What do you lie about?

[Laika]

Everybody lies. Some lies are bigger than others, but ultimately we tell them to avoid conflict and not to hurt others or be hurt ourselves. That doesn't necessarily make us bad people. Society expects us to wear a mask and practice civility and to conform. Sometimes that is easier than being ourselves. Sometimes it isn't because we lie about what makes us feel vulnerable and yet it only gives us an illusion of safety. it can be a release to let it go if only as a form of self-acceptance.

I lie to my parents and freinds about getting a job. I keep putting it off. I don't think getting a job is going to make me happy and it could well make my depression worse given how difficult it is to get one and how limited the oppurtunities are. I don't even think its going to make me "successful" and I don't want that to be how I am valued as a person. Trying to live up to their expectations is not the life I really want but they so "certian" about what they think is good for me that they don't actually ask and get to know who I am. I've had depression and there is now a big gap in my CV of several years, its going to be impossible for me to hide it and if I bring it up in a job interview, I think that any future employer will discriminate and not want to take the risk of hiring me. I'd love to write a novel and see my name in print and maybe make money that way but I lie too much to myself about what I want, so I can't focus enough to find out what I would want to write about. So that really screws with my creativity.

What do you lie about?

Note: Keep it legal btw so it stays in the forum rules.

 

[Eliab ben Benjamin]

Not sure there is much ..
perhaps the occasional compliment to help someone feel better....

or perhaps to bring hope and healing when being a paramedic

 

[PeteC-UK]

Hi Folks...

Hmm - NOT everybody lies - not at all...My nephew Steve NEVER uttered a false truth in his entire adult life - no scrap that - actually, from age about ten he NEVER uttered a lie - even if it meant confessing openly to his many wrong doings STILL he would ALWAYS without fail tell the truth and only truth... His mum my sister came to realise she could use Steve to determine the guilt of others also, for he would not lie ever - and so Steve would just tell her straight Im not grassing anybody up and would just refuse her questions rather than speak bad of others...even if it meant his silence got HIM punishment STILL he would neither lie nor speak badly of others.. NOT ONCE as far a s I can recall did I ever hear him speak a blatant lie..he made mistakes of course, got things wrong - but what he said he always TRULY believed until proved iotherwise and he would NEVER compromise his truth in any way....

really he was a most remarkable and extraordinary individual...

as for my Self..?...I try to emulate THAT authentic Self truth - but am far more pragmatic and so realise that occasionally open truth can be harmful to others - and so on occasion, you may hear me utter a deliberate "white lie" to avoid a future painful truth - but if I do so it is always to protect the Other - and for my Self I ALWAYS look truth straight in the eye so to speak, and never deny Who or What Iam or have done...

 

[illykitty]

Well, not sure if that counts as a lie, but I often soften my views when talking to others, I don't want to offend or hurt other's feelings. I see it as more civil than to be blunt. I may not be 100% myself around them either. It's just that I have contrarian views from some friends, politically and such, and I don't want that to get in the way of our friendship. It doesn't mean that I agree with them but rather I don't come off as being as passionate as I truly am inside. Or if they ask me if I like something, I might say something along the lines of "I'm not into it but it's ok" even if I hate it. I don't feel the expression of my opinion to be all that important to potentially cause some friction. It's never happened but if they said or did something really bad I'd disapprove of it and tell them. As it is now, when it's just tastes, worldviews and some harmless things, I can't talk to them like I feel inside. I'd come off as too preachy and such.

I lied a few times to someone to get out of an uncomfortable conversation or situation, saying I needed to do something and had to go. Basically I wanted to avoid getting uncomfortable to the point of saying something I might regret.

Hmm, those are ones I can think of on top of my head. I've lied for other situations but the pattern points towards avoidance as the main reason for my lies.

 

[Shrew]

My weight.

 

[Laika]

My weight.

I know the feeling on that one. I'd love to lose some weight but just find it very hard. I'd give you a hug if I could.

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Everybody lies. Some lies are bigger than others, but ultimately we tell them to avoid conflict and not to hurt others or be hurt ourselves. That doesn't necessarily make us bad people. Society expects us to wear a mask and practice civility and to conform. Sometimes that is easier than being ourselves. Sometimes it isn't because we lie about what makes us feel vulnerable and yet it only gives us an illusion of safety. it can be a release to let it go if only as a form of self-acceptance.

I lie to my parents and freinds about getting a job. I keep putting it off. I don't think getting a job is going to make me happy and it could well make my depression worse given how difficult it is to get one and how limited the oppurtunities are. I don't even think its going to make me "successful" and I don't want that to be how I am valued as a person. Trying to live up to their expectations is not the life I really want but they so "certian" about what they think is good for me that they don't actually ask and get to know who I am. I've had depression and there is now a big gap in my CV of several years, its going to be impossible for me to hide it and if I bring it up in a job interview, I think that any future employer will discriminate and not want to take the risk of hiring me. I'd love to write a novel and see my name in print and maybe make money that way but I lie too much to myself about what I want, so I can't focus enough to find out what I would want to write about. So that really screws with my creativity.

What do you lie about?

Note: Keep it legal btw so it stays in the forum rules.

Believe it or not, I dont lie in my personal life. People perceive me lying because they see my facial expression and actions They feel doesnt match my words. Instead of taking interest in what I say theyve already made up their conclusions.

I dont lie to family and friends. I see no need to even if I thought I should. Even white lies like "you look nice in that outfit" doesnt cross my mind. I usually hesitate and tell them what they Do look good in and say I prefer this ans what you are wearing doesnt stand out (no lie) and its their decision.

The only places I tell point blank lies is when I worked at the Capitol and where I work now. Its for confidentiality sake. Sometimes saying "I dont know her schedule" since we cant give schedules out to non staff is something I do to get X person to stop asking for it. But lying point blank personally. I dont do that.

 

[beenherebeforeagain]

I lie all the time about everything...
Even about lying...
I am lying now about lying all the time...
I am a paradox of lies...

 

[BSM1]

Everybody lies. Some lies are bigger than others, but ultimately we tell them to avoid conflict and not to hurt others or be hurt ourselves. That doesn't necessarily make us bad people. Society expects us to wear a mask and practice civility and to conform. Sometimes that is easier than being ourselves. Sometimes it isn't because we lie about what makes us feel vulnerable and yet it only gives us an illusion of safety. it can be a release to let it go if only as a form of self-acceptance.

I lie to my parents and freinds about getting a job. I keep putting it off. I don't think getting a job is going to make me happy and it could well make my depression worse given how difficult it is to get one and how limited the oppurtunities are. I don't even think its going to make me "successful" and I don't want that to be how I am valued as a person. Trying to live up to their expectations is not the life I really want but they so "certian" about what they think is good for me that they don't actually ask and get to know who I am. I've had depression and there is now a big gap in my CV of several years, its going to be impossible for me to hide it and if I bring it up in a job interview, I think that any future employer will discriminate and not want to take the risk of hiring me. I'd love to write a novel and see my name in print and maybe make money that way but I lie too much to myself about what I want, so I can't focus enough to find out what I would want to write about. So that really screws with my creativity.

What do you lie about?

Note: Keep it legal btw so it stays in the forum rules.

Nothing. (Oh, shoot, I just lied again).

 

[VioletVortex]

I made a huge lie to the guidance counseled in 8th grade to get out of a huge amount of trouble, and miraculously, she bought it.

I don't lie about much, but there are certain things that I'd like to conceal. This desire applies here, so I will not talk about them.