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Why are people afraid of their beliefs being questioned ?

Smart_Guy

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Premium Member
Respect is one thing, but truth is another, how can I respect a god that doesn't exists, that's not insulting anyone, you are not your beliefs, they are in your mind only.

Nonexistence of God is your truth and you believe. This does not necessarily mean it is the truth. But anyway, this is another subject.

I'll explain what I said more.

The thing is that we should respect that and not taunt or disrespect each other for it, or disrespect it on front of each other. Those things are beliefs as you said, but we are people who believe in it. Think what you want of it, and even say what you want of it, but in a way that does not show disrespect, hostility or offense to others.

All I can do is ask of you to please don't insult my beliefs, and lets okay, lets forget about disrespecting the beliefs per say. I don't have a problem that you think or say that God is not real, but please say it in a good way.

Lets at least respect each other as humans.

About truth, I don't believe it is good, moral, appropriate or acceptable to, for example, call ugly-in-your-eyes people ugly because you see them ugly. Same thing goes with beliefs.

Hey mate,

Sorta belated welcome to RF!
In terms of your post, it's a shame when things degenerate to personal insults, and it should never really come to that.
I'm interested, though, in what you would see as an insult to your beliefs? As an atheist, could I inadvertently insult your beliefs while trying to discuss something with you, even though I am attempting to be polite and rational?

Hi there, and thank for the welcome :)

Kindly have a look at my reply to psychoslice above as a reference as well.

I see all that's needed is to think, intend and have in mind to converse with others politely, and trust me things will be just fine. Also things like keeping in mind what would insult you so you do not use it against others. We have an Islamic saying that goes: love for others what you love for your self.

I would take explicit language as a problem, like for example words like Islam is ****** or (the F word) Islam, but I don't mind telling me that God is imaginary as someone's belief. Intentional offense by some one claiming to be discussing can be known, as their ulterior motives. I can also take light insults to a limit.

Sorry if my words sound disoriented or something. Non native English user here :help:

Oh yes i do, i once did the same as you, that is until i woke up.

When you did, did you like being, you or your beliefs, disrespected? I don't think so. I believe the right thing to do is to love for the others what you love for your self.
 

ChristineES

Tiggerism
Premium Member
There is also a flip side though. And that is when people try to push Christianity on others. For example; when someone says "There needs to be prayer time during school", they really mean christian prayer. Or try to use the Christian bible as a reason to deny same sex marriage. By claiming this is country is founded on Christianity. Or when I was in Iraq, our platoon sergeant "requiring" us to participate in little prayer circles before rolling out on missions and at all times carrying little bibles with us (I didn't do either).

I can't deny that happens. There are rude people on all sides, no matter what they believe or don't believe. There are those who push their views on other people, and it isn't limited to just religious people but any views.
 

psychoslice

Veteran Member
Hi Windwalker, concerning your reply above, I can agree with what you said, people are at certain stages in spiritual development, but what I am saying is, no matter what stage you are be open to questions, don't cling to your treasured beliefs, if you cannot answer a question then say so. No matter what religion you think you are, in truth your not that, you are more than a mere belief system.
 

psychoslice

Veteran Member
Hi Smart Guy, I agree with all you said, I'm not talking about insulting others, I am talking about questioning your beliers. Of course there is a right way and a wrong way of doing this that's another story, or another thread.

If one believes one and one make three, or even two, if I came along an insulted one and one being three, or again even two, that has nothing to do with you, you are not the mathamatical equation, you only believe in that, my insult has nothing to do with you.
 

Windwalker

Veteran Member
Premium Member
Hi Windwalker, concerning your reply above, I can agree with what you said, people are at certain stages in spiritual development, but what I am saying is, no matter what stage you are be open to questions, don't cling to your treasured beliefs, if you cannot answer a question then say so. No matter what religion you think you are, in truth your not that, you are more than a mere belief system.
But what you are saying is reflective of a rational, and post-rational stage of development. Not a prerational stage.
 

psychoslice

Veteran Member
I can't deny that happens. There are rude people on all sides, no matter what they believe or don't believe. There are those who push their views on other people, and it isn't limited to just religious people but any views.

Yes so true, and no matter what beliefs we have we should be able to answer questions asked about that belief, if you cannot answer then question your belief, you might find something in that questioning that could change you in other ways?.
 

Windwalker

Veteran Member
Premium Member
Yes that is true, in this case if your going to debate on a forum, think about it before you do.
Well, I think understanding someone is operating at that stage goes a long way towards effective communication. Debating logic points is not the right approach. And it has nothing to do with being weak-minded. It has do to with a certain mode of reason. Mythic thought is actually not unreasonable.

