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[nightwolf]

Hello,

I been having really hard times lately and can't seem to point the finger on why. My wife and children and I moved recently to someplace new. We have done nothing here but have one mishap after another. I lost jobs I have had here through no direct fault of my own, we have had money problems big time because of this (to the point we are waiting for eviction papers). Things have been like this for years for me....I have lost jobs, we had a baby 2 years ago that almost didn't make it, I have had law problems etc....I am starting to wonder if my beliefs are getting in the way of me making it in life and sending me bad luck. I have always been a material person despite my money problems, I wonder if this is me missing the whole point of life.

I years ago was a christain man. I did not goto church because I really don't believe in the judgement that goes on in congragations, but I did read the bible and live by the word and pray. I found things in the bible at the time that just made me not believe it. I prayed to God for light and recieved it and asked for direction and was told 2 times in a row through dreams I was meant to be a preacher. I have been sitting here and trying to assess (spelling?) my life and wonder if me turning a blind eye to the christain faith is somehow causing my problems? My current belief system would tell me that I am causing my own problems and to a point it would be correct, but, there has been so much happen to me over the last few years that I am believing it can't all be me. Devine intervention maybe to get my attention, I don't know. Seems like lately God has been heavy on my mind, but I screwed it all up! I took a innocent women and ruined her faith (my wife) with what I believe(d?). Now if I so much as think christain she wonders why? How do I fix my screw up there, it was my doing! The funny thing is if you search my posts I was at bat for the christain faith even though I was not. I just wonder if anyone could lend me some insight and tell me if they really think this could be my problem. I have read the bible and know above average about it, so feel free to throw me relevant passages that might answer my questions. I am just lost.....Please help me!

 

[FatMan]

Seems like a lot of stuff to try and fix.

I'm really not good at dispensing advice, but my attempt here would be to take things in order:
1) Map out a plan to get a budget going - this should alleviate some of the issues with money
2) Make a vow to live your life on the straight and narrow until you and the family can get settled
3) Then tackle the spiritual issues.

In my experiences, people who are having a rough go turn to religion as something that will get them going again. And in some cases the support of a congregation or those who interact with them is a promising start. But nevertheless, the reason there are problems to begin with usually aren't specifically related to one's lack of faith. Fix what you can and move forward. Set a goal and go after it. And don't expect things to turn around immediately - brace for a trying road ahead, but don't give up.

I hope that helps, but in all honesty, I suck at this.

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Hello,

I been having really hard times lately and can't seem to point the finger on why. My wife and children and I moved recently to someplace new. We have done nothing here but have one mishap after another. I lost jobs I have had here through no direct fault of my own, we have had money problems big time because of this (to the point we are waiting for eviction papers). Things have been like this for years for me....I have lost jobs, we had a baby 2 years ago that almost didn't make it, I have had law problems etc....I am starting to wonder if my beliefs are getting in the way of me making it in life and sending me bad luck. I have always been a material person despite my money problems, I wonder if this is me missing the whole point of life.

I years ago was a christain man. I did not goto church because I really don't believe in the judgement that goes on in congragations, but I did read the bible and live by the word and pray. I found things in the bible at the time that just made me not believe it. I prayed to God for light and recieved it and asked for direction and was told 2 times in a row through dreams I was meant to be a preacher. I have been sitting here and trying to assess (spelling?) my life and wonder if me turning a blind eye to the christain faith is somehow causing my problems? My current belief system would tell me that I am causing my own problems and to a point it would be correct, but, there has been so much happen to me over the last few years that I am believing it can't all be me. Devine intervention maybe to get my attention, I don't know. Seems like lately God has been heavy on my mind, but I screwed it all up! I took a innocent women and ruined her faith (my wife) with what I believe(d?). Now if I so much as think christain she wonders why? How do I fix my screw up there, it was my doing! The funny thing is if you search my posts I was at bat for the christain faith even though I was not. I just wonder if anyone could lend me some insight and tell me if they really think this could be my problem. I have read the bible and know above average about it, so feel free to throw me relevant passages that might answer my questions. I am just lost.....Please help me!

The best thing that you can do - in my humble opinion - is to have a long talk with a Christian pastor or priest.

Also, if I were you, I'd talk this over with the wife, too.

Christianity is all about something called redemption. Christianity teaches, as you know, that humans are all imperfect and in need of help from God to be all that we can be. Our imperfections lead to all kinds of problems, and we can make a real mess out of our lives. The point of Christianity is to look to God in the midst of our imperfection and find God in our suffering, allowing God to fix our hearts and minds.

As for luck... work hard and trust in God, that's all one can do.

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Also, if drinking had anything to do with these problems, it's best to stop and/or get help.

 

[Darkness]

You are at a tough position in life, my friend. You either have to decide whether or not you want to follow an invisible God or try to take control of your life by natural means. The problem I see with going to religion to solve your life's problems is that you may wait for God to solve your problems. Only you can solve your own problems.

 

[Gentoo]

I've often heard it said that people make their own luck, but also I sometimes feel that there's more behind it than just that. I would say to talk to your wife, and let her know what you're thinking and why (if you can). At least for her sake, make a conscious effort to turn things around (not to imply that you're not, just saying) for the better.

Good luck to you and your family.