What Attracts You To Another

[Yerda]

Reading Sunstone's friends thread I got curious as to what it is I like about my own friends.

What is it that compels you to spend time with another person?

What do you guys find romantically appealing?

 

[cardero]

I usually look for kindness, an ability to listen, the capability to laugh, intelligent people because I like to meet people who are constantly thinking and speak their mind. I am usually attracted to the beauty within. Understanding people, people who are genuinely sincere. People who are not afraid to be who they are rather than people who live what for what other people expect them to be. I willingness to be open-minded. To see and do and try new experiences.

WHAT REPELS ME FROM ANOTHER
People who are too busy for me (it is important to know when you have stayed your welcome or how important people feel about you in their lives), phony people, stereotypes, people whose personalities were assigned to them, stubbornness, close minded people with just one point of view. Hypocritical people or people who are depressing. People who are constantly striving for attention whether it is through beauty or sickness or through lying. Malicious, manipulative, uncaring people. Skeptical, negative people. People who hide behind intellect or who are not honest with themselves.

 

[michel]

I usually look for kindness, an ability to listen, the capability to laugh, intelligent people because I like to meet people who are constantly thinking and speak their mind. I am usually attracted to the beauty within. Understanding people, people who are genuinely sincere. People who are not afraid to be who they are rather than people who live what for what other people expect them to be. I willingness to be open-minded. To see and do and try new experiences.

WHAT REPELS ME FROM ANOTHER
People who are too busy for me (it is important to know when you have stayed your welcome or how important people feel about you in their lives), phony people, stereotypes, people whose personalities were assigned to them, stubbornness, close minded people with just one point of view. Hypocritical people or people who are depressing. People who are constantly striving for attention whether it is through beauty or sickness or through lying. Malicious, manipulative, uncaring people. Skeptical, negative people. People who hide behind intellect or who are not honest with themselves.

That just about covers my criteria - the only additional thing I can think of to add is that I tend to avoid people who can't or rather, don't look at you in the eye when they are talking.:tsk:

 

[Green Gaia]

Someone who is intelligent and continually seeks knowledge and wisdom, is compassionate towards all, and is intensely passionate about their life's work. These are the things I find attractive, not necessarily romantic attraction though.

 

[Dr. Nosophoros]

Intelligence, honesty, self confidence and humor in women, I do find jealousy pretty much a turn-off when it's vocalized (she's fat, ugly, etc.) but kind of cute when it isn't, it's natural to a degree. Romantically appealing? pretty much everything I said and it all works out from there but physically I am not usually attracted to very skinny women, I generally prefer women with a little extra, I don't want a stick but I don't want the michelin woman either but pretty much anywhere else in between is fine if they possess the qualities I described origionally.

 

[mrscardero]

What is it that compels you to spend time with another person?

Those who are willing to be honest to themselves and to others. Those who are caring, loving, funny, understanding, and more. Those who don't mind hanging out or being friends with those who are wild and crazy like me

. My friends think I am crazy but they are still my friends to this day. No matter how weird I get, they never seem to turn their backs on me. They are always there to share in laughter and joy. Those who have an understanding about themselves and not hide behind a mask.

Positive Positive Positive!!!

Those who are positive and have a positive outlook in everything.
In my line of work, the clients with (manic depression, bipolar, schitzo, etc), have a negative feeling about life so I have to help them think positive. I get enough negativity around me 5 days a week, let's boost the energy up peeps.

What do you guys find romantically appealing?

Someone who don't mind watching cartoons because everyone has a child in them.
Someone who is into video games and comics.
Someone who is not shy about crying when it comes to sad movies or crying in general.
Someone who doesn't mind being with a wild and crazy female like me.
Someone who is positive at times.
Someone who is there for me to talk too.
Someone who is loving caring and understanding.
Someone who share the same interest.


carrdero pretty much has it covered. I am surprised he still sticks around.
Must be my age

 

[Doc]

I tend to avoid people who can't or rather, don't look at you in the eye when they are talking.:tsk:

Ah yes, I became a master at such a thing last year. That is a very useful tool especially when talking to adults. They know you are listening.

For me, it has freaked quite a few people out and astounded others. One girl said how her boyfriend would not look her in the eye, but me, the geeky band kid, would.

As for things that attract me to a girl. I have met very few that qualify. I think that is partly because I go to a private school and most of them are rich. My friends from Health Class call me 'Poor Buddha'.

In a girl, I first look for a sense of humor. Next, they have to be able to speak above a whisper. But I don't like excessively loud people. I would prefer they're not afraid of embaressment. (It is a commitment to make when being around me) Physical Attraction is not really important to me. I like the inner soul of people. I don't really want people who boast about their intellect. But I do like intellectual people. Someone who is very objective. Philosopher. Likes books.

If you havn't guessed, not many teenage girls fit this criteria which is a reason I have never had a girlfriend for more than a week. But if there is an oddball guy like me, then I do not doubt there is a oddball girl like the one described above.

 

[Ceridwen018]

Brains, sense of humor, and hot bod, lol.

 

[jewscout]

Someone who can take a joke
And i nice a$$

 

[Jaymes]

Similar interests, empathy for the suffering of others, and good humor attract me to people.

 

[Lightkeeper]

Someone who can take a joke
And i nice a$$

So you're saying she has to be the "butt" of your jokes?:biglaugh:

 

[Lightkeeper]

Intelligence, humor and honesty attracts me to people. I think that what attracts people to each other, though, is so complex that we can't really describe it.

 

[Scuba Pete]

Kindness, humility and intelligence in that order. Sort of how I would like to be!

But I accept any and all as friends and do not force my values on others.

 

[Lycan]

Attraction -
To friends - the ability to carry on a conversation farther than, "Fire bad. Tree pretty" is a good start, other than that, besides the obvious honesty, I am pretty open to friendships and such.

To love interests - I can't really describe it, I have dated various "types" of guys. It just 'clicks'
of course to keep me interested, that is a different story.

 

[anders]

An intelligent and caring person (so far I have only considered women), who has interests similar to mine and with whom I can discuss those interests, and with whom I on the other hand feel comfortable being silent with.

The physical side is close to unimportant. If I feel a sufficiently close and mutual relation towards a woman, I have had sufficent proof during my rather long life that her looks etc. don't matter, the main point about the exterior being that she accept herself.

 

[Rex]

Not one person said the way the person looks.

I think we have some fibbers here.

 

[cardero]

Not one person said the way the person looks.

I think we have some fibbers here.

I think because looks can be decieving and that the aspect of people's "looks" can change almost daily. Really, I'm not lying.:162:

 

[Lookingformeaning]

I honestly could not tell you what attracts another person to another, but all i know is once your attracted watch out because it could blow up right in your face. lol

 

[Yerda]

Kindness, humility and intelligence in that order. Sort of how I would like to be!

Sums it up for me.

But I accept any and all as friends and do not force my values on others.

Aye right,

I see nobody has mentioned alcoholism, self-destructiveness, arrogance etc. These appear to be the traits that some of my own friends crave.

 

[Sunstone]

I'm attracted to massively dysfunctional women who have extreme problems handling any kind of intimacy.