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Why Are You A Virgin?

dave_

dave_

Active Member
I am an 30 year old extra virgin , meaning i never hold hands , kissed , even dated with someone.I don't think i am special or anything because of this nor i am seeking approval.I just don't feel a need for sexuality and general human relationships.

How about you , why are you a virgin?Or why do you think people prefer virginity?
 
mainliner

mainliner

no one can de-borg my fact's ...NO-ONE!!
dave_ said:
I am an 30 year old extra virgin , meaning i never hold hands , kissed , even dated with someone.I don't think i am special or anything because of this nor i am seeking approval.I just don't feel a need for sexuality and general human relationships.

How about you , why are you a virgin?Or why do you think people prefer virginity?
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do you prefer viginity, or is it the only option you've come to embrace?
 
dave_

dave_

Active Member
mainliner said:
do you prefer viginity, or is it the only option you've come to embrace?
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A couple of times women and men tried to approach me but i wasn't interested.I used to try when i was in my teens but i was never good with relationships.Then i realised that i was trying because i thought it some kind of accomplishment.I think most people try hard because they also think this way.So i'd say i prefer it.
 
mainliner

mainliner

no one can de-borg my fact's ...NO-ONE!!
dave_ said:
A couple of times women and men tried to approach me but i wasn't interested.I used to try when i was in my teens but i was never good with relationships.Then i realised that i was trying because i thought it some kind of accomplishment.I think most people try hard because they also think this way.So i'd say i prefer it.
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if you have sex ...... Believe me you would think different :)

but if your happy then im happy :)







Ps..... Give it a go even if you don't want to :)..... You've got nothing to lose and maybe alot to gain , but you'll never know unless you give it a chance :)

not to sound crude but when you've got your winky in a woman's fluff ........ You'll understand , trust me :)
 
Laika

Laika

Well-Known Member
Premium Member
I am a virgin (edit: at age 25), but mainly for lack of trying. I was you're typical "nice guy", very anxious and inhibited, someone who spent too much time with his head in a book to get through school and to live up to his often demanding parents expectation. they're both teachers, so I was either learning stuff at school or at home and I didn't have many friends or a social life and kind of drifted through without much connection to other people until I reach Uni. I should have made more effort in my adolescence to socialize, make friends, flirt and rebel more as teenagers are supposed to.
That was until I started to come out as bi and the idea of sex has become something I'm happier and feeling more comfortable with- at least talking it about anyway. I had a hopeless crush on a girl in sixth form, but my first love was a "bad boy" for my first year at uni, an amazing friend and all-round and much needed bad influence who my parents took an instant dis-like to. they hated him on sight, literally. it might have been the dreadlocks, the ADHD and all the reckless and petty criminal behavior that goes with having no inhibitions.... you know, all the things that make someone an "interesting" person to be around and instantly attractive for all the 'wrong' reasons. he was an *******, but.... he did it ....so ...well. :D if you've been here, you'll know exactly what I mean as only a reckless free spirit can teach you how to love life and show you what you're missing out on. There was a near miss when we were both drunk, he came on to me and I could have had a one night stand with him, but it was never going to lead to us being together as he was officially straight (and with attractive girlfriend at the time, so he would have had an interesting morning after if it had played out). one day I'll get over it, but until then- there will be a lot of swearing when I think about that moment. deep down I don't mean it as I loved him very much and he would have broken my heart for a quick f**k. he would have been good though.

There haven't been any chances like that for a while (and now it's up to me to create them), so I'm still working on feeling more confident about asking people out but am very isolated as I live in a rural area. So dating is not much of an option for now.
 
mainliner

mainliner

no one can de-borg my fact's ...NO-ONE!!
Overrated !!!

"" a man who says money doesn't grow on trees ....... Never had an apple tree ""
 
Lusius Fire

Lusius Fire

Cold Skin, Warm Soul
mainliner said:
Overrated !!!

"" a man who says money doesn't grow on trees ....... Never had an apple tree ""
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Mhm. I say that because sex itself isn't great.

Sex with a body you really lust for is great. Sex with just anyone pretty much sucks.

So, if you have decently high standards and apply them, sex can be a great way to get your rocks off. But if you don't have any scruples, and just go for it doggy style (pardon the wordplay), what you get out of it is pretty much flat and uninteresting.

Like anything worthwhile, it's complicated; in and of itself it's not all that remarkable. Sex is how we all got here, after all. It's probably one of the most ordinary things in existence.
 
Jumi

Jumi

Well-Known Member
Agree sex itself as an experience is nothing special. Only thing special is the connection between people then it can be good or even great.
 
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Deidre

Well-Known Member
I think it can be considered overrated, if it’s viewed as two people using one another to ‘get off.’ Then, it’s fleeting temporal pleasure. If you view it as a meaningful bonding experience, and the orgasm as a ‘bonus,’ you won’t find it to be overrated. And a step further, some consider it to be a sacred act between two people in marriage…

Guess it depends on how one views it.

Dave, I find your reasons for being a virgin, to be really cool. You are your own person…that’s great.

Now...love. Love is overrated. ^_^
 
mainliner

mainliner

no one can de-borg my fact's ...NO-ONE!!
What is wrong you people ..... Overrated , uninteresting , boring etc etc !!!

soppy emotional connections ..... Blah blah :)




that's like saying i don't like eating food !!! :)


having no shnoo shnoo for a human is like a bird without a song ........ But if your happy, then im happy :)
 
gsa

gsa

Well-Known Member
I don't think people prefer virginity. I think that people remain virgins for a number of reasons, many of them having to do with religious beliefs. The vast majority of the human population, however, enjoys sexual experiences to varying degrees.

One question I can't answer is worth asking: Is virginity at all common among non-human animals?
 
JerryL

JerryL

Well-Known Member
Mileage varies.

For example: "asexual" is an option on the sexuality spectrum.

Your experience with sex will not be someone else's... just as your experience with sex will not be the same throughout your own life.

I was a virgin until my early teens because of a lack of interest.
From then until my late teens I was a virgin due to lack of success convincing someone to have sex with me.

But different reasons for different people. There is no "right" here.
 
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