You know, in thinking back to what I originally posted in this thread, that someone's worldviews being tied to their religious systems, this is why it is valid to say that atheism can be a religion to some people, and they will defend anything that challenges their beliefs with as much closed-mindedness as the mythic religious believer. "Where's your evidence?!" they cry to someone who cites spiritual experience as valid knowledge. "If you can't see it objectively, it's not real!", and so forth. So, even rational systems, are equally prone to become insulated to scrutiny and challenge, no differently than someone shutting down discussion citing "God's word" as the final arbitrator of truth.

So prerational is not necessarily what makes someone closed to discussion. It really has to do with how much of their sense of personal security is tied to their beliefs; prerational, rational, or post-rational.
 

psychoslice

Veteran Member
Well, I think understanding someone is operating at that stage goes a long way towards effective communication. Debating logic points is not the right approach. And it has nothing to do with being weak-minded. It has do to with a certain mode of reason. Mythic thought is actually not unreasonable.

You know, in thinking back to what I originally posted in this thread, that someone's worldviews being tied to their religious systems, this is why it is valid to say that atheism can be a religion to some people, and they will defend anything that challenges their beliefs with as much closed-mindedness as the mythic religious believer. "Where's your evidence?!" they cry to someone who cites spiritual experience as valid knowledge. "If you can't see it objectively, it's not real!", and so forth. So, even rational systems, are equally prone to become insulated to scrutiny and challenge, no differently than someone shutting down discussion citing "God's word" as the final arbitrator of truth.

So prerational is not necessarily what makes someone closed to discussion. It really has to do with how much of their sense of personal security is tied to their beliefs; prerational, rational, or post-rational.

Atheism is simply not believing in a god, for the reason there is no proof of a god, anything other than that is not necessarily atheism. Atheist are just normal people doing what normal people do, they don't worship anything to do with the world, they simple live and enjoy the world for what it is. If this seems to be a religion to you, then so be it, but what a beautiful religion, no dogma or fundamentalism needed.
 

lewisnotmiller

Grand Hat
Staff member
Premium Member
...this is why it is valid to say that atheism can be a religion to some people, and they will defend anything that challenges their beliefs with as much closed-mindedness as the mythic religious believer.

Not all beliefs, even dogmatic ones, equate to religion though. That's the part I never get with this argument.
So, some atheists are fundamentalists, and are close-minded to other views or arguments. Absolutely agree.
Atheism can be a religion to some people. Nup. Atheism is not an organised set or system of beliefs. People can have other beliefs in addition to being atheists, and these can absolutely be an organised set or system of beliefs.

Eg. Stalin was an atheist. He was also a Marxist-Leninist (at least, until he was a Stalinist, but that gets mighty tricky...)

Atheism was never a religion to him.
He was a fundamentalist, with all the narrow views, and ruthlessness that can entail. He was close-minded, unwilling to shift from his point of view, unwilling to tailor his methods, and utterly convinced in his own path.
But atheism was never a religion.
 

Quintessence

Consults with Trees
Staff member
Premium Member
Atheism is not an organised set or system of beliefs.

It would be easier to entertain that notion if there weren't significant groups of atheists in my culture who couch their identity in a pretty organized system of belief that expresses strong tendencies towards empirical naturalism, rejection of any and all supernaturalistic or paranormal ideas, and veneration of science, technology, and human progress. Come to think of it, I really don't know many (if any) atheists whose rejection of god(s) isn't also strongly related and connected to several other major components of their worldview or belief system. Though in that case, it would probably be more proper to refer to their religion as "empirical naturalism" or something, because it seems to me that it's the belief that substance is all there is that leads to rejection of my culture's dominant god-concept (which isn't substantive).
 

lewisnotmiller

Grand Hat
Staff member
Premium Member
It would be easier to entertain that notion if there weren't significant groups of atheists in my culture who couch their identity in a pretty organized system of belief that expresses strong tendencies towards empirical naturalism, rejection of any and all supernaturalistic or paranormal ideas, and veneration of science, technology, and human progress. Come to think of it, I really don't know many (if any) atheists whose rejection of god(s) isn't also strongly related and connected to several other major components of their worldview or belief system. Though in that case, it would probably be more proper to refer to their religion as "empirical naturalism" or something, because it seems to me that it's the belief that substance is all there is that leads to rejection of my culture's dominant god-concept (which isn't substantive).

Humour me for a sec...I'm gonna go crazy with the assumptions-paintbrush, so apologies in advance, but hopefully you'll see the point I'm trying to make.

