Is Modesty Dead in America?

[whirlingmerc]

Just wondering if anyone sees the hedonistic uncouthness that I do?

There is a mix. I know some very modest girls. America is quite a mix

True some girls are not very modest about how they dress... to a degree modesty depends on the person and individual conscience.

Also in hot climates some people are used to wearing clothes that help them cool down but in general many girls in high school and college might be better served letting their inner beauty shine and a bit more fashionable modesty would be good

 

[Polymath257]

That is a rare sighting.
I would know.....I spot such things.

So do I...and I see plenty. Campus life is good!

But seriously, I am more bothered by someone trying to cover too much body with too little material than I am just showing the body. At least the latter is honest.

What is modesty anyway? If it is simply an attempt to be polite and not offend others, it is respectable to some extent. But that is very determined by the social situation. Don't wear a thing bikini to a funeral.

But if it is because of an opinion that the human body is ugly and should be hidden, I completely disagree.

If it is because there is a concern others will be 'tempted sexually', then those others have to learn how to control themselves and learn to live with others of different views. Sex is a part of life and should be celebrated, discussed, and enjoyed.

And if the idea is that there is something 'guilty' about certain parts of our bodies, all I can say is to get over yourself. Everyone here is naked under their clothes. If we were meant to be naked, we'd be born that way...oh.

 

[sun rise]

Yeah, the Brits always have been a bit up tight about showing skin.

Given the temperature and climate there, I think it's more a matter of adjusting to the realities of cool and rainy.

 

[Nakosis]

Basing that on those rascally scoundrels in Sweden?

Definitely...

 

[Nakosis]

I was thinking something similar...
With religions inspiring the masses, mankind runs amok.

Perhaps, but they run amok with their clothes on.

 

[metis]

For me, tight leggings that go right into the crack of a woman's butt is far too exhibitionistic.

Then maybe don't look at butts.

I guess the question would have to be what harm does that do to any of us? Much like some getting hung up on football players taking a knee in protest, whereas I asked those who are bothered by that as well much the same question, as long as no one is really hurt, what's the problem?

Ya, there are things I don't like to see as well, but if no one is harmed, se la vis.

 

[Twilight Hue]

 

[Twilight Hue]

There is a mix. I know some very modest girls. America is quite a mix

True some girls are not very modest about how they dress... to a degree modesty depends on the person and individual conscience.

Also in hot climates some people are used to wearing clothes that help them cool down but in general many girls in high school and college might be better served letting their inner beauty shine and a bit more fashionable modesty would be good

There are a lot of Indians in my area. The saree is entirely modest yet very very colorful and attractive to the eye.

Compliments women very nicely I think, and they look incredibly comfortable to wear.

It's an excellent mix of sexuality and modesty in Perfect Harmony and people won't have to cover up their kids eyes either.

 

[Holdasown]

Is the problem the dress seems to give the impression they are loose? How one might dress does not always represent their morals. I know people who dress sexy who are shy and not in any way promiscuous. Someone like Trump, Weinstein and Cosby all dress nice and modest. Seems that means jack all to their morals.

 

[Revoltingest]

Odd... I see women walking around in 'yoga pants' all the time.

While they're rather form fitting, they're not as bad as the OP described them.

 

[Revoltingest]

But seriously, I am more bothered by someone trying to cover too much body with too little material than I am just showing the body. At least the latter is honest.

Honesty v dishonesty?
I don't see it.

 

[lewisnotmiller]

Social media is a platform for conditioning the masses.
Like Pavlov's dog.

May more like a million dogs all conditioning each other

 

[whirlingmerc]

There are a lot of Indians in my area. The saree is entirely modest yet very very colorful and attractive to the eye.

Compliments women very nicely I think, and they look incredibly comfortable to wear.

It's an excellent mix of sexuality and modesty in Perfect Harmony and people won't have to cover up their kids eyes either.

I think women in high school and college should be more considerate of the guys and not so distracting in a classroom

 

[Sha'irullah]

Modesty is pretty important to me and especially for my wifey.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I think women in high school and college should be more considerate of the guys and not so distracting in a classroom

Why can't the guys mind their own business? Women aren't responsible for men.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

If you're still with me, I apologize, but recognizing that people act out, stick in the mud or become so different from the herd of the humanity, doesn't really mean that mankind has lost modesty, it just means we're getting old

Because you're only 2 years older than me, and I still do the goth thing, larp thing, and have no idea how to "act my age," you lost me at the "getting old" part.

 

[Ellen Brown]

There is a mix. I know some very modest girls. America is quite a mix

True some girls are not very modest about how they dress... to a degree modesty depends on the person and individual conscience.

Also in hot climates some people are used to wearing clothes that help them cool down but in general many girls in high school and college might be better served letting their inner beauty shine and a bit more fashionable modesty would be good

I have been in 107 Degrees F, wearing Abaya and Hijab and was comfortable.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I have been in 107 Degrees F, wearing Abaya and Hijab and was comfortable.

I've found that in the heat of California, with low humidity, wearing long sleeves isn't much.

 

[DanishCrow]

Because you're only 2 years older than me, and I still do the goth thing, larp thing, and have no idea how to "act my age," you lost me at the "getting old" part.

I jest, I jest Never lost my edge. I was trying to explain to OP that there isn't more hedonism around in this age, just that they forgot what it's like to be young.

 

[Valjean]

What does hedonism have to do with modesty?