Online vs. offline social life.

[an anarchist]

Which social life is more active for you: your online social life or your offline social life?

For me, my online social life (as in RF) is more active than my offline social life. Used to not be this way. When I was a young buck, like 19-21, I was extremely social. Party animal really, id host kickbacks and parties at my house and invite all my coworkers over to get blasted at least several times a week. Then I'd go out every night partying or drinking with the buddies. I had dozens and dozens of friends and acquaintances, and like half a dozen "best friends".

I've just been hurt in the most intimate ways by the people I've put my trust into, so I'm not social offline anymore. I'm a recluse now really. I've already been through a couple years of therapy to help me move past all the bull I went through. Much of it at the hands of "friends". Coworkers at my new job always invite me out, and I just never go. Don't have the motivation to, it's just dead now.

Well, I'm hoping I can jump start it though. I want to be social offline again and start hanging out with people. My days consist of work, napping, and then some RF. I'm real thankful for RF for filling a void, but I think I am beginning to realize I need a more active offline social life. Everyone wants to be my friend, man. It could be quite frustrating. I want to become a monk lol, maybe that's my way of trying to hide from the world even more..

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Which social life is more active for you: your online social life or your offline social life?

For me, my online social life (as in RF) is more active than my offline social life. Used to not be this way. When I was a young buck, like 19-21, I was extremely social. Party animal really, id host kickbacks and parties at my house and invite all my coworkers over to get blasted at least several times a week. Then I'd go out every night partying or drinking with the buddies. I had dozens and dozens of friends and acquaintances, and like half a dozen "best friends".

I've just been hurt in the most intimate ways by the people I've put my trust into, so I'm not social offline anymore. I'm a recluse now really. I've already been through a couple years of therapy to help me move past all the bull I went through. Much of it at the hands of "friends". Coworkers at my new job always invite me out, and I just never go. Don't have the motivation to, it's just dead now.

Well, I'm hoping I can jump start it though. I want to be social offline again and start hanging out with people. My days consist of work, napping, and then some RF. I'm real thankful for RF for filling a void, but I think I am beginning to realize I need a more active offline social life. Everyone wants to be my friend, man. It could be quite frustrating. I want to become a monk lol, maybe that's my way of trying to hide from the world even more..

My online social life is much more active, while my offline social life is starting to pop. I am hoping to maintain a healthy balance of both instead of completely abandoning one or the other. I find online more comfortable, but maybe that's just because I'm more accustomed to it.

 

[JustGeorge]

My offline social life is mostly with animals and plants, very few people involved.

My online social life is mostly with people, very few animals and plants involved.

I don't necessarily like the lack of people in my offline life, but after trying for years to change that, I accept that I'm not in a good location for human to human friendship(for me, the mileage of others may vary), and just try to be thankful for the online peoples.

 

[Exaltist Ethan]

Back when I used to live in my previous apartment, I used to knock on people's doors and spend time with people offline considerably more than I do now. The people at my current apartment don't answer their door if someone knocks on it, even if they are home. I made a conscious decision that once I left my previous apartment that I would do what it takes to have a more active online social presence. When I lived in my old apartment I used to go to this guy's place, a neighbor just down the hall, and for the entire day we'd talk about drugs, music or religion. I have replaced that with Religious Forums. Instead of my previous best friend, who was a different neighbor, spending time with me every night, ordering food and watching Shark Tank, I now spend various times of the day with my current online best friend, talking about whatever we did that day, and sharing thoughts and ideas about various topics.

When I joined RF in 2012 I hadn't even left my parents house yet. They used to be the backbone of my social life. Then with my first place, Farwell Studio Apartments, I spent much of my time there with neighbors and peer specialists that worked in the building. Now that I live in Greenbrook, most of my time is spent on YouTube, RF, Discord and Spotify, and I primarily socialize online now rather than offline, although for the past four Sundays I've been attending Mennonite services. Another thing I've always done on and off to socialize is to play MMORPGs, like The Sims Online, Star Wars Galaxies, City of Heroes and World of Warcraft. But back in Farwell I played these types of games much less often as I had a community of people inside my building ready and willing to talk to me. It's just different now that I don't live in a supportive apartment anymore.