I think truth is what matters to God. If the truth is that God is the Father, as told in the Bible, it is false to call Him her in that case.
You shall not steal; neither shall you deal falsely, nor lie to one another.
Lev. 19:11
Yahweh, who shall dwell in your sanctuary? Who shall live on your holy hill? He who walks blamelessly does what is right, And speaks truth in his heart;
Ps. 15:1
What about the parts of your scripture that refer to your god as female, sex-neutral, or in the plural? Apparently those are a thing, according to the author, but we're culturally most familiar with the male-centric references. Sounds like there might also be some overlooked translation complexities from the original languages too. Lots of stuff to consider. Which parts do you choose to view as "correct" as it were and why?