Losing expectation to others

[Spirit of Light]

Is it good or bad a person losing his/her expectation to other people?
As an example "I have lost all expectation in any situation to other people" ?

 

[JustGeorge]

Because I'm not totally sure what you mean here, I want to clarify

Do you mean you go into a situation(presumably with other people), but don't have any expectations of the people within it?

Like, you could go into a bar or restaurant, but not have any expectation that you will be treated courteously... or that you'll be treated discourteously. You have no expectation whatsoever.

Is this correct?

 

[Spirit of Light]

Because I'm not totally sure what you mean here, I want to clarify

Do you mean you go into a situation(presumably with other people), but don't have any expectations of the people within it?

Like, you could go into a bar or restaurant, but not have any expectation that you will be treated courteously... or that you'll be treated discourteously. You have no expectation whatsoever.

Is this correct?

Yes, that is how it starts to feel.

 

[JustGeorge]

Yes, that is how it starts to feel.

Yeah, I kinda dropped those expectations a while ago.

Though I do still have predictions, I'm not attached if they don't play out.

 

[Debater Slayer]

"Hope for the best but prepare for the worst" is a mantra I live by. You don't necessarily have to be pessimistic or have poor expectations, but to me, having no expectations is helpful a lot more often than not.

 

[Spirit of Light]

Yeah, I kinda dropped those expectations a while ago.

Though I do still have predictions, I'm not attached if they don't play out.

It is more like, I go somewhere and meet someone new, but no matter if this person has good or bad intention toward me, i don't hold any expectation of what they want.
If they ask for help, I help. But if they after i helped are not satisfied. I don't react to it.

 

[Spirit of Light]

"Hope for the best but prepare for the worst" is a mantra I live by. You don't necessarily have to be pessimistic or have poor expectations, but to me, having no expectations is helpful a lot more often than not.

I would not say i am pessimistic i just don't find it good or bad the way other people are.

 

[JustGeorge]

It is more like, I go somewhere and meet someone new, but no matter if this person has good or bad intention toward me, i don't hold any expectation of what they want.
If they ask for help, I help. But if they after i helped are not satisfied. I don't react to it.

Do you encounter a lot of people asking for help?

 

[Spirit of Light]

Do you encounter a lot of people asking for help?

Yes, people i have helped in the past spreading the word that I am a helper. So people do contact me

 

[Evangelicalhumanist]

Is it good or bad a person losing his/her expectation to other people?
As an example "I have lost all expectation in any situation to other people" ?

It seems to me impossible to have a workable society without having some expectations, both of ourselves and others.

 

[Spirit of Light]

It seems to me impossible to have a workable society without having some expectations, both of ourselves and others.

I don't think everyone will become like this

 

[Evangelicalhumanist]

I don't think everyone will become like this

No, that's true. But in fact, the majority of us actually are. Most of us consider those who are not to be rude or uncouth, and we generally ignore them. That is usually considered more polite than pointing, hissing and calling them names.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

There are the deeply rooted internal ones that just happen, and then there are the efforts to get over that.
How this plays out, for example someone can be nice and friendly to me. This will generally provoke uneasiness, especially if it's someone I don't really know. So then I have to tell myself to chill out amd that probably nothing is going to happen.

 

[Truth in love]

Is it good or bad a person losing his/her expectation to other people?
As an example "I have lost all expectation in any situation to other people" ?

It’s a balance. One the one hand if I expected people to bow and scrape as I walk by I’ll be sorely disappointed.

On the other hand if I don’t expect people to not rob me or assault me id stop going into public.

As a rule I’ve come to expect that most of my clients withhold some information at first and do a poor job communicating if they will miss an appointment. This is not always the case but pretty common. I expect that political persons lie like rugs. I’m open to a better experience, but rarely have it.

 

[stvdv]

As an example "I have lost all expectation in any situation to other people" ?

IF I would marry and we promised "till death do us part" THEN I expect us to keep our promise

IF someone calls me his best friend THEN I expect him not too lie nor cheat