Nudity within the family

[Skwim]

(This OP was inspired by Hay85's thread "Female nudity vs Male nudity")

"There are differences of opinion as to whether, and if so to what extent, parents should appear naked in front of their children. Gordon and Schroeder report that parental nudity varies considerably from family to family.

A U.S. study by Alfred Kinsey found that 75% of the participants stated that there was never nudity in the home when they were growing up, 5% of the participants said that there was "seldom" nudity in the home, 3% said "often", and 17% said that it was "usual". The study found that there was no significant difference between what was reported by men and by women with respect to frequency of nudity in the home.


Attitudes to nudity vary substantially throughout Europe. Male and female nudity in Scandinavia is not uncommon"
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In my home (both parents were Swedish and nominal Christians at best), my brother, dad, and I were rarely naked around each other---I could probably count the number of times on one hand. After I was old enough to dress and bathe myself I was rarely naked around my mom, and certainly not in my teens; and I don't remember ever seeing her naked. It was never discouraged, but simply an understanding among us.

I kind of regret falling in the 75% group, and see no reason for family members to refrain from being naked around one another.

How about you?

 

[Buttercup]

Good god, Skwim. Why can't we just talk about college football?

 

[Amechania]

Naked college football? Finally a reason to tune in.

 

[Majikthise]

The wife or i would shower with the kids when they were babies. Easier than running a bath.
As far as my parents go, i saw quite enough of my mom, taking care of her when she had cancer.
We all walk arond in a towel after a shower, with no problems, in my home.
Other than that i really don't see the urgency for nudity in family settings.

 

[Skwim]

Good god, Skwim. Why can't we just talk about college football?

Nope. It's gotta be about nudity within the family, no matter how disgusting you find it.

So, what's your story growing up?

 

[Buttercup]

Nope. It's gotta be about nudity within the family, no matter how disgusting you find it.

So, what's your story growing up?

We fell into the 75% like your family.

I don't see anything wrong with family nudity, in general.

Obviously if everyone has been naked in front of each other for years it's not going to be any big deal.

I imagine, but can't be sure, that once kids reach puberty they might prefer to wear clothing.

 

[dawny0826]

In all honesty, one of my earliest memories is of my poor Dad ending perhaps the only shower that he ever took with one of us girls, abruptly, after 2.5 year old me pointed to his boy parts and asked him what they were. I remember his answer vividly..."Don't touch!"

My parents instilled modesty without making nudity an uncomfortable or taboo subject.

By nature, I'm a modest person, but, if my kid walks in on me while I'm changing, big whoop. The most important lesson that I've imposed regarding the naked body is that the naked body belongs to the individual - it's not for anyone else to lewdly look at or touch without permission.

So, when someone streaks down the hallway because they left their clothes in the bathroom - we just look away and usually giggle. It's not a big deal.

Do we lounge around in our birthday suits? No.

 

[LuisDantas]

My blood family was very ill at ease with itself. It became obvious at a late date that my male gene donor would not mind some in-house nudity, but my womb donor did.

I wish that was different, but nudity taboo does not even register in the list of things I wish were different in my so-called raising.

 

[Amechania]

My dad used to wear these oversized boxers and walk around in them which was fine except his junk would always find a way to squirm out and take a look around. I was used to it so it never really bothered me much. When it happened we'd just say "Daddy your pride is showing" or something to that effect. He'd simply tuck in and carry on. One time however I had couple of friends over. It was pretty late and we were chatting at the kitchen table. My dad came downstairs to get a beer in his boxers. Of course his pride was showing but in a state I had not heretofore encountered. Understand that this part of my father's anatomy is not one if his less salient features. My friends actually stared. All my dad did was pop his beer, nod, and say "ladies" before skewerring his way back to bed. It was delayed but it was the first time in my life my father ever caused me to literally shriek in horror

 

[Majikthise]

My dad used to wear these oversized boxers and walk around in them which was fine except his junk would always find a way to squirm out and take a look around. I was used to it so it never really bothered me much. When it happened we'd just say "Daddy your pride is showing" or something to that effect. He'd simply tuck in and carry on. One time however I had couple of friends over. It was pretty late and we were chatting at the kitchen table. My dad came downstairs to get a beer in his boxers. Of course his pride was showing but in a state I had not heretofore encountered. Understand that this part of my father's anatomy is not one if his less salient features. My friends actually stared. All my dad did was pop his beer, nod, and say "ladies" before skewerring his way back to bed. It was delayed but it was the first time in my life my father ever caused me to literally shriek in horror

Sorry. Don't have a comment. But this made me lmao.

