Everyone suffers but clearly everyone does not suffer equally. As adults we are responsible for how we deal with our suffering unless we are mentally impaired in some way
We agree on this. Because how is anyone able to measure suffering except for their own? And for people with paranoid schizophrenia who must rely on medicines to help control their suffering, there is a special place in heaven for them.
Still, there are the people without severe mental disabilities who will seek out ways to alleviate their own suffering and their are those people who will wallow in their suffering believing there is no way out and who almost are dependent on their suffering as an excuse to avoid the unpleasant circumstances in their lives. We all have unpleasant experiences. Every human experiences painful happenings. I agree that those suffering starvation, crime, dreadful living conditions, natural disasters, death and disease suffer more than most, but somehow, many of these people find a way to accept their suffering and still find a purpose for carrying on. Some can't find a way and end their lives themselves. No one is blaming them for not being able to find a way.
But for those with the mental capacities and secure life necessities, complaining about suffering in the form of percieved injustices or feelings that they cannot do anything about what they believe are wrongs brought upon them by something or someone other than themselves just seems childish, selfish, and certainly not deserving of sympathy. Especially when they refuse to examine possibilities that may help them elevate their understanding of what suffering truly is and that they are not special in their suffering and refuse to help their own conditions of non understanding.
A person with unlimited resources, clear mental capacities, good heath and an ability if they choose, to find ways of reducing their own suffering but won't because they are attached to suffering as an excuse to feel self pity, does not deserve sympathy, as I see it.
There are plenty of sufferers who deserve sympathy. Just not the ones who have it all yet refuse to take the responsibility of changing their ways of thinking to alleviate their own suffering and instead use it as an excuse not to grow or be responsible for their own lives, feelings or actions. There is no one else to save ourselves from our percieved mentally uncomfortable troubles, barring incapacitating mental illness, except ourselves. It is not arrogance, it is progress as I see it.
Hope this makes sense to you. I really don't know how else to explain it.