Without Love

[Fool]

without the physical touch of compassion, of nurturing, could we exist? thrive?


have you hugged anyone, touched anyone with kindness in the last week?

has anyone hugged, touched you with kindness in the last week?


you get to keep what you gave away. when i hug another as self i am hugging self.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Yeah, I have someone to have physical intimacy with. They're the only person I hug and such. I don't like being touched by strangers. A coworker last week kept hovering over me and touching me. I was very uncomfortable.

 

[Nakosis]

Yeah, I have someone to have physical intimacy with. They're the only person I hug and such. I don't like being touched by strangers. A coworker last week kept hovering over me and touching me. I was very uncomfortable.

Me too.
My parents never hugged me, told me they loved me or showed any affection. I didn't think anything about at the time but I assume that is why I am uncomfortable about these things.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Me too.
My parents never hugged me, told me they loved me or showed any affection. I didn't think anything about at the time but I assume that is why I am uncomfortable about these things.

My mom was the only relative who showed me affection. Most of the rest were very abusive.

 

[MNoBody]

most people receive inadequate intimacy as a regular course, just the way life goes, and we are all wounded by this hardness in life IMO... which probably helps explain all the weird coping mechanisms people develop.
Now it is even more separated..... you need people and the human touch, yet now it has a worry like getting AIDS attached to it....what could go wrong?

 

[sun rise]

have you hugged anyone, touched anyone with kindness in the last week?

In the last week with COVID around? That would be stupid except for my wife and we've done so.

 

[Salty Booger]

"Hug someone and tell them you love them."
--Someone I met online

 

[stvdv]

without the physical touch of compassion, of nurturing, could we exist? thrive?

Of course we could thrive, as we are Premaswarupalara, meaning "embodiment of Divine Love"

 

[Mock Turtle]

Me too.
My parents never hugged me, told me they loved me or showed any affection. I didn't think anything about at the time but I assume that is why I am uncomfortable about these things.

Similarly here from what I recollect as a child. I knew my mother loved me, but there was little hugging, and hardly anything like the affection we commonly see now with regards children. Perhaps coming from just after WWII, and of that generation (and before). This has been in the news recently, and might account for how such might affect childhood development:

The University of Hertfordshire: The importance of a loving touch

It's possible that this might have contributed to my insecurities and tendencies to avoidance later in life but I haven't looked at it properly so as to know.