what would you do...

[satyaroop]

you're out for a late dinner with a female friend, the table next to yours is occupied by some loud and unruly looking men, one of them says something completely inappropriate and vulgar to your friend and they all laugh. What do you do?
do you get up and demand an apology? do you ignore it and tell your friend that it's a good idea to leave right away?
if you get up and get confrontational, it could get physical and you will be beaten up(let us assume you will get beaten up,please don't say that you learnt some iron-palm or golden fist technique or whatever from some shaolin monk, or some other reason which makes you invincible); looking at what's going on, your friend may interfere in an effort to shield you and she may be manhandled as well or once you're incapacitated after the fight, she would be more vulnerable
so, walking off is the correct option, your friend should be practical and understand that this is the best option? but would you feel somewhat diminished in her eyes after this?
or would you rather opt for the possible physical confrontation, nevermind the consequences, you will not tolerate such behaviour as a matter or principle?

 

[zenzero]

Friend satyaroop,

Mots intelligent thing is to shut up, look elsewhere, finish your food and exist as fast as possible or simply walk off instantaneously without looking elsewhere or doing anything foolish. Confrontation in such situations is always foolish!

Love & rgds

 

[satyaroop]

Friend satyaroop,

Mots intelligent thing is to shut up, look elsewhere, finish your food and exist as fast as possible or simply walk off instantaneously without looking elsewhere or doing anything foolish. Confrontation in such situations is always foolish!

Love & rgds

lol ok, thank you friend zenzero

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

I would complain to the staff. If they wanted to fight, I'd call the police.

 

[Desert Snake]

Skulk away in shame?

 

[chinu]

Friend satyaroop,

Mots intelligent thing is to shut up, look elsewhere, finish your food and exist as fast as possible or simply walk off instantaneously without looking elsewhere or doing anything foolish. Confrontation in such situations is always foolish!

Love & rgds

100% agreed

 

[chinu]

I would complain to the staff. If they wanted to fight, I'd call the police.

I think, it depends on the country/cafe in which you are.

 

[zenzero]

Friends,

I think, it depends on the country/cafe in which you are.

True, culture of the place decides the options, one has.

Love & rgds

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

I think, it depends on the country/cafe in which you are.

I don't eat at rundown hellholes in the middle of nowhere so I don't have that problem.

 

[chinu]

I don't eat at rundown hellholes in the middle of nowhere so I don't have that problem.

If you don't eat at such places, than how you came to know that such places are of such kind ? I think you are speaking lie, do you ?

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

If you don't eat at such places, than how you came to know that such places are of such kind ? I think you are speaking lie, do you ?

Try making sense.

 

[Gehennaite]

you're out for a late dinner with a female friend, the table next to yours is occupied by some loud and unruly looking men, one of them says something completely inappropriate and vulgar to your friend and they all laugh. What do you do?

I have a good sense of humor, and am equipped with a will of steel. I highly doubt there is anything they could say to offend me.

If in the rare chance that there was something said that rustled my jimmies, I'd probably feel provoked to think of something logical & witty to say in response. I have no problem with verbal or physical confrontations, though I'd only resort to the latter as a defensive measure.

 

[Badran]

you're out for a late dinner with a female friend, the table next to yours is occupied by some loud and unruly looking men, one of them says something completely inappropriate and vulgar to your friend and they all laugh. What do you do?

Depends on what was said, what was my friend's reaction, and most importantly what i know of her personality. This is more about her than it is about me, but it's partially about me too in the sense that i'm a friend who cares about her, and in the sense that i'm supposed to help. Where we are and what circumstances surround the situation would also be things i'd try to consider.

If i know what they said doesn't mean anything to her or that normally it wouldn't hurt her feelings, and she reacted accordingly, then i'll try to joke with her about it and just try to help both of us to ignore it (which wouldn't be hard), and may be leave or not depending on where we are and whether or not she wants to leave. I'd probably ask her first though before all that if she's really okay, or if she wants to do something about it.

If i know she would expect me to do certain things on the other hand, or if she's hurt by what they said, then i'll do something. What i'll do depends on several factors, including her agreement with it.

I don't normally instigate physical violence, and in this case it's unwise to do so, but with some possibilities of what might have been said and my friend's personality, i might have to do things that result in them instigating it against me, which i would be okay with as long as i can make sure she wouldn't have to reap any of the results. If that's not an option (whether because she doesn't agree with it or because we can't get her out of there for example), then i'd try other things first like getting whatever help is available, and only come back for confrontation afterwards.

so, walking off is the correct option, your friend should be practical and understand that this is the best option?

Walking off is probably a wise option in most cases, but it's not necessarily always so. Depending on where you are and what kind of guys are in question, they may follow you outside for example.

but would you feel somewhat diminished in her eyes after this?

Hopefully whatever we do will be something we don't regret later. If we determine that we should leave, i wouldn't feel diminished.

please don't say that you learnt some iron-palm or golden fist technique or whatever from some shaolin monk, or some other reason which makes you invincible

But what if it's true?

Alright.

 

[kashmir]

Ignore them and go on with your dinner as usual.
If they say more, then get up and discuss with staff.
Cops will be called and all hell will be paid.

In USA anyway.

need more details to what was said.
I don't fight and cant fight, but if its something truly bad, very bad and continues,
I will take an asswhipping to get in at least one lick.
Its not so much about winning the fight as it is about honor and respect.

Say what yah want about me,never bothers me, disrespect my girl, mom,grandma, kids, I become the exorcist, am I right for that? no, I am human.

 

[Maldini]

If they don't look dangerous, like they would pull guns or knives, I'd definitely stand up and suggest they go have sex with their mothers.

I'd always take a beating for a friend. It feels really good. And I also always carry a knife.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

These are generally no-win situations for most men in our society. If you have the balls to confront them (and most men do not), then you will most likely look bad to your date, as women generally do not perceive men engaging in confrontation positively. On the other hand, if you do not confront them, then you will almost most likely look bad to your date, as women generally do not perceive men avoiding confrontation positively. You have the choice of being seen as either reactive and aggressive, or as weak and passive.

In my experience, this is a rare type of situation where there is generally no winning move for many men, depending on who they're with. There is generally some type of ideal way of handling the situation which involves not backing down combined with not engaging in confrontation on their level - basically, a way of acknowledging and controlling the situation without causing it to escalate. However, it's the type of response that very few men are able to pull off.

Now, of course, most women are going to say that they wouldn't want you to confront them, and that it's more mature and productive to simply ignore the taunting and insults, and I think they genuinely mean this. However, you will also be diminished in many women's eyes if you do nothing.

 

[ali399]

nice sharing

Friend satyaroop,

Mots intelligent thing is to shut up, look elsewhere, finish your food and exist as fast as possible or simply walk off instantaneously without looking elsewhere or doing anything foolish. Confrontation in such situations is always foolish!

Love & rgds

 

[freethinker44]

I like to fight, so that. I guess it depends on the level of ***-kicking I would receive, though. If I thought I might be disabled or killed I might think twice, but if it's just your average ***-kicking I'd take it.