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Some Mormon missionaries tried to talk to me.

Grandliseur

Well-Known Member
Just because I am interested in discussing religion doesn't mean I'm interested in proselytism. It's like how on this site, proselytism is banned but we love talking about religion. I find proselytism to be rude and arrogant, among other things. It uses deceptions and other psychological tricks.

No onw tried to convert me to Heathenry. I learned about it by reading about it and deciding that it matches my worldview and beliefs. I also felt a pull to the Gods I read about. It was an organic process.
Thank you for the explanation.

Not that I want to start a discussion on the topic, but have you noticed how similar some things are to the Biblical teachings! It could be basis for a deeper personal research of things if you are inclined in that direction. (I am not going to go into my own insights on this.)
 

Saint Frankenstein

Here for the ride
Premium Member
Thank you for the explanation.

Not that I want to start a discussion on the topic, but have you noticed how similar some things are to the Biblical teachings! It could be basis for a deeper personal research of things if you are inclined in that direction. (I am not going to go into my own insights on this.)
I don't know what you mean. What is similar to biblical teachings?
 

The Kilted Heathen

Crow FreyjasmaðR
I'm not the one claiming to be deeply and personally insulted by some smiling kids, come to share God's love with you.
"God's love" is treating other people like children, demeaning their way of life, and insulting their beliefs in their own home?
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Sure. But you're still being overly dramatic with the whole "xenophobia" thing. And with the above quote, of course. You act like I'm trying to sue them or something.


Radio, newspaper, television, your polling station, etc.
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You're just really not getting it, are you? Radio - I don't listen to it. Newspaper - I don't get them. Television - I don't have cable (as I said before.) Ads on this site and all others - I have ad blocker.

Yet with all these things, if I have a subscription, or I turn on the radio, or I go to a polling booth, I am acknowledging their message and what all comes with it. I do not have a sign on my door or my person that says "Come [REDACTED] on my beliefs and tell me all about your god." So what makes you think that I have to play nice when they pester me incessantly?

Little difference. You could easily shift gears a bit and suddenly claim to be offended that the Scouts are attacking you at your grocery store and Walmart.
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Yes difference. Though to point, I find them and the bell-mongers to be excessively annoying. But the big difference is that they're not coming to my house.

Seems like there may be more deep-seated issues, if you take such offense, when no one is forcing anything upon you.
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Oh, you think it's the message that sets my skin a-smolder? No... It's the intrusion of it all - I could care less of the message, it has no importance or consequence. Haven't you been paying attention?

Respectfully, no.
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By using the word "vile" you are putting simple arrogance right up there with the worst of the worst. Or, as I alluded to before, comparing arrogance to rape.

You can either be polite and let them deliver their message, or you can choose to ignore it.
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Or I can tell them to sod off. They have come to my door, and presumed on my beliefs. Nothing obliges me to be nice to them, whatever you think. Free speech and freedom of worship work both ways.

have you noticed how similar some things are to the Biblical teachings!
Not much, at all.
 

Kilgore Trout

Misanthropic Humanist
The problem with missionaries is two-fold: 1) They always approach you under the guise of engaging you in friendly conversation when their actual motivation is to proselytize to you. This is inherently dishonest. They wouldn't be approaching you and engaging you in friendly conversation in any other context. I find this deceit to be hypocritical and rude. 2) They act like they are interested in a dialogue, but they're not open to accepting outside views. This is arrogant.

So, no matter how friendly they seem on the surface, their motives and perspective are inherently hypocritical, rude, and arrogant. I find this to be at odds with what they purport to believe.

Also, missionaries are generally just kids with little to no theological or philosophical understanding beyond what they've be indoctrinated with, so they are not prepared to converse about or understand a fraction of what most thinking adults are aware of. It's kind of silly to have simplistic children trying to convert people who, in many case, have thoroughly explored theological and philosophical concepts that these kids aren't even aware of.

We have a lot come around in our area. They've stopped coming to the door since I put up a "no soliciting sign," but I see them when I'm out doing yard work. I'm generally a polite and friendly person, and feel no need to challenge or argue with dumb, well-meaning kids, so I say hi, but, before they start talking, I firmly, but nicely tell them I'm not interested in their religion. They almost always just move on.
 

Grumpuss

Active Member
And I think that you may be misunderstanding me: I have a very low opinion of proselytizing, but I don't going around trying to ban things just because I dislike them. All I'm talking about is the right to respond as I see fit.

We're talking about people coming to my door inviting me to discuss their religion. Well, if they do that, I may very well discuss their religion... even if they don't like what I have to say about it.
No, we're in total agreement. It should always be a dialogue, especially if they came to your door. They're free to present their idea, and you're free to embrace it, reject it, or have a discussion. The only problem comes when the person initiating isn't operating in good faith, or is disrespectful.

