The OP quote and your post also got me thinking, there is no doubt adult men invest way too much in how young boys turn out thinking it reflects on their masculinity, while adult women invest way too much in how young girls turn out thinking it reflects on them. Being MtF, I wasn't raised as a girl, but I've still been "hit" with certain things that men never deal with have to consider, but yet guys also face certain restrictions and expectations. Rape, for instance, is something guys really don't talk about or consider and keep very silent about it if it happens to them, but, upon transitioning and venturing out as a woman have I found the subject of rape coming up. Beauty standards and expectations have also never come up before, just as has never before reassurance that your value as a human being revolves around your character rather than beauty/looks.
However, where it can be said boys have their boundaries are also some pretty harsh ones. Such as, men aren't supposed to show their emotions, which isn't really that good because it teaches young boys and men to brush asides their emotions instead of learning how to deal with, express and cope with them. They are also raised in such a way that they have a higher rate of injury and death over stunt risk taking, and are more likely to be killed by a reluctance to go to the doctor (until it's too late). And then it's pretty much assumed you yourself judge all women based on how hot they are, and are always thinking about how you want to screw certain ones.
And then also people drool and fawn over lesbians, but display aggressive behaviors towards gays. Both reactions are inappropriate, making them they same, but they're also different. Which is what I think the issue really boils down to. Both boys and girls do face some crappy expectations growing up and as adults. Men, however, have gotten to live with the facade they have more control and self-ownership than women, when really they too are heavily manipulated, but in different areas.