One of the things that I think must drive you a little nuts is the constant definition of 'God' along monotheistic terms. I'm sure you can understand the reasons that this occurs, but at the same time, the assumption that this is what is meant by 'God' is a generalization born of commonality in the cultures most people here are exposed to, not accuracy.

I have a similar burr under my saddle with relation to atheism. Atheism is the smallest of possible statements about me. There is most definitely a relationship between my atheism and other beliefs I hold (for example, I believe there is no objective morality) but others reject objective morality whether they sit on the same side of the unbelief fence as I do or not.

So, from my point of view, your complaint is that there is a strong correlation between atheists, and a dogmatic version of empirical naturalism (as an example).

Fair enough. I would concur.

But my points are as follows;

1) Atheism is not a set or standard of beliefs. Is theism a religion? Nup. Nor is atheism.

2) Some might cling to empirical naturalism LIKE a religion, but what you're really saying is they hold dogmatic or fundamentalist views. To be honest, you run the risk of belittling religion, since you are equating religion to dogmatic or fundamentalist views. No doubt it CAN be. Doesn't have to be (as I'm sure you are acutely aware).

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Anywhoos...I understand why you said it. Hopefully I've clarified why it's an annoyance to me. If you want to tag me with something above and beyond atheism, buggered if I know what best fits, but I've gone with methodological naturalist before...
 

Quintessence

Consults with Trees
Staff member
Premium Member
I think for atheists whose affiliation is core or central to their identity, these people might correctly be described as being "religiously atheist." I definitely understand that for those whose status of being an atheist is not central to their identity that it would be bothersome for it to be treated as their religion, because for them, it isn't.

I find it interesting that you made an equivocation between holding to empirical naturalism and dogmatism or fundamentalism. That wasn't my intention when making such observations, as I've seen quite a bit of variation in how people apply a core grounding in empirical naturalism. Some are fundamentalist about it (what I'd call scientism) and some aren't.

At any rate, I think simplistic labels like "theist" and "atheist" are becoming increasingly useless in modern society given its diversity. The term "atheist" used to make sense when the overwhelming majority of "theists" had the same ideas about god(s) and that culture was ignorant of any other theological or philosophical perspectives. Today, in the information age? They're just poor terms to use and I think we need to start becoming more precise in our language.
 

lewisnotmiller

Grand Hat
Staff member
Premium Member
I think for atheists whose affiliation is core or central to their identity, these people might correctly be described as being "religiously atheist." I definitely understand that for those whose status of being an atheist is not central to their identity that it would be bothersome for it to be treated as their religion, because for them, it isn't.

Meh, we'll have to agree to disagree with that. I still think you're making the mistake of equating 'religiously' with 'dogmatic/fundamentalism'. To whit, you're religious, but are you dogmatic/fundamentalist? I try (sometime successfully) to park my prejudices against religion at the door, since it's really dogmatism/fundamentalism I have issue with.

I find it interesting that you made an equivocation between holding to empirical naturalism and dogmatism or fundamentalism. That wasn't my intention when making such observations, as I've seen quite a bit of variation in how people apply a core grounding in empirical naturalism. Some are fundamentalist about it (what I'd call scientism) and some aren't.

Yep, you are 100% right. Poor wording on my part. My poorly-made point was that anyone holding to a set of beliefs can become dogmatic in their defence of those beliefs. But I would think empirical naturalism is a belief people apply dogmatic defence to, rather than atheism. I'd readily admit, though, that some treat them as if they are one and the same.

At any rate, I think simplistic labels like "theist" and "atheist" are becoming increasingly useless in modern society given its diversity. The term "atheist" used to make sense when the overwhelming majority of "theists" had the same ideas about god(s) and that culture was ignorant of any other theological or philosophical perspectives. Today, in the information age? They're just poor terms to use and I think we need to start becoming more precise in our language.

Interesting take. My initial reaction is to whole-heartedly agree, but I really don't want to wander the streets describing myself as a methodological naturalist. It might be accurate, but it would be socially and commonly meaningless to people (although would identify me as a tosser, at least in the circles I run with).

My other thought is that it (atheism) has often been more a cultural label than an accurate description in any case. More often than not it's meant 'You don't follow MY God, so you're an atheist'.
For me, it's just that I don't recognise anything as God.

So, let's say person A says something like 'The Universe itself is God!'
Awesome. I believe in the universe. However, I'm still an atheist, since I don't acknowledge the Universe as God. So it's still a meaningful label, but only in relation to me and my beliefs, not in terms of a fixed boundary against ALL beliefs.

