I'm going to them and receiving more consolation. They are never to blame. God is the one who is at fault!
That is the reason people go to the saints is to understand god. People cry at saints feet because they maybe upset at god and don't know how to express it. That is literally what saints do. Think about it. When jesus was crucified and before he was resurrected, he told his disciples (and everyone else) to look to his mother. Some interpret that as look to the mother for advice about her son. It's a whole family unit. If a child is mad at his mother he may go secretly to consult himself with his father.
Like I said, though, unless you are looking for miracles, people poping from the sky, and caspher whispering in your ear, your conversation with god is within you. Your actions. Your being. He doesn't need to
talk to you because every time you are doing something he wants you to do (which scripture does provide some good deeds) he speaks to you through those deeds.
In my opinion, blaming god is like blaming yourself. If he created you, is in you, and what you do reflects him, then I'd say also learn more about yourself and you will learn about god. It's not confusing, really it just takes a
whole lot of discipline and patience to put the puzzle together. That, and you won't fit the puzzle together overnight. I live with people almost in their 100s and they are still working puzzles literally (literally) at the same time praising the lord and talking about christ.
I would never say you are not listening to him. I'd just say that there are different ways "god" speaks and if you are waiting for him to actually make a sound in your ear, I honestly feel you'd be waiting a life time.