Open relationships

[GrecoSpartan]

If two people are in a monogamous relationship where neither person has sex with anyone outside of it, but one person is interested in a religion that engages in ritual sexuality, how would this affect a relationship? What if a religion dictates that a person's relationship is not recognized by the religion when it demands sex acts with a priest or priestess?

 

[Sunstone]

It seems to me that how it would affect a relationship would depend on the individuals involved in the relationship -- on such things as their emotional maturity, possessiveness, values, and so forth. Different folks could most likely be affected very differently.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Which religion demands sex acts with clergy? That's a religion I'd stay away from since it sounds like it's headed by a bunch of sexual predators.

 

[Caladan]

If two people are in a monogamous relationship where neither person has sex with anyone outside of it, but one person is interested in a religion that engages in ritual sexuality,

Before jumping to the second point, this issue needs to be opened up with the partner. How the partner views the issue, and how the issue is explained also will naturally effect point 2:

how would this affect a relationship?

There is always a strong chance it may make the foundations of the relationship deteriorate. Unless of course, the couple discussed an open relationship before, and also if both people are generally opened to alternative religion, and sexual experimentation.

What if a religion dictates that a person's relationship is not recognized by the religion when it demands sex acts with a priest or priestess?

Not sure I follow you there. Do you mean to say, for example if one partner is Protestant, and their religion frowns (to put it mildly) on the other partner's sexual rituals?
Or you mean to say that the religion of one partner demands that they should have sex with a priest or priestess?
In the latter case I would advice the person that there is a likelihood that they might be taken advantage of, and they should consider the entire spectrum of circumstances better. Especially if it means endangering a solid and productive relationship. Is the partner more important? Or a demand to serve as a sex object.

 

[Sunstone]

... demands sex acts with a priest or priestess?

Demands? Best not to get involved with a religion that demands sex acts with a priest or priestess.

 

[Awoon]

Do they have a panty sniffing ritual?

 

[Sha'irullah]

Open relationships increase the chances of sexually transmitted diseases(for me the main one is coition).

Not everyone has an awareness of STD's and actually tries making sure they are safe. This is a major issue with any polyamory relationship because not all partners and cautious before engaging in any form of copulation.

"stablishing an open relationship, like establishing a monogamous relationship, requires specific negotiation between the parties involved. It is important for everyone involved in an open relationship to know that they are in an open relationship since having multiple partners does increase a person's STD risk. This risk can be minimized by consistent practice of safe sex with all partners, and regular STD screening."
Open Relationships - What is an Open Relationship?

 

[Penumbra]

If two people are in a monogamous relationship where neither person has sex with anyone outside of it, but one person is interested in a religion that engages in ritual sexuality, how would this affect a relationship? What if a religion dictates that a person's relationship is not recognized by the religion when it demands sex acts with a priest or priestess?

This seems to merge a kind of rational scenario with what appears to be a very unhealthy scenario.

If one person within a monogamous relationship is interested enough in having sex with other people to the point where they are willing to risk the status quo of their current relationship to bring it up, then discussing it within the relationship would be ideal, to see if they can agree on what to do. How it will affect a relationship depends on the personalities of the people involved and what they want out of the relationship.

Once you start using words like "demand" within a religion, it really enters unhealthy territory. That sounds cultist and predatory, for the priests and priestesses to demand sex from people. That pushes the whole scenario into a very irrational place.

If my bf brought up the desire or need to have an open relationship I'd listen to his concerns and talk to him about it. If he said he joined a religion where it's demanded of him to have sex with the priestess, we're pretty much done.

 

[Guitar's Cry]

Open relationships increase the chances of sexually transmitted diseases(for me the main one is coition).

Not everyone has an awareness of STD's and actually tries making sure they are safe. This is a major issue with any polyamory relationship because not all partners and cautious before engaging in any form of copulation.

Thing is, any relationship is risky in this way, open or poly or not. Everyone has a sexual history, and not everyone is faithful. As in a monogamous relationship, polyamorous relationships involve trust and open communication or it just won't work.

While it makes sense that more partners=more chances to bring in STDs, poly relationships are necessarily more open about the people involved, whereas other relationships may be kept secret in a monogamous partnership.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

If two people are in a monogamous relationship where neither person has sex with anyone outside of it, but one person is interested in a religion that engages in ritual sexuality, how would this affect a relationship? What if a religion dictates that a person's relationship is not recognized by the religion when it demands sex acts with a priest or priestess?

You must decide which has given you more value or you can see it giving you value in the future: the religion or the partner.

 

[Monk Of Reason]

If two people are in a monogamous relationship where neither person has sex with anyone outside of it, but one person is interested in a religion that engages in ritual sexuality, how would this affect a relationship? What if a religion dictates that a person's relationship is not recognized by the religion when it demands sex acts with a priest or priestess?

Well this is a bad example. I hope it isn't a real example. Because anyone in this situation needs to get out of this situation. There is no respectable religion where one must have sexual relations with the clergy members. Even the wildest sects of Wicca (the only religion I know with sexual rites. Sure there are others but none known off hand) would warn against sexual intercourse between non-committed couples for religious reasons.

So first and foremost they need to get away from the sexual cult they are in. However if one person wants an open relationship and the other doesn't then thats something they will have to deal with on a personal level with each other that has little to do with religion.