Spiderman
Veteran Member
So, you are a Father. You have two daughters and a son. You love your son because he likes to go fishing, hunting, play sports, go boating, white water rafting, wrestling, and do a lot of your hobbies, more so then your daughters.
After your son is 14 years old, your wife came forth with tears in her eyes and told you that your only son had a different father. Your wife sincerely apologized for cheating on you and keeping it a secret for so long.
Do you tell your son that you are not his biological father?
Do you treat your son just as well as you did when you thought you were his real biological dad?
Do you break up with your wife and very likely lose a custody battle for your kids?
Do you start to favor your daughters more than your son, because they are your flesh and blood, and he is the result of an unfaithful wife and immoral man (adulterery)?
Do you accept your wife's apology and forgive her? What would you say to her?
Every time you hang out with your son you are reminded that he isn't yours, and the heartache is just getting worse; and every time you see him, it's a reminder of what happened.
Your son is picking up on the new vibes from you, because you're very troubled about something. He asks you "what is wrong Dad?" Do you tell him?
Please answer honestly.
Honestly, I would try to not love my son or wife any less, but don't think things could go back to the way they were before. I would feel very sick I think.
So, my wife had poor judgement more than a decade prior. I can pardon her for falling in love and seeking happiness in the wrong places, but it would be very difficult to love her or my son as much as I did. I would be too troubled by it (I'm guessing).
Let's say you had an appetite for porn on occasion and you always fantasize about other women when you are having a good time with your wife. (We've all done something like that, manifesting in different ways.)
So, you come to realize that according to the Gospel, you were just as unfaithful to your wife, and you lied to her about your fantasy life.
Jesus said, " if you look at a woman with the desire to have intercourse with her, you have commited adultery in your heart".
So, you have the conviction that you are possibly even as guilty and more guilty of infidelity to her. She commited her acts 14 years ago afterall. Your lust is still a huge problem.
So, were that the case, and you had those convictions, would it make it easier to reconcile with your wife and trust her?
You don't catch her flirting with guys, yet you are checking out women all the time.
Would you recognize that any anger at your wife for being unfaithful isn't fair, and is hypocrictical of you?
Do you stay with your wife for the sake of what is best for the kids, and then you have plans of separating from her once the kids are grown up and out of the house?
What exactly would you do? I'm sure something like this happened before. Weirder things happen.
(Feel free to only answer one of the questions if you like. If you answer them all, you get an indulgence from the Pope
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After your son is 14 years old, your wife came forth with tears in her eyes and told you that your only son had a different father. Your wife sincerely apologized for cheating on you and keeping it a secret for so long.
Do you tell your son that you are not his biological father?
Do you treat your son just as well as you did when you thought you were his real biological dad?
Do you break up with your wife and very likely lose a custody battle for your kids?
Do you start to favor your daughters more than your son, because they are your flesh and blood, and he is the result of an unfaithful wife and immoral man (adulterery)?
Do you accept your wife's apology and forgive her? What would you say to her?
Every time you hang out with your son you are reminded that he isn't yours, and the heartache is just getting worse; and every time you see him, it's a reminder of what happened.
Your son is picking up on the new vibes from you, because you're very troubled about something. He asks you "what is wrong Dad?" Do you tell him?
Please answer honestly.
Honestly, I would try to not love my son or wife any less, but don't think things could go back to the way they were before. I would feel very sick I think.
So, my wife had poor judgement more than a decade prior. I can pardon her for falling in love and seeking happiness in the wrong places, but it would be very difficult to love her or my son as much as I did. I would be too troubled by it (I'm guessing).
Let's say you had an appetite for porn on occasion and you always fantasize about other women when you are having a good time with your wife. (We've all done something like that, manifesting in different ways.)
So, you come to realize that according to the Gospel, you were just as unfaithful to your wife, and you lied to her about your fantasy life.
Jesus said, " if you look at a woman with the desire to have intercourse with her, you have commited adultery in your heart".
So, you have the conviction that you are possibly even as guilty and more guilty of infidelity to her. She commited her acts 14 years ago afterall. Your lust is still a huge problem.
So, were that the case, and you had those convictions, would it make it easier to reconcile with your wife and trust her?
You don't catch her flirting with guys, yet you are checking out women all the time.
Would you recognize that any anger at your wife for being unfaithful isn't fair, and is hypocrictical of you?
Do you stay with your wife for the sake of what is best for the kids, and then you have plans of separating from her once the kids are grown up and out of the house?
What exactly would you do? I'm sure something like this happened before. Weirder things happen.
(Feel free to only answer one of the questions if you like. If you answer them all, you get an indulgence from the Pope
)