Hmmm...hope that made sense. Rambling a bit, but I'm finding this interesting.
 

Quintessence

Consults with Trees
Staff member
Premium Member
Meh, we'll have to agree to disagree with that. I still think you're making the mistake of equating 'religiously' with 'dogmatic/fundamentalism'. To whit, you're religious, but are you dogmatic/fundamentalist?

I'm still trying to figure out how you're interpreting what I've been saying as equating religiosity with dogmatic/fundamentalism, because I'm just not seeing it at all. >_>;

I'm basically saying that if "X" (could be anything, really; I wouldn't apply this just to atheism) is central to your way of life and identity - if it guides how you approach truth, meaning, and purpose - that's what religion does and "X" could fairly be regarded as a religion. But I also tend to be of the mind that religion is supposed to be a way of life and core to identity, not something you compartmentalize off from the rest of who you are. Or rather, if you're actually religious about your religion, that's how it works. An awful lot of "religious" people are not actually that religious about their "religion." Their core system of meaning that informs their way of life lies in something they don't call their religion.

Interesting take. My initial reaction is to whole-heartedly agree, but I really don't want to wander the streets describing myself as a methodological naturalist. It might be accurate, but it would be socially and commonly meaningless to people (although would identify me as a tosser, at least in the circles I run with).

People just need to get educated then, right? Yay learning! :D

My other thought is that it (atheism) has often been more a cultural label than an accurate description in any case. More often than not it's meant 'You don't follow MY God, so you're an atheist'.

The term atheism makes more sense in that sort of context, particularly through the exclusivist/monotheist lens that tends to dominate Western theology. As far as some of those folk are concerned, I'm an "atheist" too; and honestly, I tend to have more in common with many atheists in my culture than other theists (who are usually not polytheists, pantheists, or animists).
 

Windwalker

Veteran Member
Premium Member
Not all beliefs, even dogmatic ones, equate to religion though. That's the part I never get with this argument.
I thought my point was clear, that to some atheism can be a religion, that this means they treat it with as much devotion to self-identification as a traditionalist in religion does. This all ties back to my point at the beginning I raised as to why people are resistant to challenges to their views, why they become dogmatic, why they defend them, why they even go on crusades, such as touring the world promoting their beliefs calling God-belief a "Delusion", and such narrow-perspectives.

What will help is to understand my point that was missed in all subsequent posts about what exactly religion is in this context and why it pertains equally to atheists as it does theist, or anything that defines the world for them like this. I said in post 221:

A religion, its practices, its customs, its beliefs are tied to ones culture and values. Its tied to family and tradition. Its tied to loyalties. Its tied to self-identity. When someone moves in with challenges to traditional understandings, they are viewed as a threat to a way of life. These ways of life are built upon cultural transmissions, not rational propositional truths. People are afraid of moving because they think they will amputate their own culture, their family values, their grandparent's values. So this fear of amputation is what freezes people and makes them entrenched in their own camp.

What you seem exacerbated by is that others can't move into the worldviews you've adopted. They should be able to shift their center of gravity away from their own past to the future you've found for yourself. And to go after their sacred cows, showing how illogical or irrational these associated beliefs are they still hold to as part of that system, should be enough to get them to see the light and be saved.​

It is not religion as an organized institution that I am talking about by saying atheist can be a religion to some. It is anything that someone ties themselves to like this which makes their defense of it irrational, that revolve their lives around and will defend tooth and nail to protect, because they are protecting themselves, their sense of personal identity.

A friend of mine from Bible college many years ago, having left the church and become an atheist said to me, "I'm so glad I know the truth now!". I smiled at him and said, "I remember you and I saying the exact same words when we were Bible-believing fundamentalists". His response? He said in all honesty, "But the difference is now I really DO have the truth!". :faint:

You see, all that changed was shifting the set of beliefs, not the mentality that makes them a religion in this way. When someone treats anything this way, it becomes a religion to them. And thus, it doesn't matter if they approach those beliefs as mythic, rational, or post-rational.

I posted this list elsewhere on the common meanings of the term "Religion" as used in culture. This is a paraphrased list from the philosopher Ken Wilber that I feel quite accurately touches on these in a general way. The way I am using religion in this context, is definition number 2, or "R2" as Wilber later refers back to this list, and R6 as well as R8 when it is tied to science as Scientism. This is from his book A Sociable God:

1. Religion as non-rational engagement:

- Deals with the non-rational aspects of existence such as faith, grace, etc.

2. Religion as meaningful or integrative engagement:

- A functional activity of seeking meaning, truth, integration, stability, etc.

