When you went, how much of it did you consider it as friendship evangelism? The reason I ask is that when people leave, they tell stories of how those friendships often ended abruptly. Seems to me that if you show an interest in accepting the teachings, you get friends, but if you don't you don't.
I didn't want to destroy the moment. I finally said something nice about Baha'is. But you are right. But it happens with Christians and cults and any other group that wants to get people to join them.
Like a guy on a date and he wants to make the girl think he's "the one", her "soulmate." Then later, sometimes after they get married, he changes, and she learns what he's really like. Sometimes it's after a date or two and she go to bed with him, and the next day he's gone.
I've talked about it before. I was with my Baha'i friends on "mass teaching" trips back in the 70's. They'd go to Indian Reservations, knock on doors and invite people to a meeting that night about the Baha'i Faith. Of course, they ask, "What is the Baha'i Faith?" That was the okay to "teach" them. They asked, so it's only answering their question. It's not proselytizing.
At the door or if they showed up at the meeting, they were treated like the most important person in the world. The "mass teaching" kind of worked, but the problem was... what do Baha'is do with them once they sign a declaration card and join the Baha'i Faith? These people were in remote areas and usually there was only a few, and maybe only one Baha'i that lived in the town.
The next plan was... how to "deepen" the new believers. In Idaho some of the Baha'i travel teachers started what they called a "nine-day deepening Institute." For the nine days a group of Baha'is along with some of the new Baha'is would go through two small books, Hidden Words and the Seven Valleys.
Old Baha'is and the new Baha'is were having profound spiritual experiences. Kind of like when Christians get "Baptized" in the Holy Spirit and start speaking in tongues. Some Baha'is even claimed they had visions of Abdul Baha. Things were great... then... The fuddy-duddy Baha'is got upset. I was told that the wife of a "Hand of the Cause" said that it was creating spiritual "haves and have nots."
Again, to compare it to similar people in Christianity, these would be the old time Church goers that didn't want to see change. Things were just fine the way they were... Sitting in a pew, listening to the same old hymns and listening to some old preacher drone on about the same old Bible verses. Compared to the Pentacostal Church down the road where the people were dancing in the aisles.
Anyway, the nine-day deepening institutes came to an end. I don't even know how much longer the "mass-teaching" trips continued. But, to tie in this story with how new people are shown love and kindness, the reality of the Baha'i community came into the picture. Like the pew-sitting, go to Church on Sunday Christians, there are Baha'is in the communities that just go through the motion of being a Baha'is. My Baha'i friends were bored silly with their community's monthly "Feast" meetings.
My Baha'i friends took me to other towns where more active, more dynamic and more charismatic Baha'is held "Fireside" meetings. So, love, energy, an interest in the person was always part of it.
But it also depended on a good host and speaker. Those meetings were always filled up, but not necessarily with "seekers". Baha'is would go there because of the energy and love.
So, how much of it was the teaching of the Baha'i Faith? I have to wonder because any religious group that showed love and kindness and had a charismatic leader attracted people and got them to join. Obviously, the teachings alone aren't doing it for some people.