Thank you for sharing this. I do have some issues with what was said here.
“Gay parents "tend to be more motivated, more committed than heterosexual parents on average, because they chose to be parents," said Abbie Goldberg, a psychologist at Clark University in Massachusetts who researches gay and lesbian parenting. Gays and lesbians rarely become parents by accident, compared with an almost 50 percent accidental pregnancy rate among heterosexuals, Goldberg said. "That translates to greater commitment on average and more involvement."
This would not be an issue if people kept the commandments of God.
The same could be said of any adoptive parents who “chose” to become parents, not necessarily homosexuals.
Stressing the failings among heterosexuals is not a means to promote homosexuality.
“And while research indicates that kids of gay parents show few differences in achievement, mental health, social functioning and other measures, these kids may have the advantage of open-mindedness, tolerance and role models for equitable relationships, according to some research.”
This skews reality and is offensive.
A person believing that there is a God and that He has given specific commandments does not mean that that person is “closed-minded” or “intolerant” or is not a good role model for “equitable relationships”.
“The report didn't compare the adoption preferences of gay couples directly with those of heterosexual couples, said author David Brodzinsky, research director at the Institute and co-editor of "Adoption By Lesbians and Gay Men: A New Dimension of Family Diversity" (Oxford University Press, 2011). But research suggests that gays and lesbians are more likely than heterosexuals to adopt older, special-needs and minority children, he said.”
If the report did not compare adoption preferences, how can he claim that they are “more likely” to do anything?
“"These individuals feel like their perspectives on family, on gender, on sexuality have largely been enhanced by growing up with gay parents," Goldberg said.
One 33-year-old man with a lesbian mother told Goldberg, "I feel I'm a more open, well-rounded person for having been raised in a nontraditional family, and I think those that know me would agree. My mom opened me up to the positive impact of differences in people."”
“In a study published online Jan. 11, 2012, in the Journal of Marriage and Family, Goldberg interviewed another group of 49 teenagers and young adults with gay parents and found that not one of them rejected the right of gays and lesbians to marry. Most cited legal benefits as well as social acceptance.”
Can you see how this would be considered a problem for people who believe in moral absolutes and ideals for gender and family?
An entire generation of people are being taught to disregard God and His laws concerning; sex, marriage and the family and they claim that that is a “positive” thing.
All people parent differently. All people operate differently and react to situations differently. Is there some womanly way to react to situations that’s different from a manly reaction?
Generally, yes. Mothers tend to focus on “taking care” of their children, while fathers tend to focus more on “playing with” children. Mothers tend to be more protective, offering their children activities with less-risk while father tend to foster more independence in their children by allowing them to do more.
These things struck true to me when I was reading them because I see this in my family all the time. My wife and I have even gotten into arguments about these things. I would get upset because I felt that my wife wasn’t playing with my boys enough and she got upset because she felt that I was letting them get away with too much.
If you look into some of the studies I posted above (mainly the top link) they talk about how the children raised in two-parent-same-sex families fare just as well as children raised in two-parent-opposite-sex families. And all of those children fare better than those raised in single parent families.
True, two parents are better than one. Yet, a loving mother and father are the ideal.
The further we steer away from the ideal, the worse our condition will become.
What do you think those differences are?
Too many to reference really.
Just think of the differences between men and women. How they think and act. What they prioritize.
Think of your mother and father and how they handled different situations.
Growing up, my father would tell us so many stories of his childhood and about my aunts, uncles and grandparents. My mother, not so much until recently. She recently wrote a book about her life. You can get it on amazon, it’s called “Paper Dolls”.
They both had stories to tell, but had different methods of telling them.
That was the first thing that popped into my head.
Having my own boys I can see the differences in how my wife and I parent. She is definitely more “service” driven, feeding them and cleaning up after them (they are just babies) and I’m more about quality time, throwing them around and taking them places. I feed and clean and she plays too, but we both enjoy doing the other stuff more. She feels fine feeding them and giving them baths. It relaxes her. It’s like completing a check list for her. That stuff may cause me to pull my hair out. And I’m fine wrestling with them and taking them out to see stuff which tires her out.
The genders are just different and they offer different things. Mothers were intended to teach daughters how to be women and fathers to teach the boys to be men.
Downplaying the differences in gender is not something I will ever be comfortable with.
Maybe you have a point. Let’s rephrase then.
If a loving gay couple show up looking for a child to adopt, the Church would rather withhold the child from that home and wait until a straight couple showed up?
I would assume so, yes. I don’t know everything about the Catholic Church, but temporal welfare and happiness is only a part of what they claim to offer.
They believe that homosexuality is spiritually damning and that it will cause eternal harm to all involved. Especially unsuspecting children who would be taught to accept homosexuality and that it is not sinful.
Gay couples have been raising adopted and biological kids for quite a while now. My female cousin raises her biological daughter with her wife.
I understand this, but the Catholic Church has also been teaching what they teach for a while too.
I feel that so much “tolerance” in our world causes sin to run rampant.
I’m grateful that there are gay and straight people in the world looking to give a home to children who need one.
I agree. Adopting is difficult and can be heart wrenching and I love any and all who attempt to do it.
That does not mean that homosexuality should be considered an acceptable practice.
At least they’re consistent, I guess.
Yeah, we sort of have to give them that, huh?
They may be able to help more children if they’d reconsider that view, especially in light of the studies I linked above. I doubt that will happen though.
The Lord Jesus Christ did not only feed the hungry, heal the sick, offer service and teach “good feeling” parables – but He taught obedience to God’s law and He offered to Mankind the means of obtaining perfection.
There is more to this temporal life than providing children with a temporal home.
To think that if everyone did as Christ asked them, there would be less (if any) children who need homes.
You’d think they’d be happy enough just finding homes for needy children in the first place. Let god sort out the sin stuff.
That has never been a stance that God has taken.
He wants us to be active participants in our salvation.
It’s based on the fact that they’ve got a lot to clean up in their own backyard before they should start trying to dictate morality to anyone else.
This is irrelevant.
They have the right to believe what they would.
The First Amendment does not claim that they are given religious freedom only if they pass someone’s judgment.
No it isn’t. You don’t have the right to dictate what marriage is for a whole country, based on your religious beliefs. The state and federal government recognizes marriage to be between two consenting adults of either the same sex or opposite sex. So whether your religious sensibilities agree with it or not, two people of the same sex that have a marriage licence are married.
Demanding that the Catholic Church or myself to recognize such a “marriage” would be a violation of our First Amendment rights.
Nobody is forcing you to marry someone of the same sex. And nobody is forcing churches to perform ceremonies that they don’t agree with. So how are your rights being violated?
The Charitable Choice provision claims that any faith-based organization that offers government funded services has the right to retain control over the definition and expression of their religious beliefs.
If someone objects to the religious character of the faith-based organization, they are free to seek out a secular alternative.
It violates the Charitable Choice provision, as well as the First Amendment, to claim that the Catholic Church needs to recognize “same-sex marriage” in order to further offer government funded services when there are many secular alternatives available.
First and foremost would be procreation. Creating and nurturing your own offspring is central to God’s plan of happiness for His children.