 

[dawny0826]

Sorry. Don't have a comment. But this made me lmao.

You're not the only one!

 

[Buttercup]

My dad used to wear these oversized boxers and walk around in them which was fine except his junk would always find a way to squirm out and take a look around. I was used to it so it never really bothered me much. When it happened we'd just say "Daddy your pride is showing" or something to that effect. He'd simply tuck in and carry on. One time however I had couple of friends over. It was pretty late and we were chatting at the kitchen table. My dad came downstairs to get a beer in his boxers. Of course his pride was showing but in a state I had not heretofore encountered. Understand that this part of my father's anatomy is not one if his less salient features. My friends actually stared. All my dad did was pop his beer, nod, and say "ladies" before skewerring his way back to bed. It was delayed but it was the first time in my life my father ever caused me to literally shriek in horror

Eeeek! Did your friends ever come back over?

I'm not implying anything against your father but your story brought back memories of when the husband of our babysitter was sitting around the house in his boxers and deliberately exposed himself to me when I was 9. I still remember the evil look in his eye all these years later. I told my mom immediately and she raised hell. We never went back.

 

[LuisDantas]

My dad used to wear these oversized boxers and walk around in them which was fine except his junk would always find a way to squirm out and take a look around. I was used to it so it never really bothered me much. When it happened we'd just say "Daddy your pride is showing" or something to that effect. He'd simply tuck in and carry on. One time however I had couple of friends over. It was pretty late and we were chatting at the kitchen table. My dad came downstairs to get a beer in his boxers. Of course his pride was showing but in a state I had not heretofore encountered. Understand that this part of my father's anatomy is not one if his less salient features. My friends actually stared. All my dad did was pop his beer, nod, and say "ladies" before skewerring his way back to bed. It was delayed but it was the first time in my life my father ever caused me to literally shriek in horror

This sounds traumatic and funny at the same time. Sorry.

 

[Majikthise]

My 17 year old daughterwalks around the house with half her butt crack showing all the time. It just bugs me. She's not making a statement , she's just slovenly at home. I complain, the wife laughs, Annie (my daughter) just tells me to shut up.
No problems.
I do believe the level of nudity in the home is that family's business. Just make sure you keep it there and have stockade fence in the back yard.

 

[Amechania]

Eeeek! Did your friends ever come back over?

I'm not implying anything against your father but your story brought back memories of when the husband of our babysitter was sitting around the house in his boxers and deliberately exposed himself to me when I was 9. I still remember the evil look in his eye all these years later. I told my mom immediately and she raised hell. We never went back.

No my dad's a kind and humble man. He's just a little absent-minded and thinks his home is his castle. My friends laughed after I screamed and gave me hugs. They never mentioned it again and as far as I know never told anyone as I blegged them not too. One moved away bt the other actually came over alot. She always gently flirted with my dad and he her. She went to work for him after graduation. I don't think anything happened. My dad really loves my mom like nobody's business.

 

[Amechania]

This sounds traumatic and funny at the same time. Sorry.

No worries. My scars come from much deeper cuts.

 

[Sunstone]

I don't think kids are naturally traumatized by nudity. Our species -- as absurd as it is -- is still not absurd enough for that to be a general rule.

Of course, kids (and adults) can be trained to be upset by nudity.

 

[lewisnotmiller]

I don't think kids are naturally traumatized by nudity. Our species -- as absurd as it is -- is still not absurd enough for that to be a general rule.

Of course, kids (and adults) can be trained to be upset by nudity.

Only animals go nude without shame...

 

[lewisnotmiller]

My 17 year old daughterwalks around the house with half her butt crack showing all the time. It just bugs me. She's not making a statement , she's just slovenly at home. I complain, the wife laughs, Annie (my daughter) just tells me to shut up.
No problems.
I do believe the level of nudity in the home is that family's business. Just make sure you keep it there and have stockade fence in the back yard.

Pour a cup of water down the back of her pants. That'll learn her.