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Grey Muzzle
Respect doesn't come at the snap of a belt or whip.
wa:do
wa:do
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Respect doesn't come at the snap of a belt or whip.
wa:do
What forms of physical discipline are not abusive?I resent blanket labels that ALL forms of physical discipline are abusive.
I doubt that he does, either.Dobson somewhere states that the goal is to break the will of the child, but not his spirit. I don't know what he means by that, however.
Dobson somewhere states that the goal is to break the will of the child, but not his spirit. I don't know what he means by that, however.
What forms of physical discipline are not abusive?
I don't consider a swift pop to the behind to be abusive.
I agree with you. My application was this: Let the punishment fit the crime. There are so many other more effective disciplinary actions in most instances. For instance, if a child steals something - making them confess this, return the item, or work to repay it makes more sense to me than hitting them.
Each child is different and what works for one may not work for the other. My youngest daughter responded very quickly to minimal discipline. My oldest one - well, I guess I could have beaten her to a pulp and she would have still been stubborn. I learned quickly that I had to come up with very creative ways to discipline her since a swift pop to the behind wouldn't have meant a thing to her. She would have just laughed that off.
What forms of physical discipline are not abusive?
Again Christian hypocrisy shows through.
The insecurity, the violent tendencies, the desire to overpower. Yet "Jesus" said that the meek will inherit the earth! Also shows that Christians do not "value human life" but think that children are property to be bossed around.
Christianity is a religion founded upon control, authoritarianism, and negative emotions.
Again Christian hypocrisy shows through.
The insecurity, the violent tendencies, the desire to overpower. Yet "Jesus" said that the meek will inherit the earth! Also shows that Christians do not "value human life" but think that children are property to be bossed around.
Christianity is a religion founded upon control, authoritarianism, and negative emotions.
I think James Dobson needs to watch a few episodes of Cesar Milan as "The Dog Whisperer." Then he'll get an idea of how to train a dog to happily submit without brute force. Milan has the same philosophy as Dobson as the importance of establishing who is the Alpha-Male, or pack leader, in the household. But Milan's methods are far from the means that Dobson suggests for those purposes. Beating a dog with a belt is something that Cesar Milan would never do.
I part ways with Dobson with his philosophy toward raising children. Our teenager is "at that age" where he thinks he knows it all, but he helps around the house, and we think he speaks respectfully to us. Out of all four of our kids, our second oldest probably is the only who would be considered "docile," and his actions probably preferred in a Dobson household with his quiet nature.
The attitude Dobson has toward infants has little in common with many new mothers (I breastfed exclusively, and I never thought my babies were "manipulating" me in any way).
Not all Christian parents feel that Dobson is correct, however. There is the attachment-parenting community that has mostly been lead by Dr. William Sears (a Christian), whose series of books based on his experience as a pediatrician and a father of eight kids has sort of been unofficially dubbed as the Bible of baby-care and child-rearing. One of my favorite books by him was always, "The Discpline Book" where he discusses at length age-appropriate measures for discipline that always ensures that respect goes both ways.
Peace,
Mystic
Within the same holy book that you'll find Jesus, you'll find a verse referring to the "rod". If we spare the rod, we spoil the child.
Now, now, let's not throw the baby out with the bathwater. The fact that Levitican law is immoral by modern standards does not reduce the Bible to worthlessness.So we're left with two choices; either the bible is garbage to be tossed out the window, or selling children as slaves is perfectly acceptable, and only disgusting subhumans pick the latter option.
The bible also talks about selling your own daughter into slavery. Going to take yours to the auction block?
So we're left with two choices; either the bible is garbage to be tossed out the window, or selling children as slaves is perfectly acceptable, and only disgusting subhumans pick the latter option.
I don't either, really. I don't care for it, though.I don't consider a swift pop to the behind to be abusive.
Now, now, let's not throw the baby out with the bathwater. The fact that Levitican law is immoral by modern standards does not reduce the Bible to worthlessness.