there are natural gender traits present in the sexes which are noticeable both physically and mentally. all souls are seen without gender in the eyes of god ,but how one uses free will over your body and mind while observing and putting to practice gender responsibilities they have assigned...
they only prohibit a few animals strongly not to eat, camel, hare,pig ,and it is described with same disgust as idolatry. they also list other animals they own we can eat.
you are not responsible for the sins of others, i am not , and certainly god is not. god has given us a code of conduct to live by with free will. how is free will used for good or evil. thankfully god says there is a time that is coming where they are not going to allow evil to exist, it will...
Another main theme of the day of atonement are the actions and responsibilities of the high priest. he would put aside all his high clothing and wear simple linen, he did all the work of the temple that day, none of the levites could help. presentation of the blood in the holiest of holies...
with most full blown addictions ,outside help is needed. you might not be able to stop because it does not seem harmful, but any sexual immorality is first harmful to the individual being immoral.