Your view of servant is how I see slavery. Different background and worldview.
If I am married, I am a friend to my spouse. There is no heirachy. This is with any marriage. Both partners should help
each other there is
no heirachy or one leveled authority in a marriage.
Likewise with parenthood. In my upbringing, we had authority and we also had freedom to serve without punishment (depending on if the action might set the houe on fire!) We were never grounded for anything. That is how I see a family, helping each other and being dependent on each other. Age, status, whatever, shouldn't have anything to do with it.
I have a coworker who treats her child ever sense he was young as an adult. She let him weighed consequences of his actions for himself and he became a better and insightful twelve year old boy because of it. She took out the common, stereotypical (and true in some parts of our culture) master/servant relationship that many African Americans have in their family with actually Mother and Child. They took out servant and replace it with, I dont know, help.
I would never be a servant to god. That is like my being a prisioner. No. I would
want to be with him. I rather have a relation-ship. So, our definitions are different.
I never understood "lean not on your own understandings/experiences". Id have to read the Bible in context again. Listening to some Christians who say it makes me cringe. Where do you think those undernstandings and experiences come from? If from God, then why not lean on them? If not, then some parts of you are not from God? Is this a metaphor?