I realize that you haven’t been giving straight answers to my questions. I didn’t realize that it was because we “are not even talking the same language.”
I've given you the only kind of answers I know how to give. I never intentionally refuse to give people straight answers. I do my level best, but when I say that we're not even talking the same language, I simply mean that I've run out of ways to try to express how I feel.
If you see this conversation as unpleasant or pointless, then don’t participate.
Great idea. I think I'll take you up on it.
The reason I keep on participate in discussions like this: I don’t want to give up on the religious. I’m holding out hope that the other person will tell me something that will let me say “yes, their position is rational. Maybe I don’t accept all the premises it’s founded on, but I can see that it does logically flow from them.”
Are you going to tell me that you seriously don't see why it would be offensive to religious people to hear you say that you "don't want to give up on [us]"? That is so condescending! You're still holding out hope that I'm possibly rational, but instead "not endowed with reason or understanding and lacking usual or normal mental clarity or coherence." (That's the dictionary definition of irrational.)
I have known you for just about as long as I've known anybody on this forum, and I've really tried to be forthright and honest with you in all of our discussions. You're telling me now that I don't give you straight answers, but that you don't want to give up on me anyway. Why can't you just accept the fact that I've tried and failed to express myself and that I'm getting frustrated, not to mention insulted.
... yet here you are, saying that this is the case. And not just you; belief in “souls” that persist after death is pretty common.
It's very common. There are a lot of us irrational folks wandering around, and yet managing to live full lives and not ending up institutionalized.
As I see it, I’m left with two options:
- just dismiss the idea as not just apparently ludicrous but actually ludicrous and let my opinion of religion and its adherents fall a few more notches. I don’t want to do that; in fact, at this point, the main reason I’m here on RF at all is to try to find a way to avoid contempt for religion.
- ask someone who seems to have put a lot of thought into her beliefs how she reconciled these beliefs against the reality we see and measure.
I really don’t get why you see this conversation as some sort of ordeal. I would have thought you would have been able to list off a few aspects of human beings that you thought resided in the soul and not in the body.
It's an ordeal to be told (basically every time we talk) that the conclusions I've come to are "not just apparently ludicrous but actually ludicrous" just because they can't be proven via the scientific method. So if you still can't figure out why I am through trying, I'm genuinely sorry, but I've done my best to explain.
One final thought: If I live to be 100, I'm never going to understand why you have "contempt for religion" in the first place. I can appreciate why you would have contempt for some of the things religious people do when their religions start controlling them. But other than that, there is nothing for you to have contempt for! I don't have contempt for atheism. I simply recognize that atheists don't see an divine component in our lives. I don't get all frustrated because the best they can do is say, "there's no proof of a God so I'm not going to believe in one." I don't feel the need to pressure them for an explanation beyond that, because I know that's the best they're going to be able to do.