3. Religion as an immortality project:

- A wishful, defensive, compensatory belief in order to assuage anxiety and fear

4. Religion as evolutionary growth:

- A more sophisticated concept that views history and evolution as a process towards self-realization, finding not so much an integration of current levels, but higher structures of truth towards a God-Realized Adaptation.

5. Religion as fixation and regression:

- A standard primitivization theory: religion is childish, illusion, myth.

6. Exoteric religion

- The outward aspects, belief systems to support faith. A non-esoteric religion. A potential predecessor to esoteric religion.

7. Esoteric religion

- The inward aspects of religious practices, either culminating in, or having a goal of mystical experience.

8. Legitimate religion:

- A system which provides meaningful integration of any given worldview or level. A legitimate supporting structure which allows productive functionality on that level, horizontally. The myth systems of the past can be called "legitimate" for their abilities to integrate. A crisis of legitimacy occurs when the symbols fail to integrate. This describes the failure of a myth's legitimacy we saw occur with the emergence of a new level of our conscious minds in the Enlightenment. Civil religion is one example of an attempt to provide legitimacy to this level, following the failure of the old legitimate system.

9. Authentic religion

- The relative degree of actual transformation delivered by a religion or worldview. This is on a vertical scale providing a means of reaching a higher level, as opposed to integrating the present level on a horizontal scale. It provides a means to transformation to higher levels, as opposed to integration of a present one.​

I'll leave it at this for the moment, and hopefully this helps as my point originally was lost about how, "People are afraid of moving because they think they will amputate their own culture, their family values, their grandparent's values. So this fear of amputation is what freezes people and makes them entrenched in their own camp. " That's the key to all of this, and atheism is not excluded from this because it is rational, as opposed to prerational mythic views, when it is treated as religion as per definition R2 and R8 as it acts as a philosophy of rationalism.
 
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Mycroft

Ministry of Serendipity
Religion is one of those big taboo topics that many people are terrified to touch: too afraid that others will question their religious loyalties and just as afraid to step on the minefield that is the overhyped sensitivity of some believers.

People, after all, live and die in the names of religious values, so the stakes of what we are playing with couldn’t be any higher. And yet, few fields can make many human beings as unwilling to face the evidence as religion. It is exactly because these ideas are so central to their lives that they don’t want anyone to plant doubts in their minds.

So, is religion really for the weak minded, is it just a crutch for those who need something to just believe in, something to make their life worth living, then if this is so, should we or not still questions these peoples beliefs, or should we just leave them where they are happy in their beliefs. Then again if these people don’t like their beliefs questioned, why in the world would they join a forum where we should be free to question others beliefs.:confused:

I have been in trouble many times on forums from questioning mainly Christians beliefs, its so frustrating, I can question most other belief systems with no problem, but again when its Christians all hell brakes out.:eek:

Let's take Christian Mythology for example. The god in question here, according to that mythology, should never be questioned. That god is the enemy of free-inquiry and the enemy of reason and critical thought. This tends to filter down into the psyche of those who believe in that god and as a result is reflected in their behaviour. At least as far as I can see. There is also the fact that Religious people can't answer your questions because there is no truth behind the answers they would give.

So should I just keep my big mouth shut and say nothing, or should I tiptoe around egg shells trying no to say the wrong words, as I said its frustrating.:confused:
Never do this. At all. Always speak your mind, question things, challenge people's beliefs and so on. Far too many atrocities in the world have been caused by people keeping silent and not challenging others. If you upset them, well, I'm sure 'god' will give them strength, right?
 

nazz

Doubting Thomas
Let's take Christian Mythology for example. The god in question here, according to that mythology, should never be questioned. That god is the enemy of free-inquiry and the enemy of reason and critical thought.

I am a Christian and this does not describe my God :no:
 

psychoslice

Veteran Member
Let's take Christian Mythology for example. The god in question here, according to that mythology, should never be questioned. That god is the enemy of free-inquiry and the enemy of reason and critical thought. This tends to filter down into the psyche of those who believe in that god and as a result is reflected in their behaviour. At least as far as I can see. There is also the fact that Religious people can't answer your questions because there is no truth behind the answers they would give.

Never do this. At all. Always speak your mind, question things, challenge people's beliefs and so on. Far too many atrocities in the world have been caused by people keeping silent and not challenging others. If you upset them, well, I'm sure 'god' will give them strength, right?

Thanks for the advice, yes I will forever question any belief system, just imagine if we didn't, we would still have such things as slavery, and burning people at the stake, praise the lord for free thinking people.
 
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