The Ignore List

[Jayhawker Soule]

Why do some RFians need to tell a person(s) they want to "ignore" that they will be put X person on ignore?

To me, it seems like a pride thing or an indirect way of "getting back" at the person or maybe running away from the problem and not addressing it (or moving on).

Maybe some of you want to see the other's reaction to feel better about your being right?

Obviously not (as has been pointed out).

But I'm curious. Why do you need to tell people you are going to ignore them?

An "I won-I got the last word" feeling?

Again, obviously not, if only because broadcasting the decision would in no way stop the ignored person from responding in any event.

I do it for clarity. There have been a number of cases in the past where someone I've ignored has made further efforts to engage me. In a few cases they have done so in more than one thread. Rather than leaving them waiting for a response, I prefer to let them know that none will be forthcoming. It's a simple gesture. If it bothers you, I'll gladly avoid doing so in your case should the situation arise.

 

[Harel13]

Actually yes, I had forgotten that I also left CARM, also silently, some years ago.

That was because the evangelical bias of the site's policies became so strong it was a joke - serious discussion became impossible.

I agree. Before arriving here I found CARM. I still drop by there occasionally. However, a short time after coming here, their forums crashed. Since then, they still have problems. As it is said: "behold, the hand of the LORD is upon (thee)"

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Well obviously it can't be to see a reaction, seeing as you won't see any reaction, because they are on Ignore!

I sometimes do it, partly to save them the bother of responding to any more of my posts, as I won't see them, and partly as a little piece of feedback, to them and to other readers of the thread, to let them know that at least one person no longer considers the opinions of the poster are worth bothering with.

I only sometimes do this. When the poster in question is obviously barking mad, or an obvious troll, I don't bother.

As for "running away", running away from a bore or a lunatic is an entirely rational response.

I guess it would depend on the person?

Wouldn't it be contradictory to put someone on ignore while at the same telling them you will as a means of courtesy?

This is assuming you're talking to people you wouldn't initially bother with.

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Because some people are perennially irritating.

Before I started using the Ignore function, I found internet forum sessions would quite often leave me feeling annoyed and frustrated, rather than satisfied with a good discussion or with something learned. One of my character weaknesses is that I don't suffer fools gladly. The Ignore function reduces my exposure to them.

There's a kind of a con with the ignore function. When you ignore too many people, you realize you get no alerts. Then it dawns on you most people here are negative and may make you decide not to return. But I guess we don't know (or it's habitual) to stay in negativity until we change the "environment" and no longer in their comfort zone anymore?

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Obviously not (as has been pointed out).


Again, obviously not, if only because broadcasting the decision would in no way stop the ignored person from responding in any event.

I do it for clarity. There have been a number of cases in the past where someone I've ignored has made further efforts to engage me. In a few cases they have done so in more than one thread. Rather than leaving them waiting for a response, I prefer to let them know that none will be forthcoming. It's a simple gesture. If it bothers you, I'll gladly avoid doing so in your case should the situation arise.

The OP isn't specific to any person so conversations are cool, but you don't need to explain yourself.

If you're going to ignore them anyway, then the response of "letting them know" would be contradictory to your action.

Unless they flood the screen, I guess (which is why I usually ignore-visual reasons), using the ignore function isn't necessary. If you don't want to respond, don't respond. They'll live.

 

[Cooky]

Nor will it let us put moderators on ignore regardless how much they beg for it.

How do you know?

 

[Terry Sampson]

became so strong

Became??? LOL!

 

[Terry Sampson]

How do you know?

I've tried.

 

[SalixIncendium]

Why do some RFians need to tell a person(s) they want to "ignore" that they will be put X person on ignore?

To me, it seems like a pride thing or an indirect way of "getting back" at the person or maybe running away from the problem and not addressing it (or moving on).

Maybe some of you want to see the other's reaction to feel better about your being right?