We can all talk, can't we?
 
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Grumpuss

Active Member
I don't listen to radio and have no TV services.
Wow, you're trying real hard. You must be the only person in the modern age who has never seen an advertisement. Congratulations !

ABP FTW!!! I've not seen a single ad on this site.
You must type with your eyes closed then :)


Actually, here, they don't. But when the Girl Scouts ask me if I want a box of cookies, they aren't beginning the conversation with an "if then" approach that assumes I am a sinful lost soul who needs saved if I trigger the if command by them hearing I am not a Christian. Girl Scouts don't assume I'm wrong by saying "no thank you," missionaries often enough have a hard time accepting no.
Why do you care what Mormons think of you after you've closed the door on them?


When they come acting under the assumption they know more about something than you, they need knocked down a few pegs.
Ahhh, this is the heart of the matter, I think. You believe you are better than everyone else, and take any newly introduced philosophy presented to you as an insulting challenge to your ego?


And what of the ones who struggle to just accept "no thank you?" Or what of the ones who think "no" means "no just for today....come back tomorrow/next week."
And what of the ones who up their game? You make it painfully obvious the evangelizing teens just don't know their Bible so you send them packing, and they send someone a bit older with a bit more knowledge of the Bible. And you trample over him, but yet they don't get the message but keep sending more. The JWs in the next county over probably see me as a lion of an atheist prowling around, and it reminds me of the Chick tract or whatever of the grumpy atheist billy goat with a warning that children should stay away and special tactics are needed to effectively witness to them.
Once again, you worry far too much about this stuff for someone who's a simple atheist. If you were so resolute in your belief, my guess is that you wouldn't take such huge offense at what some well-meaning teenage Mormon missionaries think about you.
 
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Shadow Wolf

Certified People sTabber & Business Owner
One thing, the pictures add nothing to the discussion.
Wow, you're trying real hard. You must be the only person in the modern age who has never seen an advertisement. Congratulations !
I still see some, but I am exposed to significantly less than what most are.
You must type with your eyes closed then :)
Nope. My ad-blocker takes care of them and I never have to see ads on the web. And I don't.
Why do you care what Mormons think of you after you've closed the door on them?
I care when they can't take no for an answer. I care when they assume upfront they are more knowledgeable than me over a subject they want to discuss. I care that they assume there must be something wrong with me, something I am missing out on, or why else would they even approach me?
You believe you are better than everyone else
Not at all.
take any newly introduced philosophy presented to you as an insulting challenge to your ego?
To give you an example, some JWs came knocking on my door many years ago when I still practiced neo-Paganism. These two guys wanted to tell me about spirit guides. They assumed I didn't know anything about them, they assumed such a concept was not a part of my religion back then, and the assumption that I needed what they were selling. And then it was a bunch of "but this says, and the Bible says, and the Watch Tower says." They were the ones who had no interests in hearing what I had to say. If I shut them out like that, I can't debate them.
Once again, you worry far too much about this stuff for someone who's a simple atheist.
And once again a theist assumes I am an atheist.
my guess is that you wouldn't take such huge offense at what some well-meaning teenage Mormon missionaries think about you.
I don't care what they think of me. I actually laughed, really hard, when the next one to show up was the "older and more experienced" missionary. I care that very obviously I am not interested, but yet they didn't take the hint and showed back up. And again. And again. There is no other expression for such behavior other than "very ****ing rude."
 

Callisto

Hellenismos, BTW
Why do you assume the worst? I would never talk to about religious beliefs, or mention Hell, to someone, unless I thought it was pertinent. Iow they might actually care..

Well, one can't honestly deny there are a lot of missionaries who are absolute holier-than-thou tools. It's a sad fact.

Other than one exception, every Mormon kid I've encountered has been super nice and wasn't pushy once I made it clear they could save their schpiel. Other missionaries, not so much and make the worst used cars salesman look good in comparison.

I will speak to others the way they speak to me. Act like a jerk, I have no problem responding in kind. Probably the funniest was while driving through several states our car broke down in the mountains. It was off season so no other car came around for more than a 1/2 hour. They gave us a lift, a married couple. Missionaries. They proceeded to proselytize to their captive audience and the wife could tell I wasn't buying it and got testy. Finally, I had enough. We went back n' forth until she played the H card "Well, you're going to HELL if you don't change your ways!"

Me: "This is clearly the express to there, but I'll settle for you letting us off at the next freaking town."

We rode in blissful silence after that.
 

Grumpuss

Active Member
Not by the Mormons; generally, it's the other denominations that go for the threats of Hell.
Ahh, but this thread was about Mormons.

