LDS fascination

[danieldemol]

For some reason, I am fascinated with Latter Day Saints. I like parts of the religion, but don't like others. The thing I really like if they seem very family-oriented, moral and modest. Just clean-living folks. That appeals to me. But I can't agree with some of the doctrine and rules. I don't know why I keep looking into it. Help me sort this out.

Have you looked into the Community of Christ Church?

They are a group that branched out from the LDS early on and seem to have a bit more of a liberal approach which may be helpful to someone not having a 100% doctrinal interest in the LDS.

Also if its not too personal a question are you looking for someone who is "clean living" for the sake of finding a life partner or just for friendship?

If you are looking for a life partner you could probably try dating ex-LDS folk who fit the family oriented, moral and modest specification.

If you are just looking for someone to be friends with who doesn't drink or do drugs etc perhaps you could volunteer with Alcoholics Anonymous. Their support staff would probably be clean living folk.

In my opinion.

 

[Sand Dancer]

Have you looked into the Community of Christ Church?

They are a group that branched out from the LDS early on and seem to have a bit more of a liberal approach which may be helpful to someone not having a 100% doctrinal interest in the LDS.

Also if its not too personal a question are you looking for someone who is "clean living" for the sake of finding a life partner or just for friendship?

If you are looking for a life partner you could probably try dating ex-LDS folk who fit the family oriented, moral and modest specification.

If you are just looking for someone to be friends with who doesn't drink or do drugs etc perhaps you could volunteer with Alcoholics Anonymous. Their support staff would probably be clean living folk.

In my opinion.

Yes, I went to a service. Wow, no one came to talk to me. Plus they took away what I like about LDS churches and made it more like a protestant church, which I am not interested in.

I am not looking for anyone. I just like that they seem to live very healthy lives; don't cuss, get married and have kids before the risk of breast cancer goes up, don't drink or smoke, which is healthy for lungs and liver. Stuff that we used to do but don't really do much anymore. I have been married for over 32 years and am very happy. I know you didn't know, but it's not like I am looking for a partner. It's just a healthy lifestyle that's attractive. They seem clean cut and have fun without it being... unseemly.

 

[danieldemol]

Yes, I went to a service. Wow, no one came to talk to me. Plus they took away what I like about LDS churches and made it more like a protestant church, which I am not interested in.

I am not looking for anyone. I just like that they seem to live very healthy lives; don't cuss, get married and have kids before the risk of breast cancer goes up, don't drink or smoke, which is healthy for lungs and liver. Stuff that we used to do but don't really do much anymore. I have been married for over 32 years and am very happy. I know you didn't know, but it's not like I am looking for a partner. It's just a healthy lifestyle that's attractive. They seem clean cut and have fun without it being... unseemly.

Well I imagine you dont have to join to be friends with them, and if you are looking for friends for your children (if any) to play with who will provide that sort of peer influence i imagine the same goes for them.

In my opinion.

 

[Sand Dancer]

Well I imagine you dont have to join to be friends with them, and if you are looking for friends for your children (if any) to play with who will provide that sort of peer influence i imagine the same goes for them.

In my opinion.

Well, I had heard that they really generally hang with other LDS folks but I didn't think much of it. I had a neighbor that I thought was a good friend. Our kids were the same age and had play dates. We hung out pretty often. After quite a few years of being friends and inviting me to their church activities, which we went to, she had my husband and I over for dinner. She informed us at the last minute that, oh yeah, a couple of other friends were going to be there. They were missionaries. They presented the LDS gospel to us. After we said thanks but no thanks, my friend (the wife) and kid stopped coming over. After I asked about it after a few years of no contact, she said she was busy. Years after that I talked to her about wanting to join the church. All of a sudden I had a bunch of new church friends. I decided not to join about 2 weeks before my baptism date, and guess what, never heard from them, or these new friends, again. That hurt because I thought we were legitimate friends. Were we being "groomed" for years? I don't know but it's pretty suspicious.

 

[danieldemol]

Well, I had heard that they really generally hang with other LDS folks but I didn't think much of it. I had a neighbor that I thought was a good friend. Our kids were the same age and had play dates. We hung out pretty often. After quite a few years of being friends and inviting me to their church activities, which we went to, she had my husband and I over for dinner. She informed us at the last minute that, oh yeah, a couple of other friends were going to be there. They were missionaries. They presented the LDS gospel to us. After we said thanks but no thanks, my friend (the wife) and kid stopped coming over. After I asked about it after a few years of no contact, she said she was busy. Years after that I talked to her about wanting to join the church. All of a sudden I had a bunch of new church friends. I decided not to join about 2 weeks before my baptism date, and guess what, never heard from them, or these new friends, again. That hurt because I thought we were legitimate friends. Were we being "groomed" for years? I don't know but it's pretty suspicious.

I suppose if there is like an ex LDS group in your area you might find people who are culturally like the LDS but without the whole shunning thing, but I dont know how you would contact them considering they aren't likely to come door-knocking.

Or maybe there is like a facebook/instagram group you could either join or start that is centred on the culture but not LDS beliefs. Though if you do start a group I would specify the culture rather than labelling it LDS culture.

I admit I'm scraping the barrel on ideas here.

In my opinion.