Question on a relationship

[ifonly]

Okay, here is a question that I hesitate to ask, but I feel that this is a good place to get responses from all different kinds of people.
What do you think about an 18 year old girl, and a 30 year old male?
Now, when you respond to this would you just automatically be judgeful and say no, or would you want to know more of the story? So, let's here responses.....

 

[The Black Whirlwind]

i would like to know more, but from what i hear now, i don't think that it is a big deal, as long as you're both in love...

 

[Jaymes]

I'd be hesitant to approve, since most 18 year olds are naive and immature compared to most 30 year olds. I'm sure there are the rare exceptions that could work, though.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

From everything I've ever heard about young girls, and seen from my brothers past relationships, they tend to wonder around trying to figure out what the want.

 

[Pussyfoot Mouse]

Well without knowing the whole story I have to admit I am quick to judge. I have a 17 year old daughter and just couldn't imagine her telling me that she's fallen in love with a man that much older than she is. I really don't think I could accept the relationship either. I would wonder what this man's intentions are with my young daughter. But this is coming from an always concerned Mom.

 

[Prima]

I'd be hesitant to approve, since most 18 year olds are naive and immature compared to most 30 year olds. I'm sure there are the rare exceptions that could work, though.

I disagree - I generally find it depends entirely on the person.


However, providing that it is not pressured, I don't think there's any problem with that at all. Experience and maturity count for much more than age.

 

[Scuba Pete]

1) It's perfectly legal, moral and ethical

2) It's NONE of my business.

3) Here's to their hapiness!

 

[turk179]

That is my first reaction also Pussyfoot Mouse. I would have to question the 30 year old's motive. But I am not completely closed minded on this. Would want to know the rest of the story to be able to give you a more fair opinion.

 

[Unedited]

If I saw an 18 year old woman, and a 30 year old man in a relationship, my first thoughts would probably be, "being single sucks." My second, "I'm hungry."

 

[Ori]

If they are genuinely happy, then no problem here.

 

[Draka]

It all depends on the persons in question. Age truly means nothing...that is a 12 year difference and BOTH sets of my grandparents had that exact same difference and ages when they got together!

Personally, I had a 26 y/o boyfriend when I was 17. I broke up with HIM because he was too immature for me!

 

[kreeden]

Okay, here is a question that I hesitate to ask, but I feel that this is a good place to get responses from all different kinds of people.
What do you think about an 18 year old girl, and a 30 year old male?
Now, when you respond to this would you just automatically be judgeful and say no, or would you want to know more of the story? So, let's here responses.....

If it was someone close to me , I would question it .

But then , if it was someone close enough to me , I would question any relationship .

 

[KirbyFan101]

Personally, I see the age differential as an issue.

 

[michel]

1) It's perfectly legal, moral and ethical

2) It's NONE of my business.

3) Here's to their hapiness!

Net Doc,

You are most of the time so infuriatingly right that you leave no answer open for anyone else!!!!

The only poit I would add is that 'ifonly' has asked us for our opinion, and I wonder, ifonly, why you have done so ?

a) is it because you yourself feel unsure ?

b) because you think what others will think it is ?

C) Abit of both, I suppose ?

If you could just clear that point up, it might be easier to give a definate answer as to how I feel - given that my instinct is exactly the same as NetDoc's ? If it is a problem inside your head, then we need to see why before giving you the support - ie we do need to know a bit more....

Sorry, this is a bit 'rambling on' it is early in the morning in England, and I am not yet wide awake!

 

[The Black Whirlwind]

actually, if i was some 18 year-old guy, walking down the street, and i see a 30 year-old guy with an 18 year-old gal, my only thought would be, "You lucky bast*rd".

 

[Fluffy]

For those people who have a problem with the age difference, would they have more of a problem if it was an 18 year old girl and a 30 year old guy than the other way around?

 

[michel]

For those people who have a problem with the age difference, would they have more of a problem if it was an 18 year old girl and a 30 year old guy than the other way around?

Good point Fluffy - I couldn't agree with you more.

 

[Jaymes]

For those people who have a problem with the age difference, would they have more of a problem if it was an 18 year old girl and a 30 year old guy than the other way around?

It's not so much a 'problem' I have as worry about one of them being hurt or manipulated. I suppose that can happen in any relationship, though.

 

[Fluffy]

It's not so much a 'problem' I have as worry about one of them being hurt or manipulated. I suppose that can happen in any relationship, though.

Sorry yes 'problem' is not the right word. It implies that I think that such a concern is misplaced which is not the case.

 

[Sunstone]

If it were me in that relationship, the 18 year old would have to be very mature for her age. I have a lot of 18 year old friends, but I cannot imagine that it would be easy to keep a romance going with any of them. But that's just my experience. On the other hand, I know of at least one immensely happy marriage in which there was a twenty year difference between the man and woman. So, I'm sure that in some cases age differences don't automatically rule out happiness.