From what I remember, when I ignored people (which, years ago, where quite a few), I never told them. Recently, I half-told one person but never said I will ignore you but just not talk to that person anymore. I can't think of the emotion I felt.

But I'm curious. Why do you need to tell people you are going to ignore them?

An "I won-I got the last word" feeling?

You can't tell, but I'm ignoring this post.

 

[Pipiripi]

Ignore people is not coming from a true Christians character. Why? Because Jesus has teach us to love, and love is have passion.

 

[SalixIncendium]

There have been a number of cases in the past where someone I've ignored has made further efforts to engage me. In a few cases they have done so in more than one thread. Rather than leaving them waiting for a response, I prefer to let them know that none will be forthcoming. It's a simple gesture.

I would think the absence of a response would be a pretty good indicator that no response is forthcoming as well.

It may even indicate to the individual that I've elected to ignore what they said.

 

[SalixIncendium]

This is my current ignore list:

Truth be told, I tend to ignore specific posts, not people.

That's not to say that aren't select members who tend to accelerate my scroll wheel.

 

[Secret Chief]

tend to accelerate my scroll wheel

What a cool and groovy phrase.

I don't think I've used it, although I've had a couple of candidates. It's good to have the option imo, in real life no-one is expected to "get along" with everyone they meet. Oil and water. I used to put my boss on Ignore.

 

[McBell]

This is my current ignore list:

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Truth be told, I tend to ignore specific posts, not people.

That's not to say that aren't select members who tend to accelerate my scroll wheel.

I have one person on ignore.
And that is simply because they are unable to answer "no" in less than 500 words and the 500 word reply looks like they arbitrarily selected 500 words and then randomly put them in the post.

 

[exchemist]

I guess it would depend on the person?

Wouldn't it be contradictory to put someone on ignore while at the same telling them you will as a means of courtesy?

This is assuming you're talking to people you wouldn't initially bother with.

Contradictory? No. You tell them you are through engaging with them and THEN, having done so, you put them on Ignore. Who said anything about courtesy?

I don't follow why are you assuming I am talking to people I wouldn't initially bother with. That makes no sense. As I said, if they are obviously nuts or trolls, I just silently put them on Ignore (if they post enough for me to stumble over them to an irritating extent - I don't bother with drive-by posters).

If they initially seem as if they might be reasonable, then I talk to them. But if it subsequently becomes evident they are wasting my time or winding me up, then I tell them I've had it with them - and put them on Ignore.

 

[Terry Sampson]

This is my current ignore list:

You're a Moderator. If I can't ignore you, you shouldn't be able to ignore me.

 

[McBell]

You're a Moderator. If I can't ignore you, you shouldn't be able to ignore me.

based upon what, exactly?

 

[exchemist]

There's a kind of a con with the ignore function. When you ignore too many people, you realize you get no alerts. Then it dawns on you most people here are negative and may make you decide not to return. But I guess we don't know (or it's habitual) to stay in negativity until we change the "environment" and no longer in their comfort zone anymore?

This is wholly imaginary issue, unless you are so hair-trigger sensitive that you put almost everyone on Ignore.

Look, I put a few people I find especially tiresome and/or unrewarding to read on Ignore. The likes of Deeje and Notanumber, for example. I get plenty of alerts, without having to read the annoying posts of people like these.

I don't understand what all this is about most people being -ve. I don't find that in the least. I think there are some really knowledgeable, lively and civilised minds here: people such as Polymath, Vouthon, Sayak, Heyo, Metis, Dan (just names off the top of my head) - and I always find Rabbi O's interjections kindly and amusing....and so on.

 

[Terry Sampson]

based upon what, exactly?

It's a fact that I can't ignore a Moderator; I've tried. Just doesn't seem fair that a Moderator could ignore me.

 

[exchemist]

Ignore people is not coming from a true Christians character. Why? Because Jesus has teach us to love, and love is have passion.

You are getting close to my threshold, by the way.