When You Stop Responding in Threads/PMs

[Debater Slayer]

There are multiple reasons I sometimes stop responding in a thread where I'm engaged in a debate or discussion. For example, sometimes I don't have anything further to add, and since I don't care about having the last word, I decide to stop posting at that point. Sometimes something in my offline life comes up and I feel too drained to participate here, so I quietly withdraw from a thread. The latter has happened much more frequently ever since I started having certain health issues.

I've been wondering whether any members might find this disrespectful, though. If you have, I apologize and want to clarify that I don't intend my lack of response in that way. This applies both to PMs and threads; there's usually so much going on in my life that I don't always manage to respond as much as or as often as I'd like.

What about you? How do you perceive it when another member with whom you're debating or discussing something in a thread just stops responding or doesn't answer in a PM conversation?

 

[Rival]

My life is simply more than this forum and sometimes things naturally burn out.

 

[Vinayaka]

There are multiple reasons I sometimes stop responding in a thread where I'm engaged in a debate or discussion. For example, sometimes I don't have anything further to add, and since I don't care about having the last word, I decide to stop posting at that point. Sometimes something in my offline life comes up and I feel too drained to participate here, so I quietly withdraw from a thread. The latter has happened much more frequently ever since I started having certain health issues.

I've been wondering whether any members might find this disrespectful, though. If you have, I apologize and want to clarify that I don't intend my lack of response in that way. This applies both to PMs and threads; there's usually so much going on in my life that I don't always manage to respond as much as or as often as I'd like.

What about you? How do you perceive it when another member with whom you're debating or discussing something in a thread just stops responding or doesn't answer in a PM conversation?

I can't say I've ever noticed. The only time I notice someone quitting a thread or leaving RF is when they make a huge announcement about it. One former poster, I am curious about, but not to the extent that I really care.

 

[sun rise]

I also stop posting when I don't have anything further to write. And I stop posting when I get too inflamed by someone's posts and I'm tempted to let fly with something that would get a mod excited. I also lose touch with threads if too many posts happen after my last one and I don't want to read a lot of pages to catch up. Also, IRL intervenes as well.

So no to disrespectful because I do it too

 

[JustGeorge]

I leave the thread when it turns into:

Theist vs. atheist
Science vs. religion
An Abrahamic thread that didn't start that way(different, of course, if it was at the beginning, and I joined it knowing that was the topic)

Often, these things bore me, they go over my head, or they get too heated(I have enough drama in my real life, don't want it online)

 

[Fool]

There are multiple reasons I sometimes stop responding in a thread where I'm engaged in a debate or discussion. For example, sometimes I don't have anything further to add, and since I don't care about having the last word, I decide to stop posting at that point. Sometimes something in my offline life comes up and I feel too drained to participate here, so I quietly withdraw from a thread. The latter has happened much more frequently ever since I started having certain health issues.

I've been wondering whether any members might find this disrespectful, though. If you have, I apologize and want to clarify that I don't intend my lack of response in that way. This applies both to PMs and threads; there's usually so much going on in my life that I don't always manage to respond as much as or as often as I'd like.

What about you? How do you perceive it when another member with whom you're debating or discussing something in a thread just stops responding or doesn't answer in a PM conversation?

pretty much the same reasons.

1. I don't have to have the last word
2. The idea I'm trying to convey just isn't being accepted and no need to keep dragging the horse to water.
3. Sometimes need issues take immediate precedence.
4. I'm just exhausted with the subject.

 

[SomeRandom]

I’m often too hungover to care lol

 

[ChristineM]

I stop when I've nothing else to add.
I stop when I'm getting wound up, I've had enough warnings to bow out gently.
I stop when something turns up in real life, making dinner, going to sleep etc.

I expect others do similar

 

[Nakosis]

There are multiple reasons I sometimes stop responding in a thread where I'm engaged in a debate or discussion. For example, sometimes I don't have anything further to add, and since I don't care about having the last word, I decide to stop posting at that point. Sometimes something in my offline life comes up and I feel too drained to participate here, so I quietly withdraw from a thread. The latter has happened much more frequently ever since I started having certain health issues.

