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I've been discussing my motives with someone on why I've been wanting to donate a kidney. I have not made up my mind on if i will or not. But it'd help to discuss in depth my motives in a thread. It'll help me sort my thoughts. So here are some...
*it'll extend a life and vastly improve a person's quality of life for me to give them my kidney. This is a huge motive. I can't stress how big of a motive.
*I find medical stuff fascinating and as a person who worships a goddess of health it is a big deal to improve someone else's.
*I like the feeling of helping others
*there's an organ shortage
*Im already an organ donor on my license. But living donation has benefits donation after death dont have.
*if i go into kidney failure I'll then be at the top of the list for a transplant.
*it's not as risky as you might think. There is a lot of risk dont get me wrong. A lot. But you can live a long healthy life with one kidney. There's a very low chance of death only like .05% if i recall correctly(I dont feel like looking up the exact stat right now but can if asked. Everywhere ive read tho it's been low the death rate)
*I got rejected to donate bone marrow cuz I am on ssi and have depression. I dont plan on staying on ssi but it was a huge blow for me to get rejected i was looking very much forward to it. I don't know why exactly but something in me was very very much willing to go through with it even if it meant getting drilled in the hip. It was almost like grief the disappointment was. This is somewhat a con- I might not be able to handle if i got rejected from donating a kidney. But it's also a plus- I know I'd be ok donating an organ i already was willing to with bone marrow. I already was willing to risk a ton to save a life. I knew the risks and was still willing. I know my feelings would be similar trying to donate a kidney.
* I've heard stories of folk needing a kidney. It's a huge deal. I'd love to help. Kidney failure...its rough.
*Maybe a little guilt even if I dont want to acknowledge that as a motive. it's very small of an impact if it's there. But i have to be honest- it may be a small motive and it's not a good one. You never want to give up an organ over guilt. But I did just get rejected from bone marrow donation. Whether I like it or not there may be some feelings i havent processed from that. All the more reason to wait and not make a decision now.
*Dialysis sucks.
*it's hell to get a transplant. They can go through it I can go through a little bit of pain
Some cons...
*again could be ineligible to donate. That'll affect my emotions and possibly mental health
* someone in my family may later need a kidney
*Diabetes runs in my family. That can affect the kidneys.
*its a toll on mental health. Lots of emotions not all are good.
*the person i donate to their body might reject the kidney
*I could die even if the risk is small.
*some folk do get short term physical consequences from it.
*wont be able to work while recovering.
*it's a toll on physical health at least short term. Havent yet looked too far into long term other then it doesn't decrease quality of life. I already get sick constantly due to working at daycare. I dont know if my physical health would be up to it.
*it's painful
These are just some of my thoughts. Please ask questions if you have any or think any would help me think. Ask anything you think I should consider. Write out stuff you think I should keep in mind while i think. I'm trying to sort my thoughts out on this thread. This is a big decision ill take at least a year to think on it.
*it'll extend a life and vastly improve a person's quality of life for me to give them my kidney. This is a huge motive. I can't stress how big of a motive.
*I find medical stuff fascinating and as a person who worships a goddess of health it is a big deal to improve someone else's.
*I like the feeling of helping others
*there's an organ shortage
*Im already an organ donor on my license. But living donation has benefits donation after death dont have.
*if i go into kidney failure I'll then be at the top of the list for a transplant.
*it's not as risky as you might think. There is a lot of risk dont get me wrong. A lot. But you can live a long healthy life with one kidney. There's a very low chance of death only like .05% if i recall correctly(I dont feel like looking up the exact stat right now but can if asked. Everywhere ive read tho it's been low the death rate)
*I got rejected to donate bone marrow cuz I am on ssi and have depression. I dont plan on staying on ssi but it was a huge blow for me to get rejected i was looking very much forward to it. I don't know why exactly but something in me was very very much willing to go through with it even if it meant getting drilled in the hip. It was almost like grief the disappointment was. This is somewhat a con- I might not be able to handle if i got rejected from donating a kidney. But it's also a plus- I know I'd be ok donating an organ i already was willing to with bone marrow. I already was willing to risk a ton to save a life. I knew the risks and was still willing. I know my feelings would be similar trying to donate a kidney.
* I've heard stories of folk needing a kidney. It's a huge deal. I'd love to help. Kidney failure...its rough.
*Maybe a little guilt even if I dont want to acknowledge that as a motive. it's very small of an impact if it's there. But i have to be honest- it may be a small motive and it's not a good one. You never want to give up an organ over guilt. But I did just get rejected from bone marrow donation. Whether I like it or not there may be some feelings i havent processed from that. All the more reason to wait and not make a decision now.
*Dialysis sucks.
*it's hell to get a transplant. They can go through it I can go through a little bit of pain
Some cons...
*again could be ineligible to donate. That'll affect my emotions and possibly mental health
* someone in my family may later need a kidney
*Diabetes runs in my family. That can affect the kidneys.
*its a toll on mental health. Lots of emotions not all are good.
*the person i donate to their body might reject the kidney
*I could die even if the risk is small.
*some folk do get short term physical consequences from it.
*wont be able to work while recovering.
*it's a toll on physical health at least short term. Havent yet looked too far into long term other then it doesn't decrease quality of life. I already get sick constantly due to working at daycare. I dont know if my physical health would be up to it.
*it's painful
These are just some of my thoughts. Please ask questions if you have any or think any would help me think. Ask anything you think I should consider. Write out stuff you think I should keep in mind while i think. I'm trying to sort my thoughts out on this thread. This is a big decision ill take at least a year to think on it.
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