PoetPhilosopher
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When my friend who kind of likes to matchmake people, inquired about the qualities I sought in a potential partner, I gave it some thought. I told her, "I think I'm drawn to the opposite of down-to-Earth, maybe even someone with a bit of darkness or uniqueness to them. I'm intrigued by people who may embrace their holistic side, who see the world from a different perspective, and who aren't afraid to delve into the mysteries of life."
One thing I didn't want a repeat of is with the woman I met previously, who put me on the spot asking whether I cooked, saying that "men make great chefs".
I understand that food is some people's calling, part of social gatherings, and a part of life. But with my slight gender dysphoria and being grouped with other men, the fact I really don't have the mindset of cooking for others too often and mostly just focus on feeding myself, and all the down-to-Earth, surface level questions I felt I was being asked besides, I felt like I didn't really have an answer.
I was probably like this:
I also think it's cool that some people do actually get joy in match-making, though from experience, I'd also say that it's important that if you go along with such a thing, to find a match-maker that listens to what you like in a person, even if clarification and "trial and error" is needed, and not someone who "projects" what they think you'd like onto you, in setting you up for blind dates. Because after all, it's good not to make blind dates even scarier and more awkward than they already are.
One thing I didn't want a repeat of is with the woman I met previously, who put me on the spot asking whether I cooked, saying that "men make great chefs".
I understand that food is some people's calling, part of social gatherings, and a part of life. But with my slight gender dysphoria and being grouped with other men, the fact I really don't have the mindset of cooking for others too often and mostly just focus on feeding myself, and all the down-to-Earth, surface level questions I felt I was being asked besides, I felt like I didn't really have an answer.
I was probably like this:
I also think it's cool that some people do actually get joy in match-making, though from experience, I'd also say that it's important that if you go along with such a thing, to find a match-maker that listens to what you like in a person, even if clarification and "trial and error" is needed, and not someone who "projects" what they think you'd like onto you, in setting you up for blind dates. Because after all, it's good not to make blind dates even scarier and more awkward than they already are.