I've been wondering whether any members might find this disrespectful, though. If you have, I apologize and want to clarify that I don't intend my lack of response in that way. This applies both to PMs and threads; there's usually so much going on in my life that I don't always manage to respond as much as or as often as I'd like.

What about you? How do you perceive it when another member with whom you're debating or discussing something in a thread just stops responding or doesn't answer in a PM conversation?

Usually that they have nothing more to add, which is fine with me.
People had to take their own time up to create a responding post which is welcomed but not expected.

 

[Secret Chief]

Nothing else to add.

 

[beenherebeforeagain]

pretty much the same reasons.

1. I don't have to have the last word
2. The idea I'm trying to convey just isn't being accepted and no need to keep dragging the horse to water.
3. Sometimes need issues take immediate precedence.
4. I'm just exhausted with the subject.

You could try beating the horse to water...

 

[Revoltingest]

Everything worth covering
(& then some) has been done.
If there's no fun to be had,
then there's nothing to add.

 

[Revoltingest]

You could try beating the horse to water...

Even in threads where it seems I'm done,
I still might keep my ear to the grindstone.

 

[John53]

I favour something more dramatic. It requires a new thread denouncing the forum and moderation with claims of unfair treatment and promises to never return. Then come back in a couple of days as if nothing happened.

 

[Ella S.]

I honestly don't notice when people do this.

I often miss alerts (or don't even receive them) when someone replies to a post of mine. I've caught this a few times, but it seems likely that this happens more frequently than I realize.

Sometimes I won't respond to something immediately because I'm more interested in doing something else on RF, and I forget to go back to that thread to continue the discussion. I think this is probably how most of the threads I stop participating in go. I do see the latest alert, I ignore it with the intent to go back, but I'm just so uninterested in continuing that conversation that I forget about it completely.

I do intentionally not reply to people who respond to me when I don't think they've said anything worth replying to or their response to my post doesn't really have anything to do with what I said.

I don't really see anyone, including myself, as owing anyone else a response to their posts on an internet forum. It's our time and our account to do with as we please, as far as I'm concerned. If someone doesn't want to talk to me, then they don't have to. They can put me on ignore or block me to curate their experience if they want. It's not the "Ella S. Forums"

 

[VoidCat]

I assume unless I did something that made the other user mad then they just must be busy. If i did do something to make the other user mad then I'd likely know this prior to them ignoring me. I likely did something to deserve it at that point

 

[Orbit]

For me, it means I'm just too busy with other things.

 

[Brickjectivity]

What about you? How do you perceive it when another member with whom you're debating or discussing something in a thread just stops responding or doesn't answer in a PM conversation?

I don't know of any other way for debate threads to end. That's usually what I expect or do myself. There is no format, so once you start discussing something it can go on forever. Sooner or later you must stop.

 

[exchemist]

There are multiple reasons I sometimes stop responding in a thread where I'm engaged in a debate or discussion. For example, sometimes I don't have anything further to add, and since I don't care about having the last word, I decide to stop posting at that point. Sometimes something in my offline life comes up and I feel too drained to participate here, so I quietly withdraw from a thread. The latter has happened much more frequently ever since I started having certain health issues.

I've been wondering whether any members might find this disrespectful, though. If you have, I apologize and want to clarify that I don't intend my lack of response in that way. This applies both to PMs and threads; there's usually so much going on in my life that I don't always manage to respond as much as or as often as I'd like.

What about you? How do you perceive it when another member with whom you're debating or discussing something in a thread just stops responding or doesn't answer in a PM conversation?

I've always understood that in a discussion thread one is not really obliged to keep on responding, so I have few qualms about leaving it if it ceases to interest me. Though I suppose it is a bit disrespectful to leave a question that is specifically directed at oneself unanswered. Whether I always respond to those depends on how much respect I have for my interlocutor .

 

[F1fan]

Im posting this just to see if i can get one of each kudos.

i have a lot to say about this. First, most threads are …. hold on i need to finish this surgery.