Talked Over

[The Hammer]

I can't be the only one who finds this absolutely annoying.

When you are having a conversation with someone, and they talk over you, thinking they know what you are talking about, but not actually hearing what you are saying.

Even just interrupting and talking over a person is rude. I had this happen a lot this past weekend as I dealt with my best friend, and my sister-in-law. Neither of them are good at just "listening" it seems.

 

[JustGeorge]

Yes... I have a few close to me that do this. It is annoying.

On the flip side, I know a few who ramble on and on and on, and never give others a chance to talk, and that's equally as annoying.

 

[Stevicus]

I can't be the only one who finds this absolutely annoying.

When you are having a conversation with someone, and they talk over you, thinking they know what you are talking about, but not actually hearing what you are saying.

Even just interrupting and talking over a person is rude. I had this happen a lot this past weekend as I dealt with my best friend, and my sister-in-law. Neither of them are good at just "listening" it seems.

Happens to me with some people I know. I avoid conversations with them.

Usually, I'm pretty mellow and quiet, although when faced with loud interrupters, I resort to my Hippo Hurricane Holler which I learned from Peter Potamus.

 

[sun rise]

Yes... I have a few close to me that do this. It is annoying.

On the flip side, I know a few who ramble on and on and on, and never give others a chance to talk, and that's equally as annoying.

Gender grump - I've been in a group with several women. They have the art of not letting a split second go by when one or the other is not speaking.

 

[The Kilted Heathen]

This happens to me a lot at my job (telecommunications), and it's most frustrating when there's a specific issue that needs solved. Like buddy, you called me. You evidently don't know how to fix your phone, shut up and let me do my job.

 

[JustGeorge]

Gender grump - I've been in a group with several women. They have the art of not letting a split second go by when one or the other is not speaking.

I've experienced this with both genders, but it is obnoxious either way.

 

[idea]

I find being completely 100% fine on your own alleviates much angst.

Example - everyone decides on movie/restaurant/activity without listening to your input? Simple, don't go

I always carry a book, and earbuds, for the freedom of opting out of any convo at any time

 

[Heyo]

I can't be the only one who finds this absolutely annoying.

When you are having a conversation with someone, and they talk over you, thinking they know what you are talking about, but not actually hearing what you are saying.

Even just interrupting and talking over a person is rude. I had this happen a lot this past weekend as I dealt with my best friend, and my sister-in-law. Neither of them are good at just "listening" it seems.

IRL I am so quiet that most people listen when I speak, maybe out of astonishment that I can.

 

[JustGeorge]

IRL I am so quiet that most people listen when I speak, maybe out of astonishment that I can.

They don't even hear me...

But when I get mad(which is seldom)... they so don't see it coming, it causes a bit of panic.

 

[Heyo]

They don't even hear me...

But when I get mad(which is seldom)... they so don't see it coming, it causes a bit of panic.

You won't like me when I'm angry. ;-)

Happened only twice over the last 20 years. One time it drove away some friends who needed a year to recover and admit I was right.
The other time I lost it in conversation with someone I usually grant all the freedom to talk over me and dismiss me - people who pay me. I lost the job, of course.

 

[JDMS]

I had a bad habit of doing this when I was younger. I thought it was a good way to show that I've been interested in what they are saying, enough that I'm actively thinking about the situation rather than passively listening; I now know that that is not how it comes across to others, and I myself don't appreciate when people do it to me. So I've been working on it for years

 

[Mock Turtle]

My only experience of this, that might be seen as above what one can often expect from those with strong beliefs, is of one friend of a friend who had the most annoying habit of jumping in again after speaking and when a pause would usually indicate room for someone to reply (which is that he then carried on speaking as soon as you started) - when allowing others to speak is what most people do. He apparently died when quite young and I suspect that a brain issue caused this and perhaps was responsible for his interrupting behaviour.

 

[Soandso]

I do have a habit of doing this from time to time when I get super excited about a given conversation, but I usually realise it happens and dial it back. I also do it when I talk with people who talk over me, gish gallop, or with people where it's hard to get a word in edgewise - especially in crowds. I may annoy some people with it, but at least they know that I'm engaged with what they say, heh

 

[PureX]

Years ago I caught myself doing that to other people, and had to make a conscious effort not to.

I was puzzled by why I felt such a strong need to express whatever I was thinking, immediately. I still don't know why, but I did realize that nothing I was thinking was really all that important. So I began to shut up and listen more.