Vanakkam,
"You CHOSE to be homosexual, YOU made that decision, it's YOUR fault if you are like this because THIS IS THE WAY you MADE IT"
*sigh*
No, it's not a choice. It... Just is. People are born like this, either they accept it, or they reject it, or they are so much repressed by extremists religious communities and/or families that they suffer all their life for not being allowed to accept themselves as they are.
I had NO idea what homosexuality was EVER and then some totally random high school day little Jaya looked at a beautiful girl, found her attractive and thought "I'd hit dat~"
And suddenly all clicked in her head. "But.. But I love dicks !", poor confused Jaya told herself. "... Well I guess I like boobs too"
And then she realized she was bisexual, shrugged and went on her way.
Fortunately little Jaya didn't had the horrible "education" some have, and had no problem accepting herself as bisexual. Her friends/teachers/whatever didn't give a damn too because they are respectuous of others beliefs and lives and aren't extremist idiots.
The end.
Aum Namah Shivaya
I found your post amusing. Thanks for sharing you story about little Jaya!
Regarding what appears to be the main topic, it seems posters are dividing into two distinct camps:
Camp #1 : People choose to be homosexual.
Camp #2 : People are born with their sexual preference.
I'm not sure that it is 100% either way in all cases. The brain has been shown to be fairly plastic (easily changed) and an entire host of environmental factors plays into our subconscious choices. That's one of the fascinating parts about being human. We think everything that isn't conscious is hard-wired, but I rather think (and there is a huge amount of research to support this) that most of our decisions are influenced strongly by subconscious factors and our subconscious is a strange, scary quagmire of our accumulated experiences, genetics, dreams, etc.
In practical language, I have never liked dicks, and honestly, who
doesn't like boobs? But I'm not sure the experience is the same for boys and girls. Objectively, boys are lumpy and hairy, girls are somewhat prettier to look at considering the species as a whole.
Also, it seems in my society at least, homosexual and bisexual women are far, far less stigmatized than homosexual men. That's because heterosexual men in our country are classically, pitifully insecure and don't like even the mention that they might be gay. So could that stigma influence the "choices" people make, or how they choose to view themselves?
So to say one is just "born that way" is
probably true of most gay men and women. A gay person probably doesn't remember making a conscious decision to like girls or boys. However, especially for bisexuals, it's not clear exactly that
everyone is just "born that way." For example, I identify with being heterosexual but I rather suspect that if I were a girl, I would be attracted to other girls. I just tend to be an aesthetic purist and in my eyes women are (on the average) a lot prettier than men.
tldr; boys are hairy and lump, girls are (more often) cute, and being gay is probably not 100% genetic. (more like 95%, probably) And being bisexual just seems like a good idea if you're a girl.