Songbird
She rules her life like a bird in flight
It seems like you attract that kind. There are plenty of women and men who like it the other way around. Trust me.
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Why does height matter and should it?
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It seems like you attract that kind. There are plenty of women and men who like it the other way around. Trust me.
Songbird
She rules her life like a bird in flight
It's the opposite, love. Truly confident people have more ability to be sensitive.
There's a whoooole world of nuance you'll encounter as you get older, and it's kind of amazing.
Kilgore Trout
Misanthropic Humanist
Indeed, I've never met anyone with real confidence, who also wasn't very empathetic and sensitive as well.
Yeah, did you know the 100 Grand Bar used to be called the $100,000 Dollar Bar? The wonderment never ceases.
Songbird
She rules her life like a bird in flight
All I know is when deciding on a long-term mate, most physical traits fall away as the reality of daily life demands a partner whose compatibility depends on personality traits.
As a man I would be interested in talking about how the height of women effects a mans decision.
Do males find shorter or taller woman attractive does it matter. In most relationships I know the male is always taller than the woman.
I find it a bit interesting that a thread on male height turned into a chat about male and female dominance/submission.
I think it may be true that a number of women enjoy the male to take the lead sexually. Some like it the other way around, and many like to switch. I find confidence and assertiveness in a man to be really important.
As for confidence/sensitivity, I think confidence is a big advantage for true and sustained sensitivity. It seems to me that most people who I find to be truly confident, are nice and caring people, and attuned to others' feelings. Those that display confidence but are not really so, may instead be aggressive or lacking in empathy, or have other weak points. A person who has a lot, can give a lot. A person who doesn't have much, feels they must protect what they have.
I think it may be true that a number of women enjoy the male to take the lead sexually. Some like it the other way around, and many like to switch. I find confidence and assertiveness in a man to be really important.
As for confidence/sensitivity, I think confidence is a big advantage for true and sustained sensitivity. It seems to me that most people who I find to be truly confident, are nice and caring people, and attuned to others' feelings. Those that display confidence but are not really so, may instead be aggressive or lacking in empathy, or have other weak points. A person who has a lot, can give a lot. A person who doesn't have much, feels they must protect what they have.
Terrywoodenpic
Oldest Heretic
I would say you have that right.
Kathryn
It was on fire when I laid down on it.
Very interesting thread.
First - on the height thing: Most heterosexual women I know (the vast majority in fact) much prefer their mate to be taller than they are, and larger in general.
Just yesterday I was walking into Lowes and I saw a couple standing next to a truck. The woman was leaning against the truck and the man was leaning over her - they were obviously flirting and/or intimate. Immediately the thing that struck me is that she was a good 6 inches taller than him - and probably outweighed him by 50 pounds. He was very short and very trim and fit, and she was tall and overweight. I clearly thought "Wow, that's a weird looking couple - they don't seem to go together."
My stepson is very athletic - and very short for an 18 year old, coming in at about 5'4". Though my husband is 5'11", my stepson's mother is only about 5'2". He absolutely hates his height, or lack thereof. He also only dates tiny, petite girls. The sad thing is, he hates his height and considers it an outright handicap - and yet he will probably marry someone even smaller than himself and have tiny kids, passing onto them the very trait he hates about himself.
He's an honor student and an award winning athlete, as well as very good looking, polite and witty, and yet all this is undermined, in his mind, by his lack of stature. And people are SO insensitive to this insecurity of his - I was reading the notes in his school annual and so many guys AND girls commented about his shortness. People often call him "Little Robert," and I know he hates that. I wonder why people feel compelled to point this out. I mean, I know why GUYS would do it - out of a sense of competition. But why would girls harp on it as well?
As for the submissive woman thing - I believe that's generally true, to an extent. Personally, I LOVE being submissive sexually - but only to an honorable man with good character, and in a monogamous relationship. Oh - and he has to be taller than me.
And I do NOT like being slapped around, or treated so roughly during sex that I get bruised. NO WAY. That would be a definite turn off, and there was never a time in my life that I would have liked that. I don't think that's sick or weird, it's just absolutely not my style. I also DETEST being called derogatory terms in bed. I pity the fool that tries that **** on me.
I'm all about power and I love me some "dirty talk" in the right setting from the right person, but I especially don't like pretending like the man is forcing me against my will, or being called insulting names. Could have a lot to do with being raped violently when I was a teenager.
I've had a lot of discussions about sexual preferences with a lot of women in my life, and I know that some women like that, but I also know that a lot of women DON'T. So - try that at your own risk.
GeneCosta, you're probably be running into that sort of preference more often because you're attracted to, and attracting, women who prefer that, and that's OK. To each his own. Just proceed with caution, and know that some women really DON'T like being roughed up to the extent that they are bruised or experience actual pain during sex. And just as importantly, some women are VERY turned off - immediately - like a light switch - by being called derogatory terms while having sex.
I'm attracted to men who are powerful and tall, with broad shoulders and chiseled features, who also have careers which require them to be "macho and powerful" - and I'm 5'8" and love, love, LOVE to wear stilletos and other high heels - and I prefer my mate to be taller than me even when I'm wearing heels - so I HAVE to "go tall."
