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Polygamy? Right or wrong?
- Thread starter pro4life
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For those who can make it work, there's nothing wrong with it. Heck, it can have some fantastic advantages, such as the economic ones that come naturally from communal living, as well as not being limited to a single person for romantic and/or sexual company. If children are involved, it can help ensure that there's always at least one immediate parent on hand.
However, that doesn't make it good for everyone. After all, mongamous relationships are already very, VERY hard to maintain long-term, and polygamy adds one or more people to the equation. That makes things exponentially more complicated, and making clear, concise communication and relationship rules even far more important than ever before.
However, that doesn't make it good for everyone. After all, mongamous relationships are already very, VERY hard to maintain long-term, and polygamy adds one or more people to the equation. That makes things exponentially more complicated, and making clear, concise communication and relationship rules even far more important than ever before.
Shadow Wolf
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It's neither good or bad. Like any other sexuality, it is just another expression of it. Humans have also evolved into a half-way point between having monogamous reproduction and polygamous reproduction. If someone is a polygamist-much like serial-monogamous-heterosexuality-shouldn't be viewed as something that shameful, unnatural, or immoral. Indeed, most of humanity has practiced some form of polygamy.
Good and/or bad depending upon the particular characters and context of the relative situation. It has more to do with fluctuating preferences rather than static ethics.
Father Heathen
Veteran Member
Consenting adults, etc.
Harmonious
Well-Known Member
I see nothing inherently wrong with polygamy. The thing is, it is difficult to sustain and remain attentive to everyone's emotions, private times, financial issues, kid time...
A couple of years ago, someone in a different thread (same general forum) asked something similar, about if I would be willing to participate in a group marriage - seriously theoretical. I said, theoretically, maybe.
I was asked if I would be willing to be a third or fourth wife. I said, no, but I would need to know a LOT more about consenting to be a possible second wife.
Of course, any marriage that I would be willing to participate in would have to be run according to Torah law, in an Orthodox fashion. Therefore, LOTS and LOTS of questions would have to be answered to my satisfaction before even consenting to consider such a thing.
But is it good or bad? I would say that would be determined by the purpose and thought process behind why it was being done.
Short answer: I need more info to give a good answer.
A couple of years ago, someone in a different thread (same general forum) asked something similar, about if I would be willing to participate in a group marriage - seriously theoretical. I said, theoretically, maybe.
I was asked if I would be willing to be a third or fourth wife. I said, no, but I would need to know a LOT more about consenting to be a possible second wife.
Of course, any marriage that I would be willing to participate in would have to be run according to Torah law, in an Orthodox fashion. Therefore, LOTS and LOTS of questions would have to be answered to my satisfaction before even consenting to consider such a thing.
But is it good or bad? I would say that would be determined by the purpose and thought process behind why it was being done.
Short answer: I need more info to give a good answer.
I've read of at least one study that found polygamy socially disadvantageous because it tends to leave a large population of horny young men without women.
Another problem with polygamy, according the same study, is that fathers tend to invest less time and resources in their children than in monogamous systems.
I think both problems, if true, would need to be addressed before I would be comfortable advocating the legalization of polygamy.
More personally, I'm not much of a fan of it for a subjective reason. I favor open marriages, and polygamy seems to me just another form of closed marriage, so I think it would not suite me much at all. But I don't see my personal preferences as any reason to oppose its legalization.
Another problem with polygamy, according the same study, is that fathers tend to invest less time and resources in their children than in monogamous systems.
I think both problems, if true, would need to be addressed before I would be comfortable advocating the legalization of polygamy.
More personally, I'm not much of a fan of it for a subjective reason. I favor open marriages, and polygamy seems to me just another form of closed marriage, so I think it would not suite me much at all. But I don't see my personal preferences as any reason to oppose its legalization.
