Well the way I look at it. A woman dancing erotic is an issue because of
1. She shouldn't be showing her body like that and needs to respect her body (which implies that she doesn't, which may not be true).
2. This idea that she doesn't respect her body is reflected in people who believe because she is into erotic dancing means that any advances they make at her is justified because
A. Those who respect themselves would not put themselves in such a position.
B. She's asking for it.
Overall it becomes the person who is dancing who is responsible for making sure you do not act on your desires. Not yourself.
Thanks for the clarification! I see what you're saying now, and I agree with you that is most likely the attitude of at least some people -- and probably, in my opinion, quite a few people.
So, if I understand you, you would also say that a project to reduce or eliminate the audience's sexual objectification of the dancers would need to address blaming the victim, too, because blaming the victim supports and sustains sexual objectification? Is that something you'd say? Or am I off base here?