And here's another oddity, since we're talking about height in relationships. I mentioned that my husband is 5'11" - well, when I wear 3" heels (a common occurance since I have a professional job and dress "up" most days) I look him dead in the eye, and he really doesn't like that much. When I wear my tallest heels, he puts up with it, but will sigh as we're walking out the door and say something like, "Damn, there you go again in those tall shoes." He MUCH prefers to be taller than me, when we're dressed as well as when we're naked - moreso than I prefer it. He has no preference when I dress for work, but if we're going somewhere together, especially on a romantic date, I know he'd rather me wear shorter heels (so I usually do).
First - on the height thing: Most heterosexual women I know (the vast majority in fact) much prefer their mate to be taller than they are, and larger in general.
Just yesterday I was walking into Lowes and I saw a couple standing next to a truck. The woman was leaning against the truck and the man was leaning over her - they were obviously flirting and/or intimate. Immediately the thing that struck me is that she was a good 6 inches taller than him - and probably outweighed him by 50 pounds. He was very short and very trim and fit, and she was tall and overweight. I clearly thought "Wow, that's a weird looking couple - they don't seem to go together."
My stepson is very athletic - and very short for an 18 year old, coming in at about 5'4". Though my husband is 5'11", my stepson's mother is only about 5'2". He absolutely hates his height, or lack thereof. He also only dates tiny, petite girls. The sad thing is, he hates his height and considers it an outright handicap - and yet he will probably marry someone even smaller than himself and have tiny kids, passing onto them the very trait he hates about himself.
He's an honor student and an award winning athlete, as well as very good looking, polite and witty, and yet all this is undermined, in his mind, by his lack of stature. And people are SO insensitive to this insecurity of his - I was reading the notes in his school annual and so many guys AND girls commented about his shortness. People often call him "Little Robert," and I know he hates that. I wonder why people feel compelled to point this out. I mean, I know why GUYS would do it - out of a sense of competition. But why would girls harp on it as well?
As for the submissive woman thing - I believe that's generally true, to an extent. Personally, I LOVE being submissive sexually - but only to an honorable man with good character, and in a monogamous relationship. Oh - and he has to be taller than me.
And I do NOT like being slapped around, or treated so roughly during sex that I get bruised. NO WAY. That would be a definite turn off, and there was never a time in my life that I would have liked that. I don't think that's sick or weird, it's just absolutely not my style. I also DETEST being called derogatory terms in bed. I pity the fool that tries that **** on me.
I'm all about power and I love me some "dirty talk" in the right setting from the right person, but I especially don't like pretending like the man is forcing me against my will, or being called insulting names. Could have a lot to do with being raped violently when I was a teenager.
I've had a lot of discussions about sexual preferences with a lot of women in my life, and I know that some women like that, but I also know that a lot of women DON'T. So - try that at your own risk.
GeneCosta, you're probably be running into that sort of preference more often because you're attracted to, and attracting, women who prefer that, and that's OK. To each his own. Just proceed with caution, and know that some women really DON'T like being roughed up to the extent that they are bruised or experience actual pain during sex. And just as importantly, some women are VERY turned off - immediately - like a light switch - by being called derogatory terms while having sex.
I'm attracted to men who are powerful and tall, with broad shoulders and chiseled features, who also have careers which require them to be "macho and powerful" - and I'm 5'8" and love, love, LOVE to wear stilletos and other high heels - and I prefer my mate to be taller than me even when I'm wearing heels - so I HAVE to "go tall."
And here's another oddity, since we're talking about height in relationships. I mentioned that my husband is 5'11" - well, when I wear 3" heels (a common occurance since I have a professional job and dress "up" most days) I look him dead in the eye, and he really doesn't like that much. When I wear my tallest heels, he puts up with it, but will sigh as we're walking out the door and say something like, "Damn, there you go again in those tall shoes." He MUCH prefers to be taller than me, when we're dressed as well as when we're naked - moreso than I prefer it. He has no preference when I dress for work, but if we're going somewhere together, especially on a romantic date, I know he'd rather me wear shorter heels (so I usually do).
Songbird
She rules her life like a bird in flight
That's an interesting thought. I wonder if there are studies about it.
Songbird
She rules her life like a bird in flight
Desert Snake
Veteran Member
I haven't read any study that back up these claims.
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Neither of you will get my attention.....oh, you mean from women.
They seem on roughly equal footing.
I suggest being tall, handsome & wealthy.
The tall man may have better luck with casual sex, but the very wealthy man will be better able to attract women looking for a relationship.
But even a tall or wealthy man must have other attractive qualities. I have been pursued by very wealthy men and have had no interest in them due to lack of physical attraction. For me there has to be both personality and attraction, but many women can 'become' physically attracted to a wealthy man.
Kilgore Trout
Misanthropic Humanist
What I really want is a big, tall women to smack me around a bit.
Well, I don't really want it, but I probably need it.
Well, I don't really want it, but I probably need it.
Actually this is a veiled invitation.
Erebus
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Aside from wanting to feel protected I imagine a lot of women like their man to want to protect them, something a lot of men are inclined to do for a woman smaller than them (and thus it helps if a man is tall anyway). I'm just making an educated guess here of course as I personally get an overwhelming urge to "protect" petite women