Trailblazer
Veteran Member
I have an amiable relationship with all the Christians on this forum and with those of other religions. I cannot think of anyone I have a contentious relationship with. Building harmonious relationships with other people -- be they atheists or believers -- has been my primary goal, not teaching the Faith as other Baha'is consider so important. That was not always my goal but the past is gone and I have changed a lot by being on this forum.The problem is when and how you disagree. Have you built a relationship of trust and respect with them? Sorry to say, I don't think so. With some people yes, but with others no.
More and more, I have come to realize what all religions share in common and I appreciate the Bible. That took some time, but I worked hard on it. I agree on all the spiritual truths in the Bible but one thing Baha'is and Christians are never going to agree on is the Return of Christ, because there is no way for Baha'is to agree with Christians and still be Baha'is. Even if a Baha'i conceded that Jesus rose from the dead that would not make any difference because we cannot agree that Jesus ascended into the clouds in the same body or that Jesus will return in the same body, since we believe that Baha'u'llah was the return of Christ.
It is tough to do but it can be done if we make an effort and if we are aware of what we are saying and think of others and how other people might feel, instead of just trying to get our message across, which is egotistical. If we do not need to be right then we would not keep arguing when someone disagrees and it has been my goal to just present what I believe if it is related to a conversation I am having and not argue for it being true. I am a firm believer in free will so I do not want to convince anyone of what I believe, because then it would not be their decision.Often, to me, it seems like the Baha'is are also sounding like they are superior. "We have found the truth for today. Your religion has seen its spring and is now in its winter." Tough to do... to always be kind and respectful and to understand where the other person is coming from.
I do not have a problem with detaching from worldly desires because I do not have any worldly desires that run counter to the Baha'i Laws. What I do have a problem with is if a Baha'i says I am too attached to my cats and that I should be so detached that I do not suffer when they die. It is so cruel and insensitive to say that.All people suffer, but what bothers me is that God would add to it. If I were an uncompassionate Baha'i I'd tell you "God is testing you. He wants you to let go of your attachments to this world and fix your gaze on nothing else but him." What is cruel is... that attachment is your cats. It's almost as bad as that, hopefully fictitious, story about God wanting Abraham to sacrifice his only son. Who in real life would do that? Who would really believe that a loving God would even ask that? But here we are. You are a Baha'i. You are supposed to totally trust in God and detach yourself from all your worldly desires. Do you think this God is actually asking you to do this?
By the way, that is the reason I ended up posting on forums. I never even knew what an internet forum was until January 2013, when I first posted on Planet Baha'i. Before that, I had been doing a web search and I ran across a Baha'i who was telling another Baha'i on a forum that she would not be so torn apart when a cat died if she became more spiritual. Imagine someone saying that to a person who is grieving, and then just look at all the kind and compassionate people on this forum, Jews, Christians, atheists.
I do not believe you have to choose between the world and God, not according to what Baha'u'llah wrote.I chose the world. I walked away from both Christianity and the Baha'i Faith. Because, I knew at some point my life would be tested. Would I totally surrender to God, even if he asked me to go off to some strange land. I knew Christians and Baha'is that did do this. Would I? One Baha'i left his wife to go to some South Seas Island. You probably know the NT story about Jesus telling some guy to give away everything and follow him. The guy walked away. That's what I'd do. But you're a Baha'i. How can you walk away? How can you not trust that God will reward you with peace and joy in your heart for putting your trust totally in him?
“Know ye that by “the world” is meant your unawareness of Him Who is your Maker, and your absorption in aught else but Him. The “life to come,” on the other hand, signifieth the things that give you a safe approach to God, the All-Glorious, the Incomparable. Whatsoever deterreth you, in this Day, from loving God is nothing but the world. Flee it, that ye may be numbered with the blest. Should a man wish to adorn himself with the ornaments of the earth, to wear its apparels, or partake of the benefits it can bestow, no harm can befall him, if he alloweth nothing whatever to intervene between him and God, for God hath ordained every good thing, whether created in the heavens or in the earth, for such of His servants as truly believe in Him. Eat ye, O people, of the good things which God hath allowed you, and deprive not yourselves from His wondrous bounties. Render thanks and praise unto Him, and be of them that are truly thankful.” Gleanings From the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh, p. 276
But here is the thing.... I disagree with some other Baha'is regarding that passage because I think it just gives them an excuse to enjoy the things of this world. I am either going to take the Faith seriously or I am going to drop out. I am not a person to do things halfway. I believe that Baha'is are being called to service but not enough Baha'is take that seriously and that is one reason the Faith has not grown more. Shoghi Effendi even said this:
"There is so much suffering, such a great and desperate need for a true remedy and the Bahá’ís should realize their sacred obligation is to deliver the Message to their fellowmen at once, and on as large a scale as possible. If they fail to do so, they are really partly responsible for prolonging the agony of humanity."
(From a letter written on behalf of Shoghi Effendi to an individual believer, December 18, 1943)
Let me make this clear. I do not hate God because I have to give up any worldly desires because I do not have any worldly desires. Is my love for my cats and all animals a worldly desire? I don't think so. If and when I hate God it is because a cat dies and I believe it is a test from God or I believe that it is God's fault because God created animals with mortal bodies; but is this just distorted thinking? I got the idea about the "tests" from my brother who is a Baha'i and other Baha'is, but is it really God doing this to me, or is it just life? I think it is just life and the thing is that after a few days of being angry at God because another cat dies and screaming at Him "I hate you" I settle back down into my normal stance -- "I don't love you God, I just don't feel anything for you, but I believe you exist because of Baha'u'llah." I do not love Baha'u'llah but I believe Him and I revere Him, but I never hate Him because after all, He did not create this world of suffering.I don't believe or trust any idea or concept of a God. I'll listen and then evaluate. I'll watch and see how the believers actually live their lives and how far they are willing to commit to their God.
So what are you going to do? Keep hating God or detach yourself from all your worldly desires and trust God. I hope you choose God. I'd like to see how it turns out. If bad, I'll keep hating God. If good, I'll think... TB did it, maybe I should let go and trust him too. But then, what's worse... what if there's just a bigger test after that? Good %&^*ing luck TB.
I do trust God, I just do not love God, so I hope that helps you. In my heart and mind, I know God is benevolent and wants what is in our best interests because of what is in the Bible and because of what Baha'u'llah wrote about God.... But obviously I have issues with God to work through, such as why God allows so much suffering. Maybe we can work through some of these issues together if you are game.