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My wife died 2 years ago today.....

spacejanitor

spacejanitor

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Today marks the 2nd anniversary of my first wife's death. She passed away at 8:59 am and did so peacefully with her family by her side. It was very poignant as it was the first time my children watched anyone die. While it was a traumatic experience, it showed them the importance of life. One very interesting moment was that my oldest son Evan was holding his mothers hand and at the moment she died he said he felt something like a wave of energy going up his arm and out his body. I would like to think that it was her soul, and that maybe it was Jesus telling him that it was OK, that he had her now and that it would be alright. That still causes me to weep to this day.

I have been blessed to be remarried 18 months after my wife passed and with my first love and high school sweetheart. I guess some memories remain fresh...God Bless you Gwen....I will miss you always and I know that you are watching over our children. We will meet again.

Love always....
Matt
 
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Caladan

Caladan

Agnostic Pantheist
I am sorry for your loss, and happy that her memory is a blessing for you.
Im happy for you on being fortunate to bounce back in a short time span to a new founded partnership.
 
autonomous1one1

autonomous1one1

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Thank you for sharing this peaceful passing. It is obvious that she lives on within you and your children, and now within us.
 
FFH

FFH

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Thanks for sharing that story, that just really touched me deeply, especially about Jesus' energy/power going through your son's arm to comfort him or it could have also been your wife's energy/spirit.

Truly the veil between earth and heaven is thin.
 
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strange

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Sharing your grief and celebration touches my spirit. I feel for you, your family. This too brings tears to my eyes. Remembering our loved one's keeps them alive. Life is eternal because our existence can not be negated even when we die.
 
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Bick

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My condolences, SJ. As most of us have lost close loved ones, my belief from the Scriptures is that, as Christians, our hope is to meet the Lord secretly in the air, then be taken to the heavenlies to enjoy the great blessings prepared by God.
 
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spacejanitor said:
Today marks the 2nd anniversary of my first wife's death. She passed away at 8:59 am and did so peacefully with her family by her side. It was very poignant as it was the first time my children watched anyone die. While it was a traumatic experience, it showed them the importance of life. One very interesting moment was that my oldest son Evan was holding his mothers hand and at the moment she died he said he felt something like a wave of energy going up his arm and out his body. I would like to think that it was her soul, and that maybe it was Jesus telling him that it was OK, that he had her now and that it would be alright. That still causes me to weep to this day.

I have been blessed to be remarried 18 months after my wife passed and with my first love and high school sweetheart. I guess some memories remain fresh...God Bless you Gwen....I will miss you always and I know that you are watching over our children. We will meet again.

Love always....
Matt
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May she, you, your children be forever blessed.
 
Ghostaka

Ghostaka

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Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un
We belong to Allah, and unto Him we return.

Don't fret bother-man, cause it's inevitable.

Peace be upon you.
 
slave2six

slave2six

Substitious
spacejanitor said:
Today marks the 2nd anniversary of my first wife's death. She passed away at 8:59 am and did so peacefully with her family by her side.
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I have also experienced death with more people than I care to count; some children, some youths, and some adults. There were a few who were quite close to me as well although I have not lost my spouse. I am truly sorry for your loss and I hope that you will continue to find new life.

When I was in the military as a medic, we cared for a patient who died slowly and horribly. Her husband could not cope with the death. For years he did not move anything in his house but rather made it a shrine to her. I have always thought this to be a great mistake. I encourage you to strive to live fully.

I would recommend CS Lewis' "A Grief Observed." He wrote it after the passing of his wife, Joy. It helped me through one of the darkest times of my life. I am certain that it will speak to you.
 
spacejanitor

spacejanitor

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slave2six said:
I have also experienced death with more people than I care to count; some children, some youths, and some adults. There were a few who were quite close to me as well although I have not lost my spouse. I am truly sorry for your loss and I hope that you will continue to find new life.

When I was in the military as a medic, we cared for a patient who died slowly and horribly. Her husband could not cope with the death. For years he did not move anything in his house but rather made it a shrine to her. I have always thought this to be a great mistake. I encourage you to strive to live fully.

I would recommend CS Lewis' "A Grief Observed." He wrote it after the passing of his wife, Joy. It helped me through one of the darkest times of my life. I am certain that it will speak to you.
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Slavesix...first of all THANK YOU for your service to our country:yes:. Although I wasn't in the military, I was an EMT for nearly 10 years. It was a volunteer service and I ran about 300 calls per year. My first call was an infant not breating and we did CPR on him. The baby never made it, and I was devastated. It was the first time that I cried for someone other than a family member. I nearly quit. During my tenure I think I was in the presence of around 200 people who died, heart attacks, car accidents, etc. Death it seemed to not bother me....I did though speak to the person especially if it didn't look good. I whispered in their ear that they were loved, that they could fight as much as they wanted to and that if they felt it was their time that it was OK to go. But I always told them that they were loved.

I thank you for your kindness....I have since re-married and of all things to my high school sweetheart whom after 30 years we got back together and I was re-married 18 months after my wife's passing. My first wife Gwen and I agreed that if either one of us were to die first, that the other person was to live on, find someone else and LIVE. My children at first didn't understand it, but I held true to her wishes and waited atleast a year before getting married. She and I knew that neither one of us wanted to be alone. My wife now is very understanding and knows that I have my sad moments, but that they are much warmer memories, rather than harsh cutting ones.

BTW...my middle son Nick is at Basic Training right now for the Army. He said it is the toughest thing he has ever had to do. I am so PROUD!!!.
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slave2six

slave2six

Substitious
spacejanitor said:
BTW...my middle son Nick is at Basic Training right now for the Army. He said it is the toughest thing he has ever had to do. I am so PROUD!!!.
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He will be too. Graduating from basic was one of the proudest days of my life. Give him our regards and thanks. It's a job that seems unglamorous and underpaid but even the most menial job in the military is important to the nation as a whole. Best of luck to him.

BTW - If you or he know of vets coming back from combat, let them know about VetsMeetVets.org. It is a community of vets who have successfully transitioned back to civilian life meeting up with new returning combatants to help them transition. It doesn't matter what era they served in or what current battlefield these young men have fought on. It's a really good resource for folks returning home.
 
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