Also, despite the occasional bad delivery, what those other denominations are doing is expressing a concern for your mortal soul. Once again, if you don't like it, tell them so and close your door.
 
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Grandliseur

Well-Known Member
"God's love" is treating other people like children, demeaning their way of life, and insulting their beliefs in their own home?
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Sure. But you're still being overly dramatic with the whole "xenophobia" thing. And with the above quote, of course. You act like I'm trying to sue them or something.



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You're just really not getting it, are you? Radio - I don't listen to it. Newspaper - I don't get them. Television - I don't have cable (as I said before.) Ads on this site and all others - I have ad blocker.

Yet with all these things, if I have a subscription, or I turn on the radio, or I go to a polling booth, I am acknowledging their message and what all comes with it. I do not have a sign on my door or my person that says "Come [REDACTED] on my beliefs and tell me all about your god." So what makes you think that I have to play nice when they pester me incessantly?


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Yes difference. Though to point, I find them and the bell-mongers to be excessively annoying. But the big difference is that they're not coming to my house.


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Oh, you think it's the message that sets my skin a-smolder? No... It's the intrusion of it all - I could care less of the message, it has no importance or consequence. Haven't you been paying attention?


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By using the word "vile" you are putting simple arrogance right up there with the worst of the worst. Or, as I alluded to before, comparing arrogance to rape.


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Or I can tell them to sod off. They have come to my door, and presumed on my beliefs. Nothing obliges me to be nice to them, whatever you think. Free speech and freedom of worship work both ways.


Not much, at all.
Du er ikke den eneste med rodder i norden. (sprog: DK) Well, if you don't know what I am talking about - that's OK. I don't feel like being the light-bearer this time around. You guys study on your own.
 
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Grumpuss

Active Member
One thing, the pictures add nothing to the discussion.
What pictures? Telling details of a story in visual terms, for example, helps the listener.

I still see some, but I am exposed to significantly less than what most are.
So you lied earlier. Great- thanks for the wild goose chase.


Nope. My ad-blocker takes care of them and I never have to see ads on the web. And I don't.
Bully for you.


I care when they can't take no for an answer. I care when they assume upfront they are more knowledgeable than me over a subject they want to discuss. I care that they assume there must be something wrong with me, something I am missing out on, or why else would they even approach me?
Again, you're using some kind of self-esteem issue. You already don't like these missionaries, despite the fact that outwardly they are nothing but pleasant with you (the Latter-Day Saints, that is). But you harbor deep animosity for them anyway because of some notion that they are judging you after you close the door.


Not at all.
Then might I suggest that you truly listen to what the Mormons, or Jehovah's Witnesses are trying to tell you. Perhaps you'll learn something about yourself and become a better person. And of course, you're welcome to attend my church the next time you're in my neighborhood.


To give you an example, some JWs came knocking on my door many years ago when I still practiced neo-Paganism. These two guys wanted to tell me about spirit guides. They assumed I didn't know anything about them, they assumed such a concept was not a part of my religion back then, and the assumption that I needed what they were selling. And then it was a bunch of "but this says, and the Bible says, and the Watch Tower says." They were the ones who had no interests in hearing what I had to say. If I shut them out like that, I can't debate them.
I've had the same experience. You simply tell them that your spiritual needs are taken care of, thank them (optionally), and then close the door. None of them will force their way in, and spew vile hatred at you, while holding you and your Pomeranian hostage.


And once again a theist assumes I am an atheist.
My apology. You are a simple... what, then?


I don't care what they think of me. I actually laughed, really hard, when the next one to show up was the "older and more experienced" missionary. I care that very obviously I am not interested, but yet they didn't take the hint and showed back up. And again. And again. There is no other expression for such behavior other than "very ****ing rude."
Sure. You care so little, that you're here railing against their well wishes, however intentioned, and using hyperbole to state that they must be wrong.

And it's not like Mormons keep a list of addresses to check from. It's different missionaries who are knocking on your door each time, correct? If it is the same pair of Mormons and you feel harassed and/or fear for your life, may I suggest calling the local church and/or police department?
 
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The Kilted Heathen

Crow FreyjasmaðR
Du er ikke den eneste med rodder i norden.
Jeg si ikke jeg var? Which has nothing to do with the issue of proselytizing, by the way.

what those other denominations are doing is expressing a concern for your mortal soul.
They can be concerned in the social safety of their own churches, then. With all the random bible quotes you're tossing out, you're forgetting a very pertinent one: Matthew 10:14 "If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet." All those missionaries that just keep coming back aren't very good at listening, are they?
 
