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Lewisnotmiller's 'Watch out what you ask, I might just tell you...' thread

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ChristineM said:
What car do you drive?
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I drive a white Hyundai i-30 N-line sedan.
I treated myself with it late last year. Certainly not extravagant cost wise, but I really like it, and my old car was 10 years old.
Plus, this one seats 5, which is an advantage when one has three little uns.

Looks like this...
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Curious George said:
In what decision of your children were you most disappointed and why?
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Hey hey...there we go!!!
Tough question...

*ponders*

This will sound like a cop-out, but they haven't (yet) made any major life decisions I've been disappointed in. They're 14, 12 and 2, so there is still time of course...lol
I don't expect them to be perfect, either, and they generally do well at school, have nice friends, etc. I'm really pretty lucky.

But in the interests of an honest answer...
My eldest daughter struggles with self-confidence to a degree, and that can cause her to be a bit insular and look at things from her own point of view (only).
Most recent example of that which was less than ideal was that she was playing pretty low level basketball, and I was coaching her. She just plays for fun, and is in a team with a few friends, plus some other girls she knows through basketball.
We got a new girl into the team who was pretty painfully shy, perhaps even moreso than my daughter. Nice girl, but she'd joined the team later than the rest, and I think she felt like an outsider.

Trying to get 14 year old girls to integrate as the coach is a battle (of course I tried!) but the disappointing thing is that my daughter didn't go out of her way at all to try and make the girl feel welcome. She wasn't nasty to her, but she basically just ignored her. Which was her sitting in her comfort zone, and not putting herself in the other girl's shoes.

She should have had more empathy, as I know she would have struggled if the situations were reversed.
 
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lewisnotmiller said:
Hey hey...there we go!!!
Tough question...

*ponders*

This will sound like a cop-out, but they haven't (yet) made any major life decisions I've been disappointed in. They're 14, 12 and 2, so there is still time of course...lol
I don't expect them to be perfect, either, and they generally do well at school, have nice friends, etc. I'm really pretty lucky.

But in the interests of an honest answer...
My eldest daughter struggles with self-confidence to a degree, and that can cause her to be a bit insular and look at things from her own point of view (only).
Most recent example of that which was less than ideal was that she was playing pretty low level basketball, and I was coaching her. She just plays for fun, and is in a team with a few friends, plus some other girls she knows through basketball.
We got a new girl into the team who was pretty painfully shy, perhaps even moreso than my daughter. Nice girl, but she'd joined the team later than the rest, and I think she felt like an outsider.

Trying to get 14 year old girls to integrate as the coach is a battle (of course I tried!) but the disappointing thing is that my daughter didn't go out of her way at all to try and make the girl feel welcome. She wasn't nasty to her, but she basically just ignored her. Which was her sitting in her comfort zone, and not putting herself in the other girl's shoes.

She should have had more empathy, as I know she would have struggled if the situations were reversed.
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What actions from your children are you most proud of?
 
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lewisnotmiller said:
It's something I say to my daughter from time to time. Make sure you think through your question, because I'll give you the answer. Are you sure you want it though???

Ask away. Nothing is off limits, and I promise to be honest. And flawed. Mostly flawed, let's face it.
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If you could go back to your teens and change your life, would you?

Keep in mind that change probably would mean you wouldn't have the kid(s) you now have.(any change sets a new/different path)
 
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lewisnotmiller said:
It's something I say to my daughter from time to time. Make sure you think through your question, because I'll give you the answer. Are you sure you want it though???

Ask away. Nothing is off limits, and I promise to be honest. And flawed. Mostly flawed, let's face it.
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Is there any truth to this?
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lewisnotmiller said:
It's something I say to my daughter from time to time. Make sure you think through your question, because I'll give you the answer. Are you sure you want it though???

Ask away. Nothing is off limits, and I promise to be honest. And flawed. Mostly flawed, let's face it.
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If John hit Bill, then Bill hit Bob, then Bob hit John.. Are they all even?

Why or why not?
 
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JustGeorge said:
What habit do you have that you find often comes back to bite you in the butt?
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Procrastination.

It's never really bitten me in the butt too much, is the problem. Historically, I was able to punch out pretty good quality work very quickly compared to 'average' time required.
Because I was in a consulting role, work got assigned in hours. 40 hours to do this, 8 hours to do that. If I stuffed around for the first 50% of the time and smashed it out in the last 50%, it was fine.

However...I am now in a management role where work is generally deadline based. And it's entirely possible for me to have competing priorities which all have competing deadlines, and not enough time to do any of them. Any procrastination becomes an exercise in stress.
Further, I am soooooo busy these days with life (kids including a toddler, and basketball primarily) that making a decision like 'Meh, I'll just do some extra work tonight' becomes very difficult, and much less time than I would have had back in the day anyway.
 
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We Never Know said:
What actions from your children are you most proud of?
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They're good people. My eldest hides her light a bit, but I'm convinced she's going to be an awesome adult, and can see signs of it. My middle child, on the other hand, has somehow become one of those kids that other parents want around their kids. I regularly get unsolicited messages about her. Particularly that she manages to tread the line between being a leader, and being inclusive. It's reached the point where I get surprised when she acts her age, as she is just a very balanced kid.

And both of my eldest girls have wicked and warped senses of humour. I'm not sure if 'pride' is the right word for that, but certainly I think that will help them reach their potential as humans.

The little one is cute and funny, and whip-smart. But right now my main sense of pride is that she doesn't always poo in her nappy, and she seems to be nice to other little kids.
(as opposed to big kids and adults, who she orders around like no-ones business)
 
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We Never Know said:
Is there any truth to this?View attachment 73986
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Ha!

It's funny to watch foreigners the first time they see a legit Big Red Boomer.
Mostly at zoos, they'll see grey kangaroos, and even then they'll limit the amount of dominant males wandering freely.

Not that they're evil, or anything, but people think roos are gentle and live to be patted. Boomers aren't really like that, and they can do a lot of damage quickly if they decide they want to.

But no. We don't send roos to prisons. Our prisons are already full of snakes.
 
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