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Same sex or other sex?
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Majikthise
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I have both and it doesn't make a difference to me.Sunstone said:
I like your new avatar, Majikthise!
I have both male and females friends, too, and it doesn't seem to make much difference to me what gender my friends are. But I've noticed that many people get along better with one gender than they do with another. I'm curious why that might be.
I have both male and females friends, too, and it doesn't seem to make much difference to me what gender my friends are. But I've noticed that many people get along better with one gender than they do with another. I'm curious why that might be.
Scuba Pete
Le plongeur avec attitude...
Yes... both are just fine. Though my wife is usually a bit jealous of any female friends.
Personally, I usually make friends much more easily with women than with men.Sunstone said:
I put this down to three main reasons 1)I could never 'bond' with my father-He was a very old fashioned man, with a steel facade around his emotions (due to various reasons) Emotions were not to be shown nor discussed between Father and Son. 2)I am not competative, I am not interested in sports, and I never enjoyed 'bragging' about sexual conquests as I found a lot of my peers were in my twenties.3)I like the company of women; I feel comfortable in their company (as I said in a previous thread, I am probably some way on the gender continuum between masculine and feminine; I am no longer worried by that, as I used to be.
FyreBrigidIce
Returning Noob
I do nto prefer one sex or gender identity over another. Friends are friends. The reason behind the friendship can be different depending on the individual not the sex.
FBI
FBI
Scorn
Active Member
I feel pretty strongly that we draw those around us for our own personal needs. Connections are made when you meet someone else who is able to fulfill those needs. But it dosen't stop there. You are also fulfilling the needs of that new connection. This is the ebb and flow of relationships. This is how people can be close one year and far apart 4 years later. Or, remain friends all their lives. You ever notice, when you're really in tune with yourself, how the right person seems to come along at the right time? Gender, in my opinion, in of itself, has little to do with it.
Circle_One
Well-Known Member
I tend to befriend males more than females. Mostly because I'm more like-minded with the males I know than the females. I also grew up surrounded by males with two brothers 9 and 11 years older than me that were my heroes growing up so I've always been a tomboy and I think that is the reason I have always just felt more compatible with males as my friends.
Hope
Princesinha
I'm with Circle One here. I've always found it easier to make guy friends than female friends. I grew up with 5 brothers, so I feel very at ease with most guys. I feel I can actually be more myself with guys. Never had many girlfriends---always more guy friends. I find guys to generally be more down-to-earth and laid back, and not so hung up on silly, petty things that a lot of females get hung up on. Plus there is hardly any social-competitiveness, and back-stabbing, and that sort of stuff, among guys it seems. But don't get me wrong---the girlfriends I do have are the best, and having 'girl time' with them is absolutely necessary from time to time!!
Doc
Space Chief
I like to hang out with my fellow man more. I know of very few female teenage girls that I can get along with. I feel around guys that I can belch, or fart, and laugh really loud without feeling nervous as I would around girls. And I am a history nerd and philosophical type not exactly a common attraction for girls who care more about what others think of them then what they think of themselves. Fear not, I am not sexist, some of my best friends who were girls either moved away or are at a different school now.
Bastet
Vile Stove-Toucher
I've never really thought too much about it before, but it's a good question. I think Scorn has hit the nail on the head - we attract those we need at a particular point in time. When I was a kid, I had both male and female friends, I played different types of games with each gender. I loved playing boys games with the boys...we could play cars, get muddy, climb trees and blow things up, it was good fun. I went horse riding with my girl friends, or listened to music, or did other 'girly' stuff.
Throughout high school, I had mostly female friends, until our school merged with another school, then some guy friends came into the equation. When I hit Uni, to begin with I found it easier to make friends with the girls, so I had a group of girl friends I hung around with. Then a couple of weeks in, I started hanging around with the guys more, and by the time a couple of months had gone by, my main group of friends was entirely male. They treated me like "one of the boys", which I loved - I could burp, fart, do whatever, and they didn't care (and actually cheered me on lol). We talked about girls...it was cool. Towards the end of that year, our group expanded to include more girls, but it was still mostly guys.
These days, online there is a fairly even mix - in real life, probably more females. But I think that's as much to do with where I work and the fact that I don't have a social life outside of work, than any bias on my part. I can be friends with either gender just as well.
Throughout high school, I had mostly female friends, until our school merged with another school, then some guy friends came into the equation. When I hit Uni, to begin with I found it easier to make friends with the girls, so I had a group of girl friends I hung around with. Then a couple of weeks in, I started hanging around with the guys more, and by the time a couple of months had gone by, my main group of friends was entirely male. They treated me like "one of the boys", which I loved - I could burp, fart, do whatever, and they didn't care (and actually cheered me on lol). We talked about girls...it was cool. Towards the end of that year, our group expanded to include more girls, but it was still mostly guys.
These days, online there is a fairly even mix - in real life, probably more females. But I think that's as much to do with where I work and the fact that I don't have a social life outside of work, than any bias on my part. I can be friends with either gender just as well.
Master Vigil
Well-Known Member
I think I have more guy friends than girls. But I get along fine with both. I did a survey at my college last year, and found that 89% of the girls I talked to hated fellow girls and had more guy friends. But 85% of guys had more guy friends. It was wierd, but was a fun experiment to do for psych class.
groovydancer88
Active Member
I happen to have more girl friends than I do guy friends, but it really depends on the person. I love all my guy friends, and some of my girl friends get on my nerves a lot of the time... but my two closest friends are girls - and one of them burps the most frequently, unabashedly and powerfully than anyone I know, girls and guys alike! So I never have to worry about being gross around them. :-D
mrscardero
Kal-El's Mama
I don't prefer any friends of any sex. I prefer friends who are friends whether they are of the same sex or not. But I have more female friends then male friends because I am surrounded by females at work or family. The closest male friend I have is carrdero.Sunstone said:
carrdero and I pretty much share the same friends.