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Grumpuss

Active Member
They can be concerned in the social safety of their own churches, then.
There is nothing wrong with them trying to spread their own message. You might do the same thing, if you had a thing you thought was good news.
With all the random bible quotes you're tossing out, you're forgetting a very pertinent one: Matthew 10:14 "If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet."
Oh, that's a good one. But Matthew also said in that same passage, "Whatever town or village you enter, search there for some worthy person and stay at their house until you leave." and "If the home is deserving, let your peace rest on it; if it is not, let your peace return to you."

Your quoted verse had to do with those who are openly hostile to Jesus's disciples and their well-wishes and good deeds.
All those missionaries that just keep coming back aren't very good at listening, are they?
I sincerely doubt it is the same missionaries.
 
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The Kilted Heathen

Crow FreyjasmaðR
There is nothing wrong with them trying to spread their own message.
Of course there is - some people are tired of hearing it. Especially in their own homes. What makes their message and their beliefs any better than what I've got? (Of which they know nothing about prior to knocking and ridiculously asking if I know about Jesus, by the way).

You might do the same thing,
No, I might not. I've got more respect for other people's right to belief.

But Matthew also said in that same passage...
And that contradicts my point... how? They're not going to find a friend or a convert at my door; best leave me be and try a few doors down. And if the whole neighborhood rejects their message, maybe don't keep trying. And if they happen to find a welcoming home, bully for them.

Your quoted verse had to do with those who are openly hostile to Jesus's disciples
Perhaps, but also - as clearly stated - those who don't welcome them or listen to their words.

I sincerely doubt it is the same missionaries.
You can sincerely doubt to your heart's content. You're not here, and you don't know who comes to my door. I do.
 

Grumpuss

Active Member
Of course there is - some people are tired of hearing it. Especially in their own homes. What makes their message and their beliefs any better than what I've got? (Of which they know nothing about prior to knocking and ridiculously asking if I know about Jesus, by the way).
These are just well-wishing people, come to give you something, per their intent. You're making a judgment call about them without knowing them either.

Perhaps you ought to invite them in next time, and share ideas.


No, I might not. I've got more respect for other people's right to belief.
How would anyone ever change their belief about anything, if new ideas are never introduced? The Earth is no longer believed to be flat, geocentrism has been discredited, and blacks & women can now vote.

And that contradicts my point... how? They're not going to find a friend or a convert at my door; best leave me be and try a few doors down. And if the whole neighborhood rejects their message, maybe don't keep trying. And if they happen to find a welcoming home, bully for them.
How do they know that though? If you wanted to stop such attempts (and by different people, I might add), you could put a "No Solicitation" sign on your screen door, or maybe even something more strongly worded. Instead, you allow the knocks to continue and your own agitation to fester.

Perhaps, but also - as clearly stated - those who don't welcome them or listen to their words.
You realize, a couple of lines later, Sodom and Gomorrah is referenced, right? That's where Matthew is basically saying some people are too evil, too far gone, and a horrible fate awaits them anyway. Despite telling the 12 to try their hardest to find goodness and do good deeds, even in the face of overwhelming odds.

You can sincerely doubt to your heart's content. You're not here, and you don't know who comes to my door. I do.
So you know these are the identical missionaries, and not merely different Latter-Day Saints preaching a similar message?
 
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The Kilted Heathen

Crow FreyjasmaðR
These are just well-wishing people, come to give you something, per their intent.
I know, they're just so pleasant, coming to nicely assume about me and tell me how wrong I am. It's funny that you're - yet again - accusing us of the exact same thing that their whole operation depends upon.

Perhaps you ought to invite them in next time, and share ideas.
You assume that I have not tried this. What was that about judgement calls?

How would anyone ever change their belief about anything, if new ideas are never introduced?
If I want to find out about their god - assuming, as they do, that I know nothing about him - then I'll go to their church. While they're at my door they're on my time.

If you wanted to stop such attempts (and by different people, I might add), you could put a "No Solicitation" sign on your screen door,
Yeah, until they completely ignore those signs with the completely dishonest claim that they're not soliciting, so the sign doesn't apply to them. Stop trying to put all the responsibility on our end; as it is our homes, we have the right to be left alone in them. They are the ones intruding, and the ones that need to change if this sort of thing is to be alleviated.

You realize, a couple of lines later, Sodom and Gomorrah is referenced, right?
And? It still gives the very clear message of "if people won't listen to you, leave them (to their folly)." They can think I'm hellbound all they want, I really don't care. But by persisting in coming to my door trying to convert me, they're not really paying attention to their bibles all that well.

So you know these are the identical missionaries, and not merely different Latter-Day Saints preaching a similar message?
Unless they've got clones running around with the same name.
 
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