Just like Alexander....

[Melody]

I'm having a horrible, no good, very bad day. That will only make sense probably to the parents who've had to read this to their kids.

My middle son just called to tell me that he had definitely decided to drop out of college (with 2 semesters to go!) and join the army. I knew he had taken the ASVAP and placed high enough to have his choice of training (Please God let him choose something that will keep him out of Iraq), but was hoping he would see that one more year in college (as much as he hates it) is not a long time.

He finished his junior year and decided he really didn't want to be a lawyer and isn't sure what he wants to do instead. After months, apparently, of checking out his options, (and getting a birds eye view of what the job market is like without a college degree) this was his final choice.

I just want to sit down and cry. Oh wait. I already have. Now I have 3 days to get myself together and convince myself to keep my mouth shut before he comes home for the weekend.

Whoever said, the hardest part of your job was over when they became adults, lied.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

That is a tough story.

Forgetting the army part. if he just dropped out at this stage that would be something of a disaster to most people.
But after his service ends he should be older and wiser. Here in the UK ,exservice men usuall take the opportunity to train in another area, or go back to college. You may even find vetrans get help.
Young men have a will of their own, and must be allowed to make their own mistakes. You will find you are a safe port in a storm for him. and from time to time he will rely on it.
Have Faith and hope. and May God Bless you all.

Terry
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Blessed are the merciful, mercy shall be shown unto them.

 

[michel]

I agree with Terry;

I know it will be hard for you not to react this week end; you cannot help thinking that your son should do 'the sensible' thing - as you see it.

As you know, if you try to stand in his way, it will make him more intent - and he might resent you - you could end up not seeing him again - it has happened. The only thing that you can say to him is "I am not convinced that this is the best thing for you to do, but I will always support you in achieving what you want....". That way, you let him know a)That you care about his welfare, b) that you consider him mature enough to make up his own mind c)That you will always be there for him.

I don't envy you - I sit here and watch My wife go through these emotions on a daily basis.

I can only echo Terry's "Have Faith and hope. and May God Bless you all."

You are not the only one going through this ........not that that helps.

 

[Scuba Pete]

Mel,

I've got nothing to say, but will sit here and cry with you. My heart also aches at this move and he will be in my prayers.

 

[jimbob]

Remember though, at the end of the book, alexander feels a whole lot better, and we don't want you to move to australia You and your son are in my prayers.