Why do attractive women exist ?

[Massimo2002]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

 

[JustGeorge]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

Are you asking if young and attractive women are actually human, with their own aspirations, thoughts, opinions, and personalities?

(It's late, I want to make sure I'm understanding correctly.)

 

[Massimo2002]

Are you asking if young and attractive women are actually human, with their own aspirations, thoughts, opinions, and personalities?

(It's late, I want to make sure I'm understanding correctly.)

No I'm asking if I can view them that way instead of as sexual objects.

 

[Esteban X]

No I'm asking if I can view them that way instead of as sexual objects.

Try talking to them. You may find, as I have done, that a physically average looking woman becomes more attractive when she shows she has thoughts and opinions..

 

[Altfish]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

Darwinian evolution.

 

[SalixIncendium]

Attractive women exist because of genetics.

Male sexual attraction to the female of any species is necessary for procreation and survival of the species. Humans are no exception.

That said, the female of the human species is, indeed, a real human being with feelings and emotions quite similar to your own.

 

[rocala]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

When I first started reading your posts my general feeling was that here is a man who is very lonely and maybe hitting the self pity rather hard.
Reading your latest post, it seems to me that you have taken this to an an entirely different level now.

 

[Audie]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

I know by how someone looks at me, but you
dont know yourself?

 

[PearlSeeker]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

Sexual attraction can be very strong but it's unethical to reduce a human person to an object.

"Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of any other, never merely as a means to an end, but always at the same time as an end." (Immanuel Kant)

 

[ChristineM]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

Same reason handsome men exist genetics.

Maybe if you stopped thinking of them as sex objects but rather as human beings you may stand a better chance of scoring sex object attractive woman.

 

[PearlSeeker]

No I'm asking if I can view them that way instead of as sexual objects.

Yes, you can because you are a human being capable of love and respect. I think you should focus also on other aspects of life and relationship... and quit harmful habits like watching porn (if you happen to do it).

Some tips:

13 Ways to Overcome Lust - wikiHow

It's completely normal to experience lust, or sexual desire. Your feelings might be focused on a particular person, or you might be drawn to activities like masturbating or watching pornography. But sometimes, these desires can be...

www.wikihow.com

 

[JustGeorge]

No I'm asking if I can view them that way instead of as sexual objects.

Can you?

You should view them as people, not objects.

Because that's what they are... people, not things. If you cannot drop that mindset, this problem(because it really is a problem) is going to cause you much grief in the long run.

 

[Kathryn]

We can't help the skin we are born in. We can't really help the looks we have or don't have. You should look beyond those and look for qualities that are other than looks.

 

[Revoltingest]

Same reason handsome men exist genetics.

And the rest of us men too.

 

[wellwisher]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

The male brain is more wired front to back; visual center. The female brain is more wired side to side; verbal center. Pretty girls pander to the visual nature of the males. While charming men do this with their voice and wit to pander to the audio centers of women.

Women have more body fat, which is needed for the extras energy supply for potential pregnancy. Men tend to have less. In terms of the surface tension effect of water and oil, the higher female fat content gives the female body have more surface tension and curvature. The male body has less surface tension is less curvaceous. These difference are there to make it easy for the simple brain to find the correct sex for procreation. This seems more confused if you are Liberal and feminized.

Women go that extra effort to become even more visually attractive with make-up, fashion, hair style and color, body language, thereby enhancing their appeal. Men do the same with verbal make up; sweet little lies and exaggerations. Both fall for it.

There are also young and attractive women who need very little artificial enhancement, since 100% natural is good enough. This is more primal and less manufactured appeal, inducing more of an inner self desire and less ego-centric desire. The same for charming young males. The more the desired is ego-centric the more confused it can get due to will and choice, instead of instinctive compulsion.

 

[Kathryn]

The male brain is more wired front to back; visual center. The female brain is more wired side to side; verbal center. Pretty girls pander to the visual nature of the males. While charming men do this with their voice and wit to pander to the audio centers of women.

Women have more body fat, which is needed for the extras energy supply for potential pregnancy. Men tend to have less. In terms of the surface tension effect of water and oil, the higher female fat content gives the female body have more surface tension and curvature. The male body has less surface tension is less curvaceous. These difference are there to make it easy for the simple brain to find the correct sex for procreation. This seems more confused if you are Liberal and feminized.

Women go that extra effort to become even more visually attractive with make-up, fashion, hair style and color, body language, thereby enhancing their appeal. Men do the same with verbal make up; sweet little lies and exaggerations. Both fall for it.

There are also young and attractive women who need very little artificial enhancement, since 100% natural is good enough. This is more primal and less manufactured appeal, inducing more of an inner self desire and less ego-centric desire. The same for charming young males. The more the desired is ego-centric the more confused it can get due to will and choice, instead of instinctive compulsion.

Damn straight.

 

[PearlSeeker]

Same reason handsome men exist genetics.

Some people say: women are beautiful but men are just a little better looking than monkeys.

 

[JustGeorge]

Some people say: women are beautiful but men are just a little better looking than monkeys.

Well, that would depend on what you like looking at!

 

[Eddi]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

So basically you are not sure that women are real people with their own minds and souls, as opposed to sex objects made for the gratification of men????

 

[ChristineM]

Some people say: women are beautiful but men are just a little better looking than monkeys.

Some people are entitled to their opinion but I've found there are some beautiful (in the male sense) men out there.