Chickie17
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This sounds obvious.
I was at my prom tonight. It was beautiful, everyone looked beautiful, and felt it. Girls were complimenting each other, a girl I haven't spoken to since elementary school hugged me, and some other girls I barely knew asked me to come dance with them.
There is another girl in my grade who I never particularly liked. Her viewpoints in history class were annoying opposite of my own, and she, well, was with a boy I kind of liked. I am not petty: I tried not to let the latter affect me, and it mostly didn't. I knew she was friends with a friend, and on top of it, she was highly intelligent, for all her policies.
I saw her in the bathroom, we smiled at each other, and I told her how beautiful her dress was. I meant it. She's a very pretty girl, and she looked stunning.
In a sincere voice, she said thank you, you too. It wasn't a formality, she seemed like she really meant it, and I do believe I looked nice.
I still feel happy about it. Seeing her as a decent human being instead of annoying left me feeling lifted of an ailment I hadn't realized I had. She and I had never been rude to each other, but we both knew that we were on different ends of the political spectrum. I'd felt something passively negative towards her, but now I feel better even though I hadn't realized how bad I'd felt before.
Dislike, belittlement, or envy are all negative emotions that are directed at someone else. Since they receive another's ill will, we may not realize how what we're doing affects us. But in order to dislike someone, we have to feel their negative impact-- we have to feel them hurt us. We have to hurt, and that's never good.
Instead, we can disagree with actions, with beliefs, but they are temporary, tertiary things. It may feel good to hate someone, but it feels better to have a basic love for them.
You may stop a person from doing every thing they set out for, you may lock them up, you may kill them, but it is always a calculated action for the betterment of the whole, never for personal gratification.
This may seem an obvious point; in reality, we allow ourselves and others to "hate" people who are ignorant, arrogant, exes, partners to those whom we are attracted to, rude to us on a first meeting, and more.
Need to stop someone for the preservation of self or another is sufficient motivation to do something. To me, hate is never necessary.
For a seeker, anyone know of any religions that stress universal love?
I was at my prom tonight. It was beautiful, everyone looked beautiful, and felt it. Girls were complimenting each other, a girl I haven't spoken to since elementary school hugged me, and some other girls I barely knew asked me to come dance with them.
There is another girl in my grade who I never particularly liked. Her viewpoints in history class were annoying opposite of my own, and she, well, was with a boy I kind of liked. I am not petty: I tried not to let the latter affect me, and it mostly didn't. I knew she was friends with a friend, and on top of it, she was highly intelligent, for all her policies.
I saw her in the bathroom, we smiled at each other, and I told her how beautiful her dress was. I meant it. She's a very pretty girl, and she looked stunning.
In a sincere voice, she said thank you, you too. It wasn't a formality, she seemed like she really meant it, and I do believe I looked nice.
I still feel happy about it. Seeing her as a decent human being instead of annoying left me feeling lifted of an ailment I hadn't realized I had. She and I had never been rude to each other, but we both knew that we were on different ends of the political spectrum. I'd felt something passively negative towards her, but now I feel better even though I hadn't realized how bad I'd felt before.
Dislike, belittlement, or envy are all negative emotions that are directed at someone else. Since they receive another's ill will, we may not realize how what we're doing affects us. But in order to dislike someone, we have to feel their negative impact-- we have to feel them hurt us. We have to hurt, and that's never good.
Instead, we can disagree with actions, with beliefs, but they are temporary, tertiary things. It may feel good to hate someone, but it feels better to have a basic love for them.
You may stop a person from doing every thing they set out for, you may lock them up, you may kill them, but it is always a calculated action for the betterment of the whole, never for personal gratification.
This may seem an obvious point; in reality, we allow ourselves and others to "hate" people who are ignorant, arrogant, exes, partners to those whom we are attracted to, rude to us on a first meeting, and more.
Need to stop someone for the preservation of self or another is sufficient motivation to do something. To me, hate is never necessary.
For a seeker, anyone know of any religions that stress universal love?
