Loving someone with different beliefs

[Mr Spinkles]

I've been asking some of my friends lately if they would ever go out with an atheist, a Muslim, a Hindu, etc., and to my surprise many of them have said no.

I honestly couldn't care less if a person is Pagan or Christian or whatever....you fall in love with the person, and I think people are defined more by how they act than what they believe. A fun-loving person with a great sense of humor remains so whether he/she believes in the transubstantiation or not.

If anything, a person's values are more important than their beliefs....if that makes sense. Anyway, just my opinion.

What's your take?

 

[Ceridwen018]

I've been asking some of my friends lately if they would ever go out with an atheist, a Muslim, a Hindu, etc., and to my surprise many of them have said no.

"So uh, I was wondering guys: would you ever go out with an atheist?"

"Nah man, that would be weird."

"Really? Hmmm, I see--interesting. Ok then, its safe to come out now, Abby!"

I completely agree with you, Spinkles my love. Its not about what a person believes, so much as how they treat themselves and other people, etc. I could have a successful relationship with someone of a different belief system, (and I do, with my girlfriends), as long as they aren't out to change me or me them.

 

[Sunstone]

I have to agree with you, Spinks, even though it greviously hurts me to agree with a Republican. I've actually been on both sides of this question. When I was younger, I thought that beliefs mattered much more than I do today. As I matured, I came to discover that they mattered less to me than what kind of person I was with. So, I tend to see your attitude towards Ceridwen and others you love as very mature. That is, extremely mature for a Republican.

 

[Scott1]

Spinks, if loving you is wrong.... I don't wanna be right!

 

[jewscout]

i don't see a problem w/ loving someone of another faith...

if i wanted to marry them and have children...well...that would be different...

 

[Lycan]

I am heathen and my boyfriend is christian..... we get along great!

 

[Melody]

If anything, a person's values are more important than their beliefs....if that makes sense. Anyway, just my opinion.

What's your take?

I agree. My husband is atheist and I'm Christian but our values are very similar.

 

[Pah]

I agree. My husband is atheist and I'm Christian but our values are very similar.

The more I read what Melody writes, the more I see what we have in common. Gail and I are in the same position.

 

[Lintu]

It's not always that easy. Sure, you can love whoever you fall in love with, but if you're a dedicated Orthodox Jew, and your possible future spouse is hardcore Catholic, there's bound to be some major problems. Loving someone and building a mutual future together are not always the same thing.

For instance, I couldn't marry someone who wanted to raise my kids something other than Jewish. So it's a good thing my fiance is totally cool with that =)