonest fidelity ergo, cheating also causes harm.
How does a trans person not disclosing their medical history to a casual sex partner harm them?
Does a woman who is 1/4th black cause harm to a racist man by not disclosing to him before hand that she has that ancestry?
Actually in response to me you used infertility as an example I'm merely responding to it. If you go back I never mentioned fertility in my response to this thread.
I quoted what you said. You said, "Besides, I want to have children." You didn't use the word fertility, but that's what you said, as though it's relevant here. So the point is, using the argument that in some cases trans people can't produce children with you is only relevant if you would hold an infertile non-trans woman to the same standard.
I don't see how not telling someone they were once a man is NOT dishonest.
Why would that be important?
So now the obligation is on the person to tell each woman that he does not like to sleep with transsexuals? Rich.
Sure, if you are the one that would get upset about the issue of invisible non-harmful information, shouldn't you take the responsibility of finding out that fact about your sexual partners?
You said earlier that you get hit on by trans women all the time. Apparently where you live it's a real possibility that you could sleep with a trans woman and not know it, so if that concerns you then maybe you should take responsibility for it and ask a person. And if you think it's offensive to ask someone that in most contexts, and I would agree, then you should consider why you think that would be offensive.
If I did that to each and every woman I've dated they would be offended.
So we should structure what we consider morally obligatory around your convenience rather than the trans person's?
Ugh. Casual sex is a type of relationship although not on the same plane as marriage and/or girlfriend boyfriend it is still some form of a relationship. Again, like any relationship the people set the parameters of that relationship. Some people want sex with no strings attached, some use sex to enhance a relationship. Unless the OP is talking about a one night stand....
The OP is pretty explicitly talking about a one night stand. The description says they met and then later that night had sex.
Eh, hence my usage of the word preference.
So shouldn't the one with the preference take responsibility for their preference?
Ok. You do realize transsexuality is an umbrella term so are you referring to the biopsychological model or are you referring to something else?
Actually transgender is the umbrella term, transsexual is more specific, which is why I used that term there.
If its something that encompasses the beliefs of a common group I don't see how it's not a lifestyle.
What beliefs?
It's not a religion, it's something there is professional biological and psychological literature on. There's not some unified transsexual lifestyle across cultures, ages, sexes, and countries. There's nothing about a person's lifestyle that would really have to change if they date a trans person, especially if the person can't even physically see any differences.