I’m not saying that we should; just that if I’m not able to respect someone’s beliefs, then I’m not going to respect their beliefs.
I’m not talking about taking away anyone’s legal rights (though it would be nice if I didn’t have to subsidize religion). I’m fine with letting people believe as they wish; it’s just that if those beliefs cross a certain line, I certainly won’t be praising those beliefs, which leaves me with either not engaging with the beliefs at all or engaging with them in a negative way.
I can be friendly enough in the context of whatever I’m doing - I know plenty of very religious people through my volunteering and we get along fine. There’s still a difference between “getting along fine” and friendship, though. Religion is often central to a person’s life, so not engaging with it can often mean not being able to get close enough for a friendship.
And it’s not like this is a one-way thing on my part, either. The people around me can see that I don’t bow my head with everyone else for grace at a banquet, that I don’t write anything about “prayers” in office sympathy cards, that I don’t say things like “thank God,” etc. I’m not exactly inundated with invitations to social events from heavily religious people.
Since some sects and cults within a religion are false and dangerous, it is a good thing some people call them out for what they are. But, where do we draw the line as to where a religion stops being false and dangerous? Baha'is themselves have pointed out the "false" beliefs Christians hold. Protestants point out the false beliefs Catholics hold, along with every other religion in the world.
I question the Baha'i's belief in a progression of spiritual knowledge that is supposedly from a one true God... that can be seen and traced through all the major religions. But all the major religions have contradictory beliefs? But besides them, Baha'is also believe no people were left without guidance. But some religions believed in many gods, and that those gods had to be appeased, sometimes by human sacrifice. So where is the one true God in those sorts of beliefs?
Someone I don't see mentioned much is Joseph Campbell. The little I've seen of him in his TV shows, it seems like he looks more at how the beliefs of a people fit into their particular culture. But not as having come from a God, but more how it came from those people and how it made sense of their world and helped keep them together as a people. So do we believe in the religion of some tribal society as being true? Most of us don't. We see it as mythology and superstition... but it worked and made sense to those people for hundreds of years. Until, usually, European colonial powers took over their land and "taught" them Christianity. Which, of course, was taught as being the absolute truth. With things like Jesus being part of a Trinity.
Now Baha'is have to go to those tribal people in the different countries and tell them that the belief that Jesus is God, and that he physically rose from the dead, are false... and are superstitious beliefs held only by Christians. So where is the "respect" in that?
And, since we have Hindus in this thread also. Same thing, Christians came to India and took over and told them that their beliefs were wrong. That they are following a false religion. That they need Jesus and Jesus only. But now the Baha'is come in and tell them "no". Their old Hindu beliefs were true and what the Christians told them is wrong. Yet, somehow, they say that Christians are correct also... but only in the "original" form? Which got changed by the followers of Jesus into what is called Christianity today. And I don't think Baha'is believe any of them to be correct, even the LDS, even though they'll say nice things about them. But, ultimately, do Baha'is believe the Book of Mormon? I don't think so. And is not telling a religion how they really feel respect?
But the same thing with Hinduism. With all those things, the Vedas, Upanishads, the Bhagavad Gita, and I'm sure many other Sacred Scriptures... what do Baha'is believe is "true" Hinduism? One thing for sure, they don't believe in the reincarnation beliefs. So where is the respect? They aren't taking the teaching of any religion and accepting them as truth. And in fact, they are saying that many of the main teachings of most all religions are false. And it may be. So why does a religion that believe it is the only one that is right need to study the other religions? Part of it is to know how to guide the people out of those old false beliefs into the new religion that has the real truth form God.
So, although I like much of what the Baha'i Faith teaches, and I really like and appreciate Adrian's threads and yes, I really like Tony too, I agree with you and others like Vinayaka for your ability to see beyond appearances and read between the lines of what people are saying.