What scares me the most about life...

[The Sum of Awe]

is that there isn't necessarily a happy ending regardless of how morally you've lived and how much effort you put into your goals. I think it's actually rare to die without regrets or without feeling unfulfilled.

All we can do is play our cards the best we can and in the end, whether we win or lose, at least we can be proud of being competitive. And in the end it was all a game anyways, (or a joke, or a song...) maybe we just need to understand it wasn't meant to be taken seriously and at least we got to play.

 

[AlexanderG]

I think the happy ending is that a life was lived, in all its imperfection, confusion, satisfaction, and joy. The fact that it's ephemeral is precisely what makes life precious. An infinite life would make each moment worthless by definition.

 

[Ben Dhyan]

is that there isn't necessarily a happy ending regardless of how morally you've lived and how much effort you put into your goals. I think it's actually rare to die without regrets or without feeling unfulfilled.

All we can do is play our cards the best we can and in the end, whether we win or lose, at least we can be proud of being competitive. And in the end it was all a game anyways, (or a joke, or a song...) maybe we just need to understand it wasn't meant to be taken seriously and at least we got to play.

Sad that you think this way, my best wishes and hope for your future deeper understanding and appreciation of Existence.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Sad that you think this way, my best wishes and hope for your future deeper understanding and appreciation of Existence.

I do have a lot of appreciation for my existence, I just have recently failed to accomplish a goal and might've spoiled something incredibly special to me. Nothing I won't be able to get over but it brought up this thought, hence the OP. I will always wonder "what if things had went differently"

 

[Spirit of Light]

is that there isn't necessarily a happy ending regardless of how morally you've lived and how much effort you put into your goals. I think it's actually rare to die without regrets or without feeling unfulfilled.

All we can do is play our cards the best we can and in the end, whether we win or lose, at least we can be proud of being competitive. And in the end it was all a game anyways, (or a joke, or a song...) maybe we just need to understand it wasn't meant to be taken seriously and at least we got to play.

Even i have gotten through sosial anxiety i am still scared of most people.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Even i have gotten through sosial anxiety i am still scared of most people.

Why are you scared of most people?

 

[The Sum of Awe]

I think the happy ending is that a life was lived, in all its imperfection, confusion, satisfaction, and joy. The fact that it's ephemeral is precisely what makes life precious. An infinite life would make each moment worthless by definition.

You're absolutely correct, thank you for this perspective.

 

[Spirit of Light]

Why are you scared of most people?

It probably goes back to my childhood from years of bullying. I have gotten better at not being scared. But sometimes I can't control it.

 

[Truth in love]

is that there isn't necessarily a happy ending regardless of how morally you've lived and how much effort you put into your goals. I think it's actually rare to die without regrets or without feeling unfulfilled.

All we can do is play our cards the best we can and in the end, whether we win or lose, at least we can be proud of being competitive. And in the end it was all a game anyways, (or a joke, or a song...) maybe we just need to understand it wasn't meant to be taken seriously and at least we got to play.

I think that when we live well we find peace. Not everything goes our way and we don’t always make the best choices, but if laying in your death bed you can think of those you’ve helped, the times you put in the effort to be kind, forgiving etc and to remember the promises made by Christ and the holy prophets it’s not a bad way to go.

 

[muhammad_isa]

..An infinite life would make each moment worthless by definition.

Well, you said it..
I assume you think that you have nothing to learn .. or that it takes only a relatively small amount of time to learn all?

Forget about "infinite" .. think the present moment, and the moment after that .. and after that .. and after that... ...

 

[Yerda]

It probably goes back to my childhood from years of bullying. I have gotten better at not being scared. But sometimes I can't control it.

What is it you're scared of?

 

[Spirit of Light]

What is it you're scared of?

Mostly everything about other people. I feel uncomfortable especially around people i don't know.

 

[Twilight Hue]

is that there isn't necessarily a happy ending regardless of how morally you've lived and how much effort you put into your goals. I think it's actually rare to die without regrets or without feeling unfulfilled.

All we can do is play our cards the best we can and in the end, whether we win or lose, at least we can be proud of being competitive. And in the end it was all a game anyways, (or a joke, or a song...) maybe we just need to understand it wasn't meant to be taken seriously and at least we got to play.

I think it works along the lines that one day your the cat, the next day your the mouse.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

I think it works along the lines that one day your the cat, the next day your the mouse.

That is true, suffering isn't permanent. I suppose if you think of it that way then whether or not you die happy is whether you're a cat at that moment or a mouse. Really it's a flip of a coin then

 

[AlexanderG]

Well, you said it..
I assume you think that you have nothing to learn .. or that it takes only a relatively small amount of time to learn all?

Forget about "infinite" .. think the present moment, and the moment after that .. and after that .. and after that... ...

Of course I have lots to learn, and not enough time to learn it all. My sacrifice of precious time makes the things I do learn more valuable to me.

Alternatively, I can picture myself 27 quadrillion years from now, continuing on in my eternal life. I've mastered every musical instrument I care to, played every board game out to every permutation, had conversations on every topic that interests me ad nauseum, read every book I can stand to read, etc etc. I'm just left sitting there, bored out of my eternal mind with no more curiosity, and no further desire beyond a fervent wish for it all to end. But I just keep on living. Forever. Each new second an inexorable, worthless extension of suffering. Yuck!

 

[PureX]

is that there isn't necessarily a happy ending regardless of how morally you've lived and how much effort you put into your goals. I think it's actually rare to die without regrets or without feeling unfulfilled.

All we can do is play our cards the best we can and in the end, whether we win or lose, at least we can be proud of being competitive. And in the end it was all a game anyways, (or a joke, or a song...) maybe we just need to understand it wasn't meant to be taken seriously and at least we got to play.

I, personally, think it's a mistake to look at life as something we're supposed to try and "win" at. Something that we're supposed to get as much as we can out of, or give as much as we can, to. I just don't see living is as being a 'quantity of value acquisition' issue. I see it more as a 'quality of response' issue. The gift of my being here comes without orders, or instructions for use. So my life becomes defined and determined by how I am choosing to respond to this gift. If I find myself being unhappy, then clearly I am not responding well. And I should probably change my response unless I like being unhappy. And when I get to the end, and if I can see it coming, then all I will regret is that the gift is being discontinued. Yet even then, I could still choose to respond otherwise, and be grateful for what I've been given.

 

[syo]

is that there isn't necessarily a happy ending regardless of how morally you've lived and how much effort you put into your goals. I think it's actually rare to die without regrets or without feeling unfulfilled.

All we can do is play our cards the best we can and in the end, whether we win or lose, at least we can be proud of being competitive. And in the end it was all a game anyways, (or a joke, or a song...) maybe we just need to understand it wasn't meant to be taken seriously and at least we got to play.

Let us say a big ''thank you'' to all abrahamic religions for this result. My friend, you've reached a dead end. Now what are you going to do?

 

[Aupmanyav]

I think it's actually rare to die without regrets or without feeling unfulfilled.

Rare but achievable. Just do your duty and don't get involved in life more than that. Attachment (Asakti) brings the feeling of being unfulfilled.

 

[Yerda]

Mostly everything about other people. I feel uncomfortable especially around people i don't know.

I see.

I used to get anxious around people I didn't know or more commonly in situations I wasn't used to. I would rather have had my leg sawn off than attend a job interview for instance.

 

[Spirit of Light]

I see.

I used to get anxious around people I didn't know or more commonly in situations I wasn't used to. I would rather have had my leg sawn off than attend a job interview for instance.

I have been there too, I don't feel